Agreed, but there is a difference between poking fun at a post and responding in a mean, bitter, cynical or angry manner. I know of some ppl that have chosen not to return to the forums due to rudeness of others. When you are dealing with such an array of personalities, it's hard to gauge how some ppl will respond to different types of humour. Being respectful of others is something that should have been taught waaaaaaaaaaay before high school. Besides it's nicer to just get along and play nice.

I think the base of this question, has to do with each individual's personal integrity & character. If they are a person that likes to ridicule & has no concern for others feelings? Then that is how they are. If they are a person that can express their thoughts/opinions, in a judgment free manner. Then that is what they do. If you feel your comments might "run someone off"; can you say the same thing in a different manner? Would they be rude to a new guest in their home, is that OK??? As long as no "rules" are broken, is a inappropriate action PROPER??

We all decide for ourselves.

Do YOU have INTEGRITY?? You decide for your self.



After all, these are just the thoughts of an old sage.

I want the new members to feel welcome here. It's difficult enough for new people to feel comfortable, without the insults, let alone with them. If there is a problem, please report, but please, lets do show them courtesy.

i have no idea what you guys are typing about?

New or not, why cant we tell stupid people they are stupid???

Do you NEED to tell someone the color of their hair??

Bet they already know.

SOMETIMES I DONT THINK THEY KNOW!!!

I do not see what can be gained from telling a person they are stupid, we all have faults and flaws that person who you may have quickly judged may in fact be a lovely person why be horrid? Anna x

I’m fairly new and I have an odd sense of humour so I guess I took in all the comments and the way people run with my threads with a grain of salt so to speak. What I don’t like is the ones in private who email you wanting pics of you in minimal or no clothing... and when you decline go about picking you apart. That to me is not appropriate and far worse then what I have seen played on the threads and almost deferred me from coming back onto the site period but I took a deep breath and said it takes all kinds to make the world go round, I’m sure to meet a few of those anywhere and that is why a block button is there and ohhh how great that is! And besides I have spoken to many great and fun people on here which far outweigh the other kinds.

Within these forums there is a wide variety of personality's some are here just to have fun and to enjoy but you will always find a few that seem to spoil things for others at times. When ever you have this many people in one area you will find a few that seem to think everything revolves around them. And at times it does seem they get away with it.

Regardless in the end others will see through them for who they are and slowly but surely they seem to disappear.

Many times it seems that others forget the word Respect and what it means in the long run.

Humor goes a long way and that is one reason many post within these forums in order to have a few laughs and forget about the bad things within their day. There is not a thing wrong with that.

When things are done within humor, it is one thing but when it is done out of rudeness or to mock one it is sad to see. Guess that is were the word Respect comes back in at times it only takes a moment to think what one is typing.


What many forget it is Newbies that got this site off the ground and it is Newbies that have keep this site growing.

I'm still waiting for those lingerie pics

Alrighty, looks like what I've said has been taken out of context again so I'll attempt to reiterate and maybe this time my point will be taken in the way it was intended. I do not believe in "hazing" anyone, yeah, I'm aware mingle2 isn't a sorority or a fraternity because if it was, no way would I be here; I never joined a sorority in college and I'd never try to join one now, online or not. What I meant was, mingle2 is full of people who use humor to diffuse situations, correct me if I'm wrong? Mingle2 is full of people who have grown to know one another over the years or months or however long it took and they have established bonds with one another, this is correct also, right? So when someone new comes along (especially someone who waltzes in with a know-it-all attitude or a question that seems simple to the masses, or an outright criticism of a particular gender/group or even the site) there can be tendency to "tease them" "poke at them" or perhaps make fun of them for whatever reason.

As I said earlier, I do not condone this, but it does happen, and there doesn't seem to be much to be done for it, unless you intend to ban everyone who teases (notice I said teasing, not attacking, so please don't quote Calleigh12 as thinking attacking a newbie is acceptable) a newbie or even someone who has been here for a while. Once I made a post on the feedback forum and before a mod could get back to me about my complaint, many people posted in anger over a word I used in my post, and some of them decided to make light of the situation. Was this right? Nope. Should they have been kinder to me, or even better, not posted their opinion about the word I used at all, since it wasn't directed at them? Perhaps. But did it happen? Yes. And did I get over it and come back, and actively participate in the forums? Obviously.

The point I am trying to make (yes, I do have one) is that mingle2 is similar to "real life." In the real world, everyone isn't nice. There might be people who are willing to help you because you're weak, or date you because they pity you, or overlook the fact that you can't spell basic words, or be willing to let you chastise them because you don't agree with their opinion, even though you aren't in a position of authority. But then again, the opposite is true, and you have people who will turn a deaf ear to your problems, people who aren't willing to let you insult them repeatedly just because you think you're right all the time, and people who express annoyance at being asked over and over again, "do you mind if I date outside my race even though I'm an adult, and this is 2009 and I live in America, I just want your permission before I do it?" In the real world, people are human and make mistakes, and use humor, and this happens on mingle2, as well.

In short, even though there might have been an attempt to make Mingle2 a Utopia, where nothing bad ever happens, I don't see it as such. It's pretty hard to have a Utopia when there are humans involved, since we're all pretty flawed, no matter how "perfect" we might wish to appear.

Hopefully that made sense to everyone, if not, there's not much else I can say. I think my previous posts on here should speak for themselves; unless someone blatantly attacks me, I don't insult them and I don't think anyone else should either. Okay end of typing diarrhea, back to your discussion.

Hazing?

Holy Cow Call, I don't even know that many words. And even if I did, I would never string them all together to make a point. I think I have ADHD. Oh look shiney.

You amaze me.

Sorry, I tried to make it short, but I have a tendency to blather on....

You don't blather. You have a point to make and take offense when others misconstrue what you are saying.

I mean, uh I like pie. Damn ADHD

Finally, someone who gets me! No worries about the ADHD, I think I might be bipolar from time to time....

And sometimes I suffer from stress induced turrets when it suits me.