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| Topic: If your signifigant other cheated on you..... | |
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If I was cheated on, I would take a long hard look in the mirror. Maybe I was doing something totally wrong in the relationship and it was my fault. If that was the case, I would be willing to work it out. yea, but that doesnt give anyone a rightful excuse to cheat Ya. I don't think so either. However, maybe I was not satisfying her. Maybe I was not giving her the attention she needed and I was not romantic enough. I would feel accountable for those reasons and at least listen, talk, repair the relationship perhaps. There is never really an excuse for breaking a commitment of anykind. spot on. 
while no one is accountable for another person's actions, i do believe that we are sometimes catapulted into committing deeds based on prior events. sort of like a cause and effect scenario. much in the same way that some of you are indicating he'd lose his balls and pecker if he cheated. cause and effect. 
the difference in being able to let go and forgive and forget is whether the action was done with intent to hurt me. |
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would you forgive them and accept them back? I would quickly help them put their belongings out in the front yard! Who needs to pack everything into boxes ! Once a dawg always a dawg ! If she cheats, she has already made the decision. and I am clearly NOT what she wanted or needed. 
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would you forgive them and accept them back? I'D BE SOOOOOOOOO GONE! |
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would you forgive them and accept them back? I forgave and took them back, they did it again, I forgave and DID not take them back... Everyone makes mistakes, true sincere apologies means to NOT repeat those mistakes... We are friends but nothing more now... |
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He would be gone because I deserve better!
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Matthew 5:30
"And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell." |
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would you forgive them and accept them back? Nope, if they are unhappy where they are then it is time for them to move on. If they don't give me the respect and try to make things work before stepping out then they need to keep walking. The way I see it they cheat I help them move on by walking the opposite way and not looking back... 
But to add I do believe in forgiving them in order to move on. I may not forget what they did but one must learn to forgive and leave the past in the past.. |
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Matthew 5:30 "And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell." Wanking jokes aside, it would depend on the person who cheated on me and the scale of the cheating. Things will happen from time-to-time, it needn't be the end of the world. |
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I don't allow anyone in my life that has betrayed me. There are no second chances. Once a person decides to be selfish then I don’t care to be involved with them.
I am skeptical of people who reunite with cheaters. It seems they don't respect themselves and they reward others for bad behavior (by taking back a cheating ex). 
Games, drama, stupidity and selfishness are not suitable characteristics. |
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I don't allow anyone in my life that has betrayed me. There are no second chances. Once a person decides to be selfish then I don’t care to be involved with them. I am skeptical of people who reunite with cheaters. It seems they don't respect themselves and they reward others for bad behavior (by taking back a cheating ex).
Games, drama, stupidity and selfishness are not suitable characteristics.
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A big no no!!!
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Edited by
TxsSun
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Fri 11/06/09 04:11 PM
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would you forgive them and accept them back? No one has ever cheated on me, but I believe it it like abuse. Once they do it the first time, it gets easier and easier to continue. I would forgive, but I would never take them back. |
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My first wife cheated on me and brought back a diary about it. She cheated 3 tomes before i gave up and got a divorce. My second wife cheated with an old ex boyfriend then left me for him. I will never forgive or forget. However i will not dwell on it either.I do not believe it had anything to do with me. I did in the beginning but after finding that they both cheated on their later husbands i decided that it was there problems.
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would you forgive them and accept them back? I forgave and took them back, they did it again, I forgave and DID not take them back... Everyone makes mistakes, true sincere apologies means to NOT repeat those mistakes... We are friends but nothing more now... Myself, I do not think screwing someone else is JUST a mistake! accidentally cutting a board 3 inches to short is a mistake. Cheating.. They know exactly what they are doing, and make the decision to do it, knowing how wrong it is. If they cheat, it better be someone they want to live with because they have made the decision already that they don't want to be with me. 
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would you forgive them and accept them back? I forgave and took them back, they did it again, I forgave and DID not take them back... Everyone makes mistakes, true sincere apologies means to NOT repeat those mistakes... We are friends but nothing more now... Myself, I do not think screwing someone else is JUST a mistake! accidentally cutting a board 3 inches to short is a mistake. Cheating.. They know exactly what they are doing, and make the decision to do it, knowing how wrong it is. If they cheat, it better be someone they want to live with because they have made the decision already that they don't want to be with me.
AMEN to that one! I dealt with a cheating abusive man for years ..literally years...why? well...long story, but NEVER again! |
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I think it would depend on the sincerity and the reason why she cheated??
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would you forgive them and accept them back? I used to think i would until it happened, and then NO, i could not and would not. |
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Sure. ITs possible. Forgiveness is wonderful IF remorse is sincere. If my SO thought that the words were enough to express his remorse though,,that would be our end. Actions have to back up the apology with a real attempt to change.
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i could forgive anything, and take her back afterwards.
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would you forgive them and accept them back? lol!!! 
you're funny 
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