I MYSELF ON THE OTHER HAND AM NOT SCARED OFF, I LOVE CHILDREN & UNFORTUNETLY AM UNABLE TO HAVE ANY OF MY OWN. IT SCARED ME FOR A WHILE TO THE POINT I COULD NOT EVEN HOLD A BABY I WOULD HAVE TO HAVE TO HAVE SOMEONE TAKE THE BABY FROM ME, I HAVE SINCE LEARNED TO ACCEPT IT & FORGIVE ME LADIES IF I AM SAYING THIS WRONG. BUT I AM LOOKING FOR THE READY MADE FAMILY... YET I AM NOT OUT TO STEP ON ANY FATHERS TOES BUT I AM WILLING TO TAKE THE RESPONSIBILITY OF BECOMEING A FATHER ROLL MODEL & IF MY MATE FINDS IT IN HER ABILITIES TO LET ME TAKE IT FURTHER THEN ILL BE RIGHT BY HER & HER CHILDRENS SIDE... SO AS FOR THIS TOPIC LADIES DONT BE DISCOURAGED THERE ARE MEN OUT HERE LOOKING FOR WOMEN W/KIDS

PAPARAZZO

Shhhhh no need to yell....

Not all men are like that really

some

don't want the responsibility
don't want a future of the other dad around forever
don't want anothers kids!!!

Ya can't really blame them!

Alot of men want to start their own families too
all fresh and new

I didn't date for a looong time cause I had 4 little ones and my life was devoted to them
felt like it wasn't right for them to see men come in and out of my life ya know!:

sometimes ya gotta put your dating life on hold to do what's best for the kids

I will not get involved with a man with little ones!

Been there
done that!!!

I would have to say its all in how one comes across.

Some would probably feel uncomfortable being part of someone else's childrens lives, while others would prefer to have children of their own.

I have never had children of my own, and at times I have had the notion that I would only date a woman with no children. But as I age, the thought of meeting someone with children, being part of a family, being the father or male role model sounds preety nice.

I am for one am not afraid of dating a single mom.

Ill tell you why some men are.

Three years ago I ment somone off this site, she has a daughter. Now mind you. I'm not the type to shy away from a women that have a child. For 9 months of talking on the phone, texting, meeting her. I thought I was with an honest person. To make this part short. I moved from cali to UT to be with her and to raise my son. She was 3 months prego when I moved out here. I now have a child with her that is going to be two in May. The day I moved out here two years ago. Was the day I was dropped like a bad habbit and didn't know she was getting back with her ex and planing this before I even moved out here.


So here it is, I'm stuck in UT away from everything I have known only to be raising my son with my ex that is in a relationship to where her boyfrind beats the hell out of her, drugs run through her hous. She hangs around people the beat on there other, people that are suicidal etc etc. All the while my son growing up seeing this. Were going through custody now. Other words, my worst nightirror has come true.


Now that you read this. I'm not saying all women that have a child are like this. But-99% of women that have a child are not done dealing with there issues with there ex that they have a child with, unless there child is a teen and years have gone by with the relationship. Until anyone has dealt with there issues, there will always be some type of attatchment to there ex knowing they have a new born or a yung child. Being on the net, most men do not want to go through the hell I'm going through right now. Other words. Your going to have to prove yourself to a man that is willing take on another mans child. And to be honest here. It take a hell of a man that to even consider this. I'm not saying give up, but you have your work cut out for you being that this is the net and that it's a man your looking for.

it dosn`t matter if you are a single mum so what it`s the person i`v had girlfreind`s how are single mum`s and it never afected the relasionship you have to get it in to your head the kid will all way`s come before you

One of my guy friends will only date women with kids. When I asked him why he said because you know they put out.

I personally don't think that but I couldn't help but laugh at how simpleminded people can be.

That is funny though!!

Ok first off I'm Not one of those Men! Thank goodness! Second off is the way you feel attracted to someone, "before" you find out they have kids. What's the difference? We are only human, be a man and stand up! Running backwards from someone with kids is Running from your self. I was in a relationship with someone that had 3 yes 3 kids and today they all keep in touch with me, now I'm not saying its an easy road right? But I fell for there mother and found out she had kids 3 did I say 3 right! Lol that never bothered me at all, we made it with some bumps but I survived we all did!! There are still Men out here that enjoy being with someone With kids. Maybe far and few, but in your journey to finding someone Great for (You and Your Children..) To hang with, be a best friend, or find out you Were meant to be together from the beginning! So Give the time allowed "take your time" for a soul mate to be introduced to all you Men and Woman that have children!! Happy Journey all!!!!

I knew when I left my husband I would probably never find another. I am 48 with a 9 year old son...Somehow I just knew no one would ever want to be with us. Most men think you want someone to support your child and thats not the case at all. He has a daddy!

i'm more scared of the pregnant women that haven't given birth yet.i think some become possessed

My ex fell in love with my son before he did me. Said the way I raised my son is what attracted him to me. We married when my oldest son was 2 & had another son together. Our marriage lasted 21 years before I took off & got involved with another man 2 weeks later. I've got to admit tho after his own son was born he forgot all about my oldest. At least it seemed that way.

I married twice, married a family both times. Wasn't a problem for me. I'm getting old enough that it's not as common an issue now, but I still don't think I'd have a problem with it if the next one came with a family, just seems a bit less likely LOL.

Looks like candy but it's shnot!

Well said, Gossipmom. I did the same. My kids were toddlers when I divorced. I had to put dating on hold for awhile. Now they are in their teens-woot-woot!!! And I did run into men that wanted more kids years ago, which I do not want to do at my age. I don't think I could date a dude with young kids at this point.

I guess........

try being a 48 yr old man with an 8 yr old son. its instant female repellant


but i wouldnt change it

Not that this is on topic, but I have no kids of my own and would really like to meet and date a single dad.

Good for you, Fetts! Bravo! You will attract the right woman for you, believe me. P.S. You sound like a devoted Dad. Nothing more appealing than that, am I right, ladies????

Totally right jlove