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Topic: How do you let go of a painful memory?
MelodyGirl Joined Sun 01/25/09 Posts: 9452	Mon 11/02/09 12:12 AM Edited by MelodyGirl on Mon 11/02/09 12:15 AM
I just do! Whining, crying or dwelling doesn't help. Ya just move on ..... I work out if someone annoys me. I clear my mind and realize they or it is not worth my time. Negativity is evil. There's no crying in life!

CatsLoveMe Joined Wed 09/16/09 Posts: 4522	Mon 11/02/09 12:14 AM
I just do! Whining, crying or dwelling doesn't help. Ya just move on ..... There's no crying in life! Yes there is, there's no crying in baseball. Remember Tom Hanks in "A League of Their Own?"

tripledigits69 Joined Fri 12/05/08 Posts: 2943	Mon 11/02/09 12:15 AM
I just do! Whining, crying or dwelling doesn't help. Ya just move on ..... There's no crying in life! It's like being in a rocking chair, gives you something to do but gets you nowhere!

tripledigits69 Joined Fri 12/05/08 Posts: 2943	Mon 11/02/09 12:15 AM Edited by tripledigits69 on Mon 11/02/09 12:17 AM


MelodyGirl Joined Sun 01/25/09 Posts: 9452	Mon 11/02/09 12:16 AM Edited by MelodyGirl on Mon 11/02/09 12:17 AM
I just do! Whining, crying or dwelling doesn't help. Ya just move on ..... I work out if someone annoys me. I clear my mind and realize they or it is not worth my time. Negativity is evil. There's no crying in life! Yes there is, there's no crying in baseball. Remember Tom Hanks in "A League of Their Own?" Um, yeah, that was my parallel ... my satire!

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Mon 11/02/09 12:30 AM
Bad memories are only going to get one shot at me. Stuff happens, you survive, and it is over. I might give them one of my yesterday's, but they are not getting my todays, or my tomorrows.

tripledigits69 Joined Fri 12/05/08 Posts: 2943	Mon 11/02/09 12:30 AM
Painfull memories will come and go, Some are easy some are hard. Remember those feelings are who you are . The reason you have that pain is because you care . Its so easy to find some one to live with , Its hard to find the person you cant live without , and they feel the same way.

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Mon 11/02/09 12:34 AM
I am pretty sure the people I love and loved me would not want me suffering over them being gone. They might like me to remember the good times but not that they were gone.

tripledigits69 Joined Fri 12/05/08 Posts: 2943	Mon 11/02/09 12:37 AM
I am pretty sure the people I love and loved me would not want me suffering over them being gone. They might like me to remember the good times but not that they were gone. I wasn't think death, I was thinking leaving for another person.

EquusDancer Joined Sun 04/05/09 Posts: 6281	Mon 11/02/09 12:41 AM
Painfull memories will come and go, Some are easy some are hard. Remember those feelings are who you are . The reason you have that pain is because you care . Its so easy to find some one to live with , Its hard to find the person you cant live without , and they feel the same way. It's the ones that sneak up that are a real b*tch. Had a small ad paper come in the mail, a couple weeks ago and there was an interview with my ex and his business. Made my heart jerk. So I wished him well, and burned the paper.

tripledigits69 Joined Fri 12/05/08 Posts: 2943	Mon 11/02/09 12:53 AM
Painfull memories will come and go, Some are easy some are hard. Remember those feelings are who you are . The reason you have that pain is because you care . Its so easy to find some one to live with , Its hard to find the person you cant live without , and they feel the same way. It's the ones that sneak up that are a real b*tch. Had a small ad paper come in the mail, a couple weeks ago and there was an interview with my ex and his business. Made my heart jerk. So I wished him well, and burned the paper. I've had times when a smell of perfume has brought back a flood of feelings, Thats when I relized I was human , and I had feelings. But life will go on , as I move forward through this sea of pain , the pain fades , my life becomes better.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 11/02/09 09:04 AM
Bad memories are only going to get one shot at me. Stuff happens, you survive, and it is over. I might give them one of my yesterday's, but they are not getting my todays, or my tomorrows.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 11/02/09 11:57 PM
Painfull memories will come and go, Some are easy some are hard. Remember those feelings are who you are . The reason you have that pain is because you care . Its so easy to find some one to live with , Its hard to find the person you cant live without , and they feel the same way. It's the ones that sneak up that are a real b*tch. Had a small ad paper come in the mail, a couple weeks ago and there was an interview with my ex and his business. Made my heart jerk. So I wished him well, and burned the paper.

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Tue 11/03/09 12:09 AM
How do you let go of a painful memory? Well, when I was young my dad thopught the only way to get rid of anything for sure was to kill it... SO,,,,,I guess you could heat up a iron poker to a bright red glow,,then stick that in the memory section of the brain,,,,lol SOME,,,,,,will NEVER GO AWAY.... YOU, just have to TRTY not to go there in thoughts,,when you start to,,,if that make sense?? lol

r0ck3tt3 Joined Tue 10/06/09 Posts: 522	Tue 11/03/09 12:27 AM
How do you let go of a painful memory? Truth of the matter is, it is a lot easier said than done. I fell in love with someone who I genuinely gave my heart to [in its entirity] only to have been left in his past as another ex. The heart refuses to let go of things especially when the mind convinces you that at one time, this thing made you happy. It is the constant conflict beteen mind and soul that ultimately causes the pain. your best bet is to invest your time in something that you enjoy. Me, its poetry. It not only allows you to vent but also feel that expressive release that others can in turn enjoy later. Idle minds like idle hands can only bring upon the worst to you. Keep active emotionally, physically and mentally and you should be in the clear.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Tue 11/03/09 12:29 AM Edited by msharmony on Tue 11/03/09 12:32 AM
Learning the lesson, and forgiveness...then it just sort of lets go of you. Took the words from my fingertips ......forgive and focus on the lesson... If they leave,, they werent right for you. And you are closer to knowing what type of person is right for you. But I have learned, at this point,, that being with someone is not the end all be all of enjoying life. People suffer loss of limbs that they need or parents that they have had a lifetime and they survive. PErhaps those who come and then go are only there to make you wiser or stronger,,,love yourself first and those things will be much easier to,,let go

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Wed 11/04/09 11:28 AM
How do you let go of a painful memory? Truth of the matter is, it is a lot easier said than done. I fell in love with someone who I genuinely gave my heart to [in its entirity] only to have been left in his past as another ex. The heart refuses to let go of things especially when the mind convinces you that at one time, this thing made you happy. It is the constant conflict beteen mind and soul that ultimately causes the pain. your best bet is to invest your time in something that you enjoy. Me, its poetry. It not only allows you to vent but also feel that expressive release that others can in turn enjoy later. Idle minds like idle hands can only bring upon the worst to you. Keep active emotionally, physically and mentally and you should be in the clear.

motorcyclesandmusic Joined Wed 10/21/09 Posts: 198	Wed 11/04/09 11:55 AM
One day at a time. Hugs to you Mirror.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Wed 11/04/09 12:12 PM
How do you let go of a painful memory? replace it with a positive memory

Chipper52 Joined Sun 07/12/09 Posts: 6	Wed 11/04/09 07:31 PM
welli guess it depends how recient the memory and the impact on you