My daughter (soon to be 21) moved into her own "pad" about a month ago, I have had the pleasure of paying for the funishing and carrying out the decorating of said "pad" yesterday I spent the entire day cooking meals for a full week + and taking it over to her place bacause she hasn't got a cooker..............

See why I'm an anarchist? This government is too PC to do anything right, from one side of the line to the other. Everybody thinks I'm unpatriotic because I'm an anarchist, but I'm just disappointed by our government that is followed without question...

That was sweet of you.

I tried to spare her from eating her dad's cookong! He told her he would cook her some food and take it over. As quick as a flash she was on the phone to me asking me to "save" her from eating lumpy gravy, over cooked rice, chilli con carne that burns the plate (let alone her throat)

Well I am looking at it this way - with the economy the way it is I will not push my kid out, But it's whenever they feel comfortable to leave home.

Hummm well my daughter moved out 3 years ago and in fact is in the process of signing for her first house.... My son well he has moved out and back several times he lost his job a few months ago and had to move back home.... To me my home is open to my kids anytime they need to come back home. I would never leave them without a place to stay.....And no they have never paid rent while living at home either I only wished I felt I could have moved back home when I was in a bind growing up......

21 with suitcase in their hands !

Then buy her an electric skillet.
If hungry enough, a person can cook anything in one of those.

If a person has a choice.. eat or starve.. They will learn real quick how to cook.

To me it depends on if they are actually willing to do what it takes to survive.
My daughter has worked so hard to become a nurse practitioner, I wouldn't hesitate to let her come home.
But on the other hand, My son has pretty much burned the bridge home.
When they refuse to work and just want to party and fool around....games over.
27... time to grow up, and my being an enameler isn't going to help him see the light.

Besides... it is really hard to be spontaneous with your partner when they are under foot!!

One moved put at 17
One at 16
One at 21
One home at 16

They all had jobs. Went to college. Never came back

They are all different

Exactly! I see children misbehaving, throwing tantrums in public -- most parents do NOTHING but tune them out -- and everyone else is burdened by them.

Too many parents want to be the child’s friend rather than their disciplinarian.

I digress.

i have enough money to leave and get my own place,but i dont wanna yet

i moved out of my parents house the day i turned 18 and my bf at the time moved in with me two weeks after that.. i thought i could handle it and did for a while till i was supporting both of us on minimum wage. lol so i moved home am in school and my parents are more supportive now then they ever have been. all i can really say is dont push them youll just drive them away

ah...my eldest was nineteen when she decided to make her way on her own. she moved herself and her son in with cole's dad...and that didn't go so well.

she's 24 now, and wonderful. she lives down the road, and she knows that if she ever needed to, the door is always open. it wouldn't be comfortable, but we'd make room. i watch my grandson five nights a week for her to work and do what i can to help out.

the only way i'd push my kids out would be if they were bringing a negative tone to my house...as in being a horrible influence to my younger ones. there are things i don't allow in my house, no matter what age a person is.

smoking, drinking, drugs...those things won't happen here. as long as they can handle that (and, at the moment, i have great kids who aren't interesting in those things), they can stay with me until they are old and gray.

when they are ready to move into the world...i'll be here to catch them if they need it, to help them be successful.

while i moved out at sixteen, i think that's too young for most people. so is eighteen...depending on how they've matured. i don't expect them to pay bills, either...but watching the younger ones and taking care of their own stuff is a must. you know, normal family stuff.

I moved out shortly after I was 18, and went back for about 2 wks after I got into some serious trouble.

My oldest is 18 and moved in with me. She is in school full time and has 2 jobs. She helps out a little bit.
She moved in with me to spend more time with me before she moves away to go to a four yr college.

It's all very individual, depends on the kid, their living skills, economic ability to self support, tough enough to keep it together when things look bad.

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rent on an average to small-sized apartment in toronto will probably run you about $1,500/month. add to that bills, entertainment, gas, car insurance, car payments and they need a pretty good paying job to even survive.

there's no way i'd ever 'push' my kids out into that; not until they were financially stable, regardless of their age.

but you said you were ready to start a family and then you come starting this BS that's it!