When someone posts a question and some of us in here(yes I'm guilty of it)poke fun at them. Some are serious and we dont think with our replies. I know we don't mean harm but the newbies asking don't know the diference. How many have we run off?

If they don't have a sense of humor, they won't do well on mingle. I figure it's a test of their dedication.

You have a point. It's a little like when you get a new job and the people showing you around a a bit full of themselves with, "This is our Coke machine. Heh heh, don't put a dollar in because you'll only get fizz." Maybe we could be a little more accommodating and nice.

But nice guys/girls finish last!!

there's a lot of joking on mingle, even when it's not at anyone's expense, if you can't take a joke here, it can be pretty uncomfortable.

But should we give them time before we ridicule? I know there are those just looking for attention, but some seem serious and are asking questions from the heart.

this is now way a nice guy/girl thread.
I was just wondering if we ran some off because of our replies.

I'm not saying what goes on is right or wrong, I was just explaining the reality of it. The majority of people on mingle interact with humor, from what I've noticed. Sometimes it can be a little cheeky or a little malicious, depending on the situation. If you're the sort of person who's easily offended because you asked a question about how to get over your ex-gf and got a lot of replies that not only didn't answer your question, but made fun of the fact that you're not being a "real man" because you still miss her, I don't think your mingle journey will be very smooth or pleasant. I try to answer newbie questions with seriousness and intelligence (unless it's a flat out stupid question, which I usually avoid) but not everyone is like that. Sometimes majority rules.

Yes, we have run some off by our replies, but the ones who really want to be here come back. I've deactivated in the past because of ignorant comments that were made to me, but I'm here now because I like the site and I figure screw those who don't like me. Like i said, it's a mark of their dedication. I don't condone outright meanness to anyone, new or not.

It's my job. I've ran off 23, no one compares to that glory.

I've seen many post genuine relationship advise & time & time again when they speak of some kind of relationship trouble, the response is always 'dump em, move on to greener pastures'. While many times this is the correct advise, it is not always.

There's a lot of cynics on this site. If I wanted to be successful money wise, I wouldn't ask a bum for advise.


With that being said, people shouldn't take what's posted here so seriously, jokingly or otherwise

I totaly understand. I just wonder if some would come out of there shell if givin a little more of a chance?

Well said Calleigh

I've always wondered that too...if you are having relationship problems, why in the hell...would you ask a singles site?

Yeah, it's like asking the mother of 10 kids about birth control. Epic fail!!!

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