Satan says, "A soul is a soul - I do not discriminate!"

I'll trade you some strudel and a slightly used accordion.

DONE.

muah ha ha ha ha

your contract is under the sofa. please sign.
no need for postage!

Cool. Can I sign with the monkey's sputum or do I have to use my own???

Lucifer declares, "I love all Souls. The ugly are <less filling> but the beautiful <taste great>."

never mind signing. a contract's a contract.
i have winesses. you're all mine now. you will burn.

Slow roast or chargrilled? Or maybe you'd like to fry me. Everything tastes better deep fried in monkey spooge.

Looks can change in a blink... what's left?? When a person is beautiful inside, and we tap into that beauty... the exterior turns beautiful too in our eyes.

shenerds fingers are getting tierd!

True, but my bellows are still going strong...

the all too often heard pc response: i don't care about looks, what's important to me is a persons personality, honesty, how they make me feel, someone who is caring, understanding, patient, loving, can admit when they're wrong, will share their feelings, yaddada, yaddada . . .

while the real life facts seem to be that most people (note I didn't just say women) great looks, body that says I will sex you long time, all the time, 6 pack, knockout boobs/knockdown biceps,long on the pillow hair, what else... oh cute butt/tight buns . . .

I haven't even started on the material posessions or the nice guy/girl, bad boy/sex kitten conflicting phenom.

If I sound bitter, I'm not (?), confused to the point of near frustration-probably, fighting depressive thoughts-daily, . . .

I am a man that stops for flowers just because it strikes me how much my lady means to me, her favorite candy bar on her desk after an argument followed by an apology for what it could do to our world, takes the lil ones out just to get out of her hair when she's having a bad day, washes the clothes (if sh'll fold 'em :)), calls home between clients and as soon as I leave work because she is the bright spot in my day.

In the last 11 3/4 years I've spent 9 in a relationship, 1 trying to win her back while losing self-esteem, dark hair and teeth(kiss of death there), weight from being so distraught that I didn't take care of myself, another year failing at being a human being again, and the last 8mths on dating sites.

I've probably reached out to a couple thousand women. Polite, ice breaker emails have gone simply unanswered. Not posting photos (seeking an inside out learning as the primary attraction - and yes concerned for rejection - but hey, my last relationship started with 6 months of convo before we ever exchanged pics!)was met with one line accusations of 'hiding', "creepin'", "don't write me ever again until you post a pic!", etc. Others talked incessantly about their things, how great their ex's were because they drove this or that

The handful of time a connection seemed brewing and I did finally agree to meet - many had not been honest about their appearance (a lie is a lie, is a lie, and yes with two exceptions I told everyone about my personal phys concerns). Twice I truly felt something brewing and after the first 'date' (don't like the pretense and tension of those things!)during which I was a relaxed, witty, gentleman, opened doors, brought a single white rose (respect), kept my hands to myself (mostly), and called the next day to say I had a great time.

Cut to the chase- I'm still single - -

Sorry, you all seem so witty . . . I'm dragging myself down, not that I have that far to go!

Had to get that off I guess as I try to face another day, just want to understand . . . I have (had??) so much to give. . .

What do woman REALLY want?

Wow, didn't know I spilled so much! Good thing everyones asleep or maybe fell asleep to the sound of violins!

Depends on people's perception, it's very personal. I know that I dated people who shared bird-like features with ex Canadian Prime Minister P.E. Trudeau and I thought they were great looking. Other people thought they had a scary face, so in their view, my dates were "ugly". As a result, I had them all to myself... nobody wanted to steal them away from me.

People with features that appeal to everyone sometimes emanate bad vibes. Alcoholics, for instance, have something about their personality .... (when sober) and notwithstanding their good looks, there will be women who won't go near them.

Seulamour - I hate to reiterate what the other women told you, but posting a pic would give you more credibility. Such is life. We've all been "had" by men who were not truly available and 95% of them did not put up a picture.

What women want? Same as men, once they get the hang of a dating site, they go on dates and unless there is this IMMEDIATE SPARK, (it happens) they think there's a better match for them somewhere on the net. So I wouldn't give up if I were you. Just go on dates after a couple of emails because people often look different on pics and it's no use exchanging emails for months and then discovering the total absence of good physical vibes when meeting face to face. A waste of time no one needs.

Hey Seul,

I'm not normally the serious type, but I posted this as one of my few serious threads ever a while ago and I'm surprised it's still alive and kicking. I have a spinal disorder and 4 disfiguring skin conditions (two of which are hereditary/genetic, hence no cure or viable treatment options at present) so I can relate to what you're going through; (this is the real reason I don't post pix or exchange pix with anyone myself). My personality gets me a lot of first dates, but once the poor guys see me in person they tend to wig out, (I wear Tammy Faye Bakker makeup to try and hide the damages, but makeup can only cover up so much and unfortunately, as you so aptly observed, most people, especially men, sorry to say, are hung up on surface appearances no matter what politically correct jargon they spout to the contrary).

I am on a diet to lose 10 pounds, when I do I will be back to my hs size 8 which will be a good thing. Now if only modern medical science which can put men, women and assorted small animals in space could come up with a cure or at least a few decent treatment options for rare hereditary skin conditions I'd be all set, but as none of my conditions are life threatening everyone (including my dermatologist) says to just live with it. While I'll agree that my conditions aren't life threatening, they sure do affect my quality of life big time and have for some years now.

I'm just waiting til I hit 70 or 80 years of age, as by then even the beautiful people will have undergone the ravages of Time and without inner resources such as you and I and those who suffer similarly possess, their worth as potential partners will be highly diminished, while ours will be that much greater as wisdom, kindness and intelligence only ripen and increase with age. I only hope I can hold out that long, but I intend to do my level best.

So, chin up, you're not alone. There are a few of us out here in cyberspace who understand what you're going through and commend you for your kindness and articulate expression of what many may be feeling but precious few can put into words that make such clear and honest sense.

Hugs and snoggers from SheNerd and Bubbles and the towel boy draped across my accordion :)

I've said it before and I'll say it again. 'Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.'

So is sanity. Fortunately, I don't qualify on either count... :)

So much for my dream of a cell to call my very own...

mmmmmmmmmmmmmm now why would you want a cell SheNerd.....imagine how cramped it would be when you add Bubbles, the accordian, and all that chocolate.........at least ask for a suite......that way you can put Bubbles in the bathroom when he steals the chocolate.

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Folks on JSH, I have had the total pleasure of speaking to the LADY in question,yes, she is a true lady.A voice that is music to the ears, strong,clear and precise speech, Intelligent, clever warm, friendly and beautiful, beautiful, beautiful to the core. I love this lady more that words can say.Don't let her clowning around fool you.......... she "IS tha BOMB" And now I will have to leave town because she will kill me for saying this. Love you tons SheN

Geeez SheNerd - I thought you had grown a mustache, there, for a second!!! You are a marvelous writer and a delight to read.