((((B)))) you are an awesome smart person... Just be yourself.... ANYONE who doesn't appreciate you for you does not DESERVE you...

Awww.
That's so sweet.
That's seksay woman wif da hat.

You know I adores ya.. Not just any woman is worthy of you, so don't go trying to impress "just any woman"..

lol well then there are ALOT of women out there that dont deserve me...

Cold, I don't know you but you could be right.. However, we're helping B right now.. Should you want to discuss those that don't deserve you we can do that elsewhere...

heh, youre right. what can i say, i always got to throw in my lame comments.

I think the most important thing is not to try to sweep anyone off their feet but make them feel secure and comfortable that you are going to consistently be a good mate. Someone they can trust and depend on. Yea sure sometimes it is a treat to see your love interest make a special effort to pamper but it is the day to day habits of a good man that makes him a keeper.

Example; The use of the word Thank You. Do you thank the lady in your life for making you a priority?

Do you thank her for making and effort to look pretty, smell good, and be affectionate or do you complain about her being late, spending money, or make her a sex object only expecting her to get up and put in a full days work after a night of play with you?

Do you thank her for doing what is often a boreing, repetative, backbreaking job when she is a homemaker? Do you make the appreciation made visable by actually helping and putting back money for her dreams, her goals, and her retirement? Or do you take back her efforts by being lazy, sloppy, and not doing preventive chores?

Do you Thank her for endureing pregnancy, child birth, and child care by recognizing how truely difficult it is and doing whatever you can to make it a shared responsibility? Or do you shame and humiliate her by not seeing her maternal body as beautiful gift?

Do you demand this level of apprecition of your children and your peers? Or do you let vulgarity and entitlement and explotation go unchecked? Do you demand that service providers, employers, and friends treat the women in your world well?

I realize most of the folks in Mingle do aspire to this but some of us could do a better job occasionally.

no worries, lots of us do.....


you just joined, how do you like M2 so far?



Sorry B just seing Cold for the first time...

how do i like M2 so far?

Um yeah?

Hey my family are on the right coast so give it your best shot. Cali is ok but for a real "Keeper" I would get away from the left coast.

its getting more and more interesting. never really been into the forum thing till just now. im starting to like it. still gotta wonder if this place even stands a chance of hooking me up with someone though.

Don't be sorry yo. =]

Here's my tidbit of advice:

Women don't like guys who lack self confidence and constantly 'beat' themselves up.

You've got alot to offer; you just have to show what ur capable of.

I think at least three or four times in trying to cheer me up..
You degraded yourself..
..and that's not cool nor healthy.

Cheer up.
Show these ladies your better side.
I get down alot..
Psh ask anyone..
But I pick myself right back up and move forward.

Find your rock.
That solid thing to stand on.
Take charge and keep your head up homie.

Just becuz you haven't found her yet doesn't mean she doesn't exist..
She's out there...
You just have to be patient and resilent.

It's hard to tell.. It's not just this place but a combination of your choices and the other persons.. As far as forums go, it's a good start and fun...

thank you for being so nice. a guy would be lucky to have you.

Living in the mountains...alone? That sounds excellent...

remember that words are seductive my friend....we are often better communicators when we are not under scrutiny....and in the absence of all the other physical and visual cues you get from people when you are 'in the flesh' ...the mind will fill in the blanks...often with ideas of what you 'think' you want....ie you can fall into the trap of 'creating a perfect person' who doesnt actually exist...

with that in mind proceed with caution - not trying to rain on your parade but i think you could be setting yourself up for a huge disappointment and/or potentially disastrous meeting - she may very well be the person for you - but if you are so caught up in what you 'think' she is and dont spend the time 'seeing' who she actually is she may very well slip through your fingers and you will never know what you had before you...

the flip side is that she could be a sociopath (most are incredibly charming and intelligent) - and just that ounce of objectivity could save your life and/or sanity...

advice...tread carefully...expect nothing but remain open - treat it exactly as a blind date and forget all the words that have filled your head, your hopes and your dreams...

and i really sincerely wish you all the best!

heh, look, theres one of the wannabe crazy hermits now. i knew they were out there lol. heh, im just kiddin with ya fearandloathing

oh....and i forgot to add...the same applies to you...if she doesnt bother to invest some time and effort into trying to see who you really are (BIG MESSAGE IS BE YOURSELF)....then she just isnt worth it...

I tend to agree with Princes. I looked at your profile and I don't see anything glareing bad. You are a nice looking guy. No nasty habits. Not sure you've really explained interests you could share or explained your lifestyle where you are headed but that can be tuned up. You seem to be able to express yourself. I think you have to keep in mind dating is tough for all guys in there twenties.