Exactly................

I have never had a guy cheat on me. Ok, in high school maybe, but not as an adult.

just because two people say they love each other then have sex with someone else isn't cheating..cheating is what you do when playing cards or any game where you can...it's actually called"inculpable sex"

ya know i kill more threads when my intelligence shows....oh yeah its showing again sorry

I know I am only 20 and I dont claim to know everything. I have a lot more to know and experience but just because I am only 20 also does not mean that I am immature...honestly I am more immature then some 30,40,50 year olds....i have my life together more then they do...

why am i on a dating site? what kind of question is that....i joined this site over 2 years ago...and I dont really date anyone from here but getting into the forums and getting advice and meeting new people is always good. In this day and age its all about who you know not what you know, and you need to start networking as early as you can. Otherwise you will never survive.

People have survived for thousands and thousands of years without "networking" (by which, I am assuming you're talking about the internet). Also, It's ALWAYS about what you know, not who you know. Just like anything else in life, LEARN from the mistakes you make, so you (hopefully) don't make the same mistakes over and over again. Some folks never learn that.

Correction; without food, water, and shelter you will never survive...everything else is just "topping".

I have to bring this up..... I read this thread.... I read it again...


Ok...ready?


Somewhere in here you said every guy you have dated has said you were the best girlfriend....AFTER they had broken up with you...and they don't know why they let you go....

You also said...every guy has cheated on you...(except one?).



Ok....here comes the tough bit.....



What's the common denominator in all those relationships?




YOU.


You are the 'problem' you are having with men not wanting to be monogomous.

Are you clingy? Over attentive? Completely compliant? Emotionally dependent?

A really neat way of someone getting the hint, that 'I am just not that into you anymore'....is to have sex with someone else..sometimes it's the ONLY thing the dependent one will hear/see/accept...that it is over.

Think about it.

This keeps happening to YOU.


Hmmmm......So do something different to what you always do....to get a different result to what you are always getting.

I wasn't gonna say it.

Perfect. What she said.

And that is something I tell my kids all the time:

If you keep doing what you've been doing, you're gonna keep getting what you've been getting.

Were you being 'nice'?????

No i am not talking about the internet when i say networking....and i dont know what world you live in but with the economy the way it is now...it is about who you know not what you know......

i am definatly not dependent....I am 20 years old i work 2 jobs and go to school full-time....i also live in an apt by myself no roommates I take care of me....no one else does....im not obsessive over a guy....i dont call or txt repeatedly or constantly need to know where he is or who he is with....if you trust him you dont need to know those things.....im also not the jealous girlfriend....i have guy friends some of which are my best friends and if the guy im seeing cant accept that then go find someone who will let you control your friends because that girl will not be me...

people cheat because they want to..

there is no excuse for cheating regardless of what reason the person gives...

...thank you.

....ok. I'm starting to understand why he cheated on you. Ha ha ha!

This may not be apopular answer but i believe it to be the true answer. I do speak from experience both being a cheater and being cheated on. Men have a need to cheat as they have a need to pass their genes on to as many women (who they think will be suitable mates), as possible. Its a primordal desire of our early ancestors or do you believe the hollywood films were cavemen and women were happily paired of. Women have the need to seek a partner who will bear them good offspring.
Thats why if you look at the women men cheat with, most are nothing special to look at where as a woman is more choosey with whom they cheat.

.....I really see now why. Ha ha ha. Analytical narcissism usually don't fly very well. For the first two weeks of your relationship he thought your name was "I" because that's all that came out of your mouth. Ahhh go easy on the next guy, lay off the caffiene, and skip a few of your self affirmation meetings and everything will be fine.

if you were still on this site while you were with him then theres your answer

dont act like you know me....you know nothing about me, who I am, or where i come from .....i can see why you have never been married....