OK Fran you just officially confused me lol. Maybe it's the beer I just finished though :-)

I would much rather have a smack on my behind from my boss than be without a job the next day....lol

^wouldn't that be sexual harassment, lol...you'd be surprised how many bosses attempt such a thing..ha ha

anyhow, you're right in one aspect, different techniques have different results. Hitting a child comes from what aspect of life...this will surprise many of you....Religion, when we were young we we taught to fear God, who was supposed to be loving, many have grown up today rebellious to that concept, as many will physical discipline.....our world has gotten way out of control especially the children who have all been but abandoned by society in general, it seems like it's everyone for themselves in this me me me society. and sometimes it gets so frustrating trying to keep up, the love taps become drowning in a tub and then we label it post pardum as a justification

I dont think its only religion that has endorsed corporal punishment and again, I have to say, there is a difference between discipline and abuse. They are two extremes with a WORLD of grey between them. I personally think most of those parents who kill their children DIDNT spank them but I would have to look it up. I know I was spanked and I dont feel it was wrong nor did I end up drowned or turn into a violent adult.

Oh, and if my boss gave me the option of being spanked(clothes on of course) or being fired,, I would take the spanking for certain,,,,,,,,Heck, Id vote for a law allowing that alternative to being fired too....


Swats on a naturally padded behind never killed anyone.

morning (((lady)))

question, would you change anything about how you raised your sons?

I raised my daughter alone and wouldn't change a thing, and yes we both treated our kids differently. Mine did get swatted, never beaten, and on the spot not once we got home.

Worked for me as I am sure it worked out for you. Does that mean one of us is wrong???

Fran

I would do many things different..many!! I was hit, much to much and made a conscious decision i would not hit my boys.
Neither of us is wrong, none of us here are wrong...
I guess with boys I knew that I had to do other things because they would be bigger than me soon enough and spankings were not going to be an option...and i was right on that. By 12 they were all bigger than me. So I had a look, a tone, and I took things away. I also used what some would call 'Bribery"...I like to call it positive reinforcement. And i stayed alone. I rarely dated, and put my energy into being around for them, there was no competition with any boyfriends. They didn't feel threatened and they knew they were loved and they always felt safe.
It worked for me..now the three of them surrounding me makes me feel safe.

I dont agree with it.


I think humiliation doesnt help.


I think disrespecting someone does not beget respect.



Ive never hit my child, and he acts appropriately.



Does he have moments when he doesnt to others.. o yeah..


We talk about it, and I treat him decently, and I let him know I discipline him, and he practices what I tell him to do.


I believe in dicipline meaning education, not punishment.


My son WILL lash out when hit though, his grandmother has made the mistake of doing that.


What I do works for me.

I think if they turned out to be .00000000001% like you, they are amazing individuals with great self respect, self esteem and know they are loved.

Awwwwww that was so nice, thank you.

They are much like me except they have penis's......

Wow, I was not going to respond to this but of course...I had to. As a parent we have the goal to teach our children to respect others. We are also suppose to build their self esteem and build character in our children. I truly believe that when you hit your child in public, you tear them down. You should have made your son say he was sorry and then you should have taken him outside of the church and had a talk with him.
Oh I agree, some children do need a good spanking once in awhile..but NOT in front of people. You should punish your children in private, in a loving way...not an embarrassing way!!
As far as you talking about the police saying it was alright to spank your child like that...I don't know if I honestly believe that! You say that some states are liberal? I think that some parents need to learn how to treat their children better or maybe they shouldn't have them. Would you want to be slapped upside the head in public? I know I wouldn't!!!