Well, is a little complicated in respect of issues like this cause you never know whats in the mind of both parties...some men and women love to have their kids together as couple not stepping in as step dad or mum. I am a single father and I understand it all, looking for someone that will love me and my kid.

It's not fear men aren't scared of women with children. It's like this, in a relatively normal relationship a man and a woman meet,get together,committ to each other,get married,get a house,have kids, and all that good stuff. When a woman allready has children then she takes away priority from developing a relationship and puts her kids first(the way it should be). This means that any man will never be able to develop a solid relationship with a woman who has a kid so why should he bother? The sex is usually good though and BTW I would not ever date a woman with children,but I will have sex with one.

A man cant be a scared of a lady maybe they are ashame of woman

I think that not all men are afraid of. Woman with kids, ifs more or less a fear of rejection from the kiss. I know for myself If I am dating someone with children, not only do I need to put a good foot forward with her but her family as well and to us guys that can be overwhelming. Give us Tim's to warm up first don't bombard us by having us meet the troops too soon.

I will speak from personal experience.....
It's a lot to deal with, Her, Them , Him
There is a very fine line for a guy to balance on and I'll bet that most don't want to deal with it

As a mom of an almost 7 yr old son. Its because its another aspect to take into consideration in a relationship. And becuase alot of women are looking for someone to "take care of them and their child", OR someone to play daddy.

When I met someone I make sure they know up front, my son and I are a packaged deal. However we will spend time without my son involved first, just to make sure it will actually last some time.

REALLY? Do you ACTUALLY believe this?
"This means that any man will never be able to develop a solid relationship with a woman who has a kid so why should he bother?"


I think you need you broaden your horizons my friend. Just because I have a child DOES NOT Mean that I can't have a solid relationship with someone who is not his dad.
It just means that I will start a relationship , before he gets to be involved win my childs life. So my child doesn't get his feelings hurt if it doesn't work out.

simply because most men dont want commitment.i am sure that you are aware that most men will promise you everything ,to cut to the point,once thay have shagged you a few times thay move on.better to look 4 a man that also has children and is a good father to his /your children.i have 3 daughters one from my wifes previous relationship as far as i am concerned there all my daughters.my only regret is my wife cheated and left me 4 another man but the children all stayed with me.

Some of us do, but it just isn't out there....

I have a different view on this. When I was younger I dated many women with kids. Helped raise a few and was like a dad to a few as well. The problem lies in at some point the relationship breaks up and the guy "me " in these instances, ended up getting shafted. Why? Well in many cases I grew more attached to the kids then the actual woman I was with... Its easy to love and get attached to a child who would do anything for some male attention and for someone they look up to and respect.

See kids arent like the women we date.. they love unconditionally, and when they hug you, they mean it. So when the relationship ends, sometimes you end up with two broken hearts, instead of just the one. Also, since your not the biological father.. well you have no visitation rights, or say one way or the other.. your screwed.

my first wife was preg. when I met her. Didnt tell me till she started showing. Stayed with her and eventually married her. Was with her 5 years in all. Her daughter was literally like mine, as I raised her. A few years later when I found she was cheating I divorced her and had no rights at all to see my daughter,,who I raised for 3 years... She wouldnt let me visit her and her family basically put a shotgun to my face saying I wasnt the father and we were divorced....see where im going with this..? Also usually when you date a woman with kids..you have to deal with the biological daddy drama that comes with it.... Just my own reasons............. hope this helped.

well ye are deff not scary to me girls,i think im scaring girls off saying i have 2 kids on my profile and separated,i think its the same for guys to be honest,id have no problem meeting a girl separated or has kids or both,

Goes both ways. Some people see it as baggage or drama. The man or woman is not ready or responsible enough for kids or be in a relationship with someone who has kids. IMHO I feel someone like that wouldn't be a right fit for me because it would be hard for them to relate. For example going to a club has no interest to me but finding a girl that enjoys a trip to the zoo or park! Now that's more up my ally. After all if you're a single parent who comes first? 95% would say their kid(s)

I have one thing to say, it wouldn't scare me a bit. I have two boys ages 4 & 9. I love kids, and have since I can remember. Some guys are like that. You know the saying holds true, any boy can be a dad but it takes a man to be a father. So in refrence to the above, leave the boys alone, and find a real man.