Why do guys feel the need to cheat? Why do they think they can get away with it and that the female will never find out? I know girls cheat too...but im looking for what goes on in a guys mind...

ok - i'll give it a shot.

men and women cheat for the same basic reason.
they are not happy in their relationship.

Some men do it---because there brain is in there di-k! Some times!!

Because we can!!

Only kidding.

A list....

-not happy in their relationship.
-wife has let herself go
-because men are ********
-alcohol and drugs
-peer pressure

....and many more.

ok i will narrow it down a little bit.....i know for a fact it is not because he was not happy in the relationship....i dont want to brag but i have been told by ex's that i was the best girlfriend they ever had and the one thing they regret is letting me go....but the person i am specifically talking about didnt just cheat once...i found out tonight that he has been with 7 other girls in the last 4 days....and when i got a phone call from my best friend saying she just saw him at the bar...asking me if we broke up because he was all over some girl and making out with her...i went to the bar...yes im not old enough to get in but i was lucky enough that they were outside smoking...and he had his arms wrapped around her....i confronted him and he acted like he didnt even know who i was....

Hun, that's not about cheating.....that's about the character of that particular man. Obviously he wants to play you. Run away fast. He's not worth even your time to worry over it.

well then honestly...its because he could. No other reason. Its not you..hes just an ***.

problem with this....is i have been cheated on by every guy i have dated except one...some say its the guys i pick...but honestly i have dated all types of guys...bad boys to good guys....yet they all cheat....and it has always been with girls younger then me....this last particular one he had younger older didnt matter but there were a lot...i only know about 7 but im sure there are more....im not looking for sympathy...just answers because i cant figure it out on my own anymore....

oh - sorry to hear about that.

he obviosly does not consider that he is even in a relationship. may not know what a relationship is...probably such things do not concern him...

i dont think he even knows what it is like to be in a committed relationship although he is 24....i think he has been playing girls his entire life and has never actually been in a real relationship before....im not trying to bash him....but what makes guys be that way....is it something that happened to them as a child or is it what media makes you think you should do....i just can not wrap my mind around this....i would never dream of being unfaithful....if you want to be unfaithful you might as well end it and have your fun being single instead of hurting someone....

i think you have hit the nail on the head. you are not meeting guys who are interested in a committed relationship. they ARE out there but you are not finding each other. it should be an early question - "what type of relationship are you interested in?" you should make it clear that you are interested in serial monogamy - to spend time to get to know each other before moving on...perhaps not even moving on...there are many guys who would be quite happy to have a dedicated girlfriend and lover. but you still have to find them.

there are a lot of guys (and girls) who are "just looking"...but you may not want to be just a piece of candy at the tasting table...

You are trying to make sense of something you don't have a frame of reference for. And even if you did it wouldn't make sense because he isn't about making or breaking a relationship.

Sounds like you got tangled up with someone who has bigger problems than just cheating. My guess for much of his life he has had attachment problems probably from neglect as a child. From what you describe he may well be a sex addict and or drug involved or both.

Count your blessings this guy has lost interest in you. I would get a serious check up and stay out of his path since it is sounds like he has serious self destructive mode and will probably take several bystanders down right along with him..

possibly its because people have a strong uncontrollable need to spread their genes around. The more people you breed with the better you chance for success.

So, why are you on a dating site? And, guys cheat because they want some *****! They think they're smarter than their girl, or they'll give themselves some excuse like, "we're not that serious." or they'll do it because they want to...

I say all us chickies become lesbians, because girls know what girls need.

He's 24, you're 20. To be perfectly honest and blunt, neither one of you have grown up yet....probably him arguably more than you at this point.

You are far too young to start attending the "door mat" school. Let this time waster go! Do you seriously want to sleep with every other female he has slept with? Think about it, how do you know for certain he has used protection, can you trust his word hen he tells you he has?

See why we don't put **** on the internet when we go and say something stupid?

some men don't believe in monogamy....they want some strange.

Kayla...viewed your profile for clues on why this seems to happen to you with such regularity.
Some might suggest that it isn't due to the kind of guys you choose to become intimate with.
It's your generation.
IMHO, many of us here on mingle2 who are a bit older than you (I'm 49...)are continually dismayed by the apparent widespread degradation of morals and character which seems to escalate with every new generation. There are shining contradictions to this in many individuals who make the news.
Incidently, have you read the news lately? How many sports figures are in trouble with the law? How many celebrities are celebrities simply because of their looks, ABILITY to be determined later (Megan Fox...can she actually ACT? We'll see...), and how many of them behave badly in public? And how many who CONSUME the "products" of these various celebs PUNISH said behavior by BOYCOTTING THEM?
What do they do instead?
THEY BUY MORE OF THEIR CDS, TICKETS TO THE EVENTS THEY APPEAR IN, ETC. This is a telling factor.
However, in contrast to other nations who actually REVERE those who are older and quite possibly a bit more wise, THE OPPOSITE is true in this country. We worship youth and beauty, and to be old is to be ignored.
...and you're being constantly cheated on...
Funny old world, ain't it?
POSSIBLE SOLUTION: Get involved in community service...services for the elderly, the disabled, the homeless...and seek your new man in these environments.
It's a start.

Men cheat because they want to put their thingy in more than 1 person.

And obviously they dont love that person. If they did, they would think twice.