i love kids

I see this argument a lot, and while I'm not saying that is how you feel, or that it's necessarily wrong, but when you have a child, they do have to come first, at least on certain things, because they are children and cannot take care of themselves. For the men who fear this thing, but do want children of their own someday, that would still be an issue later on if you marry and have kids with a wife or significant other. The only difference is, the kids will be your own flesh and blood.

Sometimes I wonder about that, if it's some old remnant from our ape ancestors who might kill the infants of the females who were borne of another ape's seed. (And no, I'm certainly not saying that all men would kill their step-children, although I've heard of it happening before, quite frequently in the news lately.)

I do not know if single dads have this same stigma or not. I know some men say that single mothers seeking relationships are only looking for A. a father for their children or B. financial stability. This, I believe, could be another remnant from our ancient ancestors, where women seek and crave stability and they long for a mate that will help rear their children. Well, dead beats dads aside, many of us, while their exes might have made lousy husbands, a lot of them are still decent fathers and spend time with their kids and help with financial matters. And many single mothers also have jobs of their own. Would they like someone to help them out around the house, maybe? Well, sure. I've been divorced for awhile now, and sure, it can be tough, not merely raising kids, but just doing things around the house that used to be upkept by two people instead of one. But when two people get married or live together, sharing household responsibilities is just something people do. And think of it this way, if you're with a divorced or single mom, and the father IS in the child's life, then there's a good chance you will have some nights off every week with your lady for dating, romantic dinners, watching movies and coitus UNinterruptus, if you catch my meaning- something you wouldn't have if the kids were yours. ;)

hi,
actually woman are not scary with child, actually women s are very strong,but they are very possessive and emotionally attached with child.they never thought about them selves.a single woman can face every situation in life.she can handled any relationship with any men.but with child they are became emotionally weak.
every men looking for women weak point for getting emotional attachment.and this is very true that every woman have a weak point is her own child.
from men side they are also possessive about child.but not so much as a mother.so you also get men who are not interested in you,who is interested in child.

Same reason a single dad is scary to some women. I think different people have different reasons though.

If your child's dad wasn't good enough for you, what's the guarantee that i'll be? A guy stands the risk of getting used and dumped.

well it works both ways im a dad to my beautiful daughters 18 and 16 ....i gave them and my ex everything until one day while workin away i get the call ...im with someone eles and i dont love you anymore ....but the bloke she went with dont want anything to do with my girls ....good for me but bad for them cuz there mum has abandoned them ...makes life very difficult ....so what im saying is how can a mim drop her kids like that my youngest text me this morning saying she aint seen or heard from her mother in like 4 weeks ...so women can be real nasty and i gotta be real careful now cuz i aint gonna get hurt like that ever again ...(i was with her for 20 years )

A lot of men do this, too. Men can be very nasty, as well.

Not all men feel that way. I am a father of 4 and I can say that it is something that single dads experience also. I think that if a person (male or female) is put off by the fact that someone has children, then that is very telling and they are usually not someone the parent should have any interest in anyway. I know that if I meet a woman and she is turned off by the fact that I have kids, she isn't someone I'd be interested in and it's better to find that out from the beginning. I think it is very important that 2 people's priorities align and if not, they simply aren't a match. It really isn't a rejection of the individual, but of their values. Better to dodge that bullet from the outset.

Wow, I posted in here a while back but just read through this again. A lot of guys here with set notions about women with kids basing everything, it seems, on one or two experiences. Certainly I've seen women with issues or trying to find a "dad". But the majority just want a new relationship just like the rest of us.

As for why some men don't want to date women with kids, every guy here who feels that way it seems their reason is slightly different. There are probably as many reasons as there are men who don't want to date "mom's". And of course there will be the few who won't admit it but they don't want the responsibility that comes with marrying a family.

I'd be more than happy to, of course at my age most of the women I'm interested in have grown kids so it's not an issue. But no way would that stop me if it were otherwise.

There is a like and dislike for everything. Be proud of your situation and if they go running..you don't want or need that anyway. I would spend less time thinking about it negatively. Be up front and you will know what you need to know before any real feelings come into play. GL

good one what you said is very true i would like to know you more about you where are you from and what happend in you live i would like to know

agree with u. Surely - in that case she desire only for companionship

i have 2 kids but mother and i are not together.i love kids.so it all depends on the situation.i beieive if you dont have a spot in your heart for kids than you dont have much of a heart no matter whos kids they are.there are guys uot there that dosent have a problem dateing women with kids.im proof

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Single moms don't scare me. I get along well with children.

In my experience, the guy wants to feel like HE IS THERE FOR YOU.

The being there for the kid is something he does for his love OF YOU.

It's secondary to your relationship with him even if he puts the kid

first.

Nobody but nobody wants to be slotted in because someone else wants

a second parent for their kids.

Everybody wants to feel like their mate IS IN IT FOR THEM ALONE.

If he happens to be a good step daddy, then fine.

well woman with a kidd dosent scare mei would like to find one

Guess I got lucky when I married the second time.. I had 4 kids, ages 14 thru 17 and he had 3 kids, 8- 19.... we accepted each others kids like they were our own..He did things for my kids their own father wouldn't.. BTW.. this was a man I had known and was friends with for 25 yrs before we married...

Most men are scare because he feel that woman with kids will not give enough attention , some body will share this with him and we are the men selfish ,we need all our women to be only for us , the kids inside us refused to share this love with other kids specialy when they are not his kids