Yesterday I get a message from an ex with three little words

ONE MORE TRY

Why are they unable to let go... The more honest and blunt I am that I have moved on in my life the more they want me I don’t understand this attachment.... is it just me who is so cold to feelings at times or what??? I know I am very resilient and don’t see need for tears and get over things really quickly I always find a positive when handed something negative.
Anyways I couldn’t contain myself from laughing reason being what the ***k we dated a short period of time like in 2005 lol.

He always ...always finds a way to get in touch with me. I have changed my phone number and moved several times and last yr 3 hours away from the city I once lived in and he resides in currently.

He is not the only one that has this issue I have had several men from my past who can’t seem to let go... one who I dated 7 yrs ago he’s married now and he still talks to my brother and he always finds a way to try to get messages to me. and the list goes on. LOL

I am very honest and very blunt, I don’t play games I tell it how it is but it doesn’t seem to be working why do they not stay away... I don’t give any reason or lead them into self hope that there would be another chance at "US"
Some advice would be greatly appreciated as for I’m at a loss and I like leaving the past in the past and worry about now... and a future uninterrupted... oh and I don’t want to tell lies to get rid of them like I have a boyfriend or that I’m married or dying lol, I’m not dishonest to anyone that only gets you in trouble if you take that route in any circumstance.

Thanks for those who have comments and or advice. You guys are all awesome and I feel like becoming a member of the family and can ask anything and someone would care to help.

He probably knows very well what he's missing!!

You da bomb!!!


It takes some people to lose something in order to know it's value.

Fade2Black used to say......

"They always come back, it's always too late"

You never know what you got until it's gone.

People always want what they cannot have, I've noticed the ruder and meaner I am to a man the more he pursues me. It's rather sick. Maybe you should tell them you want to get back together, too, and see how fast they run.

I’m well aware that I’m worth so much I love me and who I am and what i have done in my life thus far and look forward to my 30's and what woman would tell you she looks forward to aging well this one does!... my inner beauty far outshines the outer.

It really does for so many to understand you have to lose something to realise what you had. I know lol but it doesn’t tell me how to get rid of the ones who don’t know what we know and that its far too late to even give it another chance. I give advice and take my own as well. I don’t look back and repeat myself to them but it’s not working....
HELP I’m drowning in men’s inability to forgive themselves, forget and let go..
What’s a woman to do????

Yeah thats too funny... but untrue lol and a game... they possibly wont want to run either.... might backfire on reload lol

Sounds like you don't have a problem but they do pretty stalkerish (is that a word?)

A mans perspective on this topic would be nice too dont be shy I wont bite.....

Mine-
I thought I was reading about MY Own life there for a Moment... Wow! You and I could be Twins.
Recently I have had to ask myself this same Question, on more than One occasion, so it's kinda Fresh on my mind... What did I come up with?!
Well, Let's See...
Seeing where that person is today, and the Pain that he's been thru since we were an Item, I can only surmise that people only remember the good things, and they compare their recent Scenario to the one they had when they were with you.
It sounds like you are probably one of the "Good Ones" in people's lives, and when they leave us for someone, or a situation that seems better, or at minimum a little more pleasing, they do a Mental comparison, and figure out that they really DID have it pretty Good when they were along side us. I think that alone is WHY they want to keep holding on.
There is no "BS" when you date me... You get all that I have to give, which is almost Always more than I receive in return. I may not be the thinnest, or the most Glamorous looking, but I am Real. The Sex is Good, the feelings are Genuine, and you never have to wonder where you stand with me. Sometimes that single fact Overwhelms men.

As I Re-Read this... It appears that I've prolly not been all that helpful, but at minimum, know that you are not alone.

Wow, the guy didn't put any effort in that, did he?

One year, I had 2 ex-boyfriends call me on Mother's Day!! And they were not the father of my children.



Also a guy I dated in high school called me every Christmas for about 5 years after we broke up. I never took his calls.

Hello Calleigh
Hello Fran

hiya sunshine, where ya been????

sorry OP

(((Beautiful)))

Definitely couldn’t agree more that I give out so much more then I receive back...It don’t take much to please me either just kindness really.. Thanks for sharing I know I’m not alone and I knew on Mingle there would be some who stand among us. I am the one that leaves them too do you think that makes a difference... on who left who that leaves it unfinished in their minds? Good question I just came up with.

Yeah, go figure eh?

Why is it some women get hundreds of e-mails a day from unwanted suitors, while others get few or none?

Why is it some guys can't seem to find a decent woman looking for a nice guy in their home town, while some a--holes seem to have ladies falling over themselves to get to them?

Why is it that some folks whine about having too little, while others whine for having too much?

It's a strange strange world we live in.

LOL are you reffering that im whining about being bothered by men...
I didnt think I was lol....
Im being bothered by the wrong men and thats the problem... if it was a question of good men being sincere with me then I dont see fit to complain. Id just like to understand the physc of men and what im doing wrong to end things on a even better more clear ground so i can avoid this in the future.

And as far as getting many emails on here actually im not getting hardly any responses on here but im not complaining either way