I`m 41 a christain and have 4 childern at home 1 disabled and can`t even get looked at .

sure i would i have no problem with that
i also have a child thats 22yrs old that has a mind capity of a 12yr old. so yea i understand special needs children..

I think most decent women would. I think that most women, decent or not, just dont SEEK that type of responsibility off the bat.

i am looking at you right now! Want to know what I am thinking...

So what you are saying is that there are no decent women here on Mingle?

I would never say such a thing. For heavens sake, Im a decent woman. I am just not available to jump into any intimate type situations at this time.

I know its hard and frustrating but you have to be patient- I too have a special needs child and its very difficult to find a person that can handle that reponsibility- You have a very special gift- dont be in a hurry to be in a relationship. Take your time to find someone deserving- i know that sounds snotty but think about it-

you have a special needs child not to mention the other 3- the person you embark in a relationship with must be a perfect match for your family- take your time and don't just depend on the internet- what about support groups for the particular type of disability your child has- what about singles groups- what about church-

don't give up- just be patient- she is out there- you'll see

Thank you all I just get to wondering at times. I know it`s all in Gods timing not mine, though I wonder I still would not have it any other way then Gods way.

Are you talking about not being looked at on here?

Just everything not looked at and no responces when I send out a email

its really just a crap shoot!!! its a game!- you just have to patient until its your turn to win

Like you said- everything in Gods time- when he feels the two of you are ready you will meet- just be calm and he will provide- but you already know that

There you go! :) Keep that in mind and HE will bless you with the one that is made for you...It will happen...I have a special needs sister and have worked with special needs children in the past and what a true blessing they really are...my sister is a highlight to our family and what innocence.....thats what God wants us to see...that child like innocence that HE wants us all to have. HE truely will bless you if you keep seekig HIS will. ..be patient..HIS timing is not ours and someone will come into your life that will accept ALL your children as the blessings they are!:)

Yes i would date someone like that i have three kids myself and two are considered special needs so yes whom ever i find if the time arises that I have the ability to be in another relationship other than friendship then yes i would not discriminate on the needs of a child i feel that my decision will be based solely on the way the man treats me cause if he isnt right to me im not risking him meeting my kids and if he is good to me but not to my kids then he can be out the door post haste .

i get looked at but in a "stop looking at me or i'm gonna call the cops!" kinda way

There are many reasons people don't "even get looked at", so just pray for God's will and all in His time. Good Luck on here!

It is very hard. I'm raising 3 children and have Lupus which makes it very hard for me to be "fun" a lot of the time. So, I know how you feel. I wish you all the best and don't worry about meeting someone here. It is unlikely even under the best of circumstances. You will find her one day.

I agree with msharmony.
But I also think that it takes a person of character and quality to be able to love a person for who they are despite any disabilities or unfavorable outside influences in a person's life. This can be applied to anyone really. Everyone has a 'past' which will affect their present circumstances.
A ethical and moral individual will be able to see past all 'flaws' in another and love that person for their inner self.
Sadly, a great many people will not take the deeper look. Or they will be more interested in their own self-interests and may not want to be burdened by another's problem. Too many people seek someone for "right now" as opposed to waiting for who is essentially "right" for them and has the capacity to love for all ages. This is the main reason that so many relationships will burn out after only a matter of months, or even a few years.
Everyone seems to want the "end result" (e.g. love, the fairy-tale ending, intimacy, sometimes even marriage etc.) NOW before taking the time to build the foundation. If there is no foundation of friendship established FIRST, the relationship will not be able to withstand the weight of burdens that life will inevitably place on the couple.
My advice to you is that you find someone with whom you are comfortable in being friends with first. Someone who you can talk to, enjoy spending time with them, and then build a foundation of commitment from there. Only then will that love endure the test of time. If not--if you jump into a relationship and go too fast, become close or intimate too soon, it may be great for a time, but it will not survive. And that is essentially what *most* people want--someone to grow old with and be with forever. In our younger years we must all remember that youthful beauty will always fade. But a love built on inner beauty, friendship, companionship will last an eternity.