Everyone has their own personal preference when dating.

I don't date someone that is separated for a number of different reasons (regardless of the length of separation).

One being that I find that a marriage contract as sacred. Until the divorce is legal, I won't date the person. Secondly, like mentioned by OP, there are individuals that as soon as they are separated start to date. Since the purpose of the separation is to determine if divorce can be adverted and the marriage saved, I will not put myself in the middle. Thirdly, those that are separated and in the process of a divorce need time to figure things out and I am not the person to help them do that.

This is a no brainer...
separated, intimate encounter, 69 in the user name
McDude wants to get Mclaid for no more than the price of a Mcburger and fries.
Honestly now, who's gonna tap that?

Ugh, I had a friend who still does that. They were married for 3 years, divorced for 9, yet they still "hook up" because he's the best she's ever had. So every woman he tries to be with just has to deal with that, because she refuses to keep him out of her life.

Wow. Heck, I didn't wanna sleep with mine then--why would I want to now?!

I would have to agree with Beauty on this one though...

It's a pathetic story, she "can't date" because of her 3 kids, so she contents herself with being with him whenever she can.

Ive done it, ya know.. I had burned that memory out of my mind.. when 2 days ago he reminded me. *rolls eyes*


O Christ!

Married = Married
Separated = Married
Divorced = Divorced

I don't want to be with some one else's husband regardless of their living arrangements.

First let me say everyones entitled to a opinion.

I would like to explain some things to people because not all separated men are looking for a sex partner, or on the rebound.

The slingwing69 user name comes from the 24 years I flew as a helo rescue crewman and my first team gave me the number 69 that was put onto my helmet.

Secondly, Intimacy comes in many different forms, it does not always mean sex, it can be closeness, simple hugs, holding hands, telling each other personal thoughts and feelings, and canot happen if you are alone.

The separation did give us time to talk and make the decision on getting a divorce. That decision was not made overnight, and it was a dificult one, but as some have said we both were not happy and we needed to change that.

You can try to justify yourself all day long. You are married (period). To a smart woman that equals TROUBLE.

Good luck!

Most women that are dating are looking for someone special, someone to fall in love with and make a commitment to. You, being a SEPARATED man, are walking around with a giant waving banner that reads "I do NOT honor my commitments."

Marriage is, after all, in it's essence a commitment to one another for the rest of your lives, in sickness and in health, good times and bad, blah blah blah. Or so the institution used to represent. Maybe you didn't include those concepts in your vows. If you did, you are now planning on breaking them, even if you both agree the reason is valid. Or perhaps this is just one of those bad times. Until the divorce is final, prospective women can't be sure. They are looking at two options...you don't honor your commitments, or you do and you'll go back. That's a no win situation.

In my eyes, it shouldn't matter what your status is, but rather where your heart is. The sad truth is, as evidenced by the numerous posts on here, it does. If you're ready to move on, whether it's for sex, or to fall madly in love again, only you can know. If you're honest with the women you encounter in what your intentions are, you can have exactly what you are looking for. Because there is someone out there looking for the same thing. Regardless of what that is. Be honest and you really can't go wrong.

Good luck in your quest.

The Banner you talk about in my case reads SHE COULD NOT HONOR THE COMMITMENT... TWICE!

It costs $35 for the marrage, it costs much more for the divorce.

therefore I'm currently seperated, I'll let my record speak for itself.... Trust me or do not... your choice.

wow, so a woman who's been abused should 'honour her committment'?

a man whose wife has been discovered in their bed with another man, maybe even more than once, should 'honour his committment'?

even if those examples are extreme, i don't think two people who've lost the love should have to stay together, in misery maybe, for the rest of their lives out of some honour to a committment. things change, feelings change, life changes. and so we change with it.

Absolutely not! In both those circumstances you cited, they are not breaking their commitment by leaving...it is the other person, the abuser, the cheater, that has broken the vows, shattered the commitment and promises they made to love, honor, cherish, etc. I in no way believe that two people that abuse one another in any sense should stay together out of some honor code. That's not what I was saying at all.

I was merely pointing out that most women don't want to get involved with a separated man just because he's separated, which I believe is wrong, exactly for the reasons you stated. One knows not what someone has gone through, or reasons behind things. If you dismiss them before understanding the circumstances, you may be passing over a very kind decent person. Which is why I advised the OP to be honest.

And while I do agree that two people shouldn't stay together in misery forever just "to honor the commitment", I feel too many are quick to jump to divorce these days instead of trying to find ways to rekindle the romance, work through issues, compromise in wants and needs. Sure people change and grow apart, but it happens for a reason. Nothing worth having comes easy, and sometimes great happiness can come from overcoming difficulties.

I was only offering my opinion. Didn't mean to offend anyone or condone abuse. I worked 911 for many years and encouraged womem over and over to leave abusers, commitment or not. Hope this clarifies for ya a bit.

Not McMee.

also xxUsernamexxx is kinda lame too.

Your profile says you are looking for a woman for intimate encounter. So, you are just looking for someone to have sex with?

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Amen...
I just don't want to be entangled with somebody's unfinish business..
Good luck to you tho...