anytime im glad to help!

Some good advice that I won't repeat. Butterflies are natural...just settle down and they;ll fly in formation. Trust yourself...trust her. Let it happen. Besides, if she - like you - is still a member and sees this, she'll probably be smitten (like that word) by your comments if not already. Enjoy!

Oh SOB!
I didn't even think of that!


Oh God..
Where's a hole to crawl in?!

Take it slow. Alot of women want to see what they can get from u and exploit it. Dont be a sucker. Good luck she may be a catch. dont tell her to much about yourself.

Thanks for that advice..
But we've already talked alot about ourselves..
hehe not much left to say really..
I mean she doesn't know everything..
But might as well. >.<

um act normal, and not weird.

then, don't jump all over her. let her make the moves. don't play ur cards. keep them close to ur chest. see if u get a 2nd date....

Show up and smile :) Keep things simple on the first meeting.
Have no expectations before going so you never leave disappointed.

well an after thought would be to take off your clothes and c what she does next?

First dates are ice breakers and not to be taken to the extent of "I can spend the rest of my life with this person". What the person is like online as opposed to offline are two entirely different things. You would have to be given the benefit of a doubt when they tell you something and then you build from there.

There is always the old pic issue, the weight issue, the children issues, among others. Not all of these come up on a first date but at least one of them can prevent a first date: children. You are reading too much into this, especially with the comment on "your little army" and if you can actually get to the first date, then make the most of it. And if there is chemistry? Then you have a second date.

I wish you luck and just let "it" flow from you.

Just be yourself, be honest and true. Make eye contact and smile. Congrats and good luck to you.

Seems like you have gotten the pleminaries out of the way. I agree the web cam is a good idea. Even though a busy single parent like yourself, she is up for meeting you. Would be better if it were mutual but I don't get you are less than enthusiastic. Take it for the compliment that it is and go forward.

Make and effort to look your best and be rested. Prepare early enough that you arrive a few minutes early so you can catch your breath. If you are early enough call home check on the kids then turn the cell phone on vibe or off. If you are meeting after work take a clean shirt to change into and maybe a shaving bag to touch up.

Since it is likely that you are going to have your first kiss, at least a light one, you might want to take a quick swish to be fresh. Let her be the lead. If you are close enough for a kiss and she doesn't respond relax and give it time. Choice is a powerful aphrodisiac. Better that she is comfortable remembering a warm handshake or a comfortable closeness than the paniced feeling of being crowed. If in question sometimes a lingering hug or a kiss on the cheek can convey your interest with out being pushey.

Do avoid situations where you have to set opposite your date even if it means setting at adjoining table corners than a booth. Watch your feet so you don't appear to be a clumsy clod stepping on her feet.

Sounds like you like this person a lot so hopefully you have enough knowledge about her to plan a date you will both enjoy. The KISS (Keep it Simple Stupid) is always a good idea. Have a walk through for what you plan, make sure you have enough cash and the incidentals are out of the way like gasing the car or standing in line for tickets, knowing where you can park, even having a reservation for a table.

Planning a few things to talk about is fine as long as it doesn't begin to feel like an inquisition. Reread your previous correspondence and her profile. A good reason for printing off IM conversations.

Most women are flattered that you pay attention to something they have told you. A favorite color, food, interest, or concern. Reflect that in something you take or do. I am not big on flowers for a first meeting, because that is really too far over the top, but if you have been talking a while it is fine to take a small gift, photo, or treat you know she likes. Something that shows you are thinking of her when you are not together.

Good luck! Have a great experience.

awhile ago i hooked up with someone over the internet. i was nervous too. i did the best i could, its no different than a blind date. if you know she likes you, things will fall into place their own way. dress nicely, be polite, and try to work out a good conversation in your head when you finally meet her. lol yea that was the downside to meeting the girl i hooked up with, when i got there i was so nervous i couldnt think of a single thing to say haha. sadly, me and her didnt last as long as i had hoped

Not even a blind date, just treat her like you want to be treated.
Just a date.
Relax.

Just relax
Go slow
Be who you are
Try not to drink or get drunk
Listen to her
Laugh
Have fun

Good luck
Hope everything goes great


Tammy

i take that back. since you are getting to know her online, and if you have pics of her or viewed her on a webcam, it would be considered your average date, not a blind date.

I think you've said it best.

Its not a big deal, and dont make it one, just be yourself.


Shell either like you or she wont. You cant really hide.

Ever wish you were somebody different? I get that feeling around women. Ah well. Shes right. There is no hiding, unless you plan on living up in the mountains alone like one of those crazy hermits. if you call that living. i guess some people out there enjoy it.

aww sweetie that's great!!! Just be yourself...breath. He likes you! She is one lucky lady! you are a great guy. Try not to think bout it to much..just let it come.

Thanks Reddie pooh and everyone else.

Especially Pacific Star..

you'll all given me great hope, and aspiration. =]



If I could marry you all (and was gay) I would!!!