he sure dose....

Tis the season for depression.

If you're like most of us here on JSH, then you're single for the holidays, and feeling the pangs of loneliness.

How are you all coping? I know I'm pretty bummed.

i hear that wii....my marriage broke up this year, and this will be the first time i have had to spend a holiday alone in a very long time..i am not looking forward to it at all.

it's bittersweet for me............i'm feeling everything, but the most prevalent feeling is the mind numbing depression

Well since this is a group about depression..
I just thought I'd pop in here.. I've tried killing myself before.. It's not the answer, I was found thank God, so I was saved just in time. It took several hours for the doctors to get me back. Here I am today, trying to help out others. I use to have a group for people who were depressed, I also had a rape support group. They both really helped alot of people out. I think just talking about what's going on in your life makes things seem alot more less complicated. :)
Anyways guess I'll leave ya'll alone for now with my babbling

The cutest, sweetest, bravest soldier boy I know left for Iraq yesterday and my heart is breaking.

Don't cry OneGoofyDame
There's no need to cry... Be happy for him, he's doing what he feels is right! You shouldn't cry but have faith in him, that he will return home a hero to his country.. I hope all goes well, my friend!

That has to be very difficult. He is a hero, and the people who support him at home are heroes also!

Hi Kittykat...thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Hiya peeps, thank you for your concern. It is appreciated.
Welcome to those I have not aknowleged.....hugs,

Karen

np karen always here for ya
well almost a week in im not sure
its really quiet there and i dont know if i can do the job or if it will be long term but im trying to go with it

Sometimes I wonder if I was ever meant to live in this world. I'm so different from everybody I know. I often feel like I'm just lurking in the shadows of other people, because they've all done something great and something to write home about, but me, I have nothing. I have a simple life, where I get up, goto work, come home, and goto sleep. I'm not pretty, cute, handsome, or fun, happy, great to be around. I'm just a hairy guy with a beer gut, and I don't even drink beer. I feel like a damn platypus made from different parts of every other creature, and has no real use in the world except be there. I once had dreams of going to Australia and Japan, but the more I live the more I know I will never see those places in my life. I'm almost 26 and I've done nothing special, just been here in life trying to swim through the murk.

i totally understand cloudy
i wanna go to new zealand
its also wierd cause i studyed in college for so long to get a nice computer job now i have one and i kinda long to be a clerk at a gas station again..
life plays funny games on us (its gods or what evers humor)

just found this off my facebook it used ot cheer me up maybe it will cheer people up
it might just cheer me up again


Thinking of you, Where ever your are?
We pray for our sorrows to end.
and hope that our hearts will blend.
Now I will step forward to realize this wish.

And who knows?
Starting a new journey may not be so hard.
Or maybe it has begun?

There are many worlds, but they share the same sky.
One Sky.
One Destiny.

Thanks, Kittykat.

Thanks also, mbcasey.

Cloudy...you can do anything you want to do. At 26, you still have your life ahead of you. It is up to you to start making positive changes to make yourself happy. I know it is easier said than done. I am extremely down on myself and have been feeling very lonely and have been isolating myself from others when I am not at work. I also just seem to wake up, go to work, come home and sleep, but I am going to start making positive changes. For example...after a bad relapse, I am sober again and I am going to start my weight loss program on Dec. 1st. I know it will be a long, tough road ahead of me, but Rome was not built in a day and the journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. You can absolutely travel to the places you want to visit. You can do anything you dream.

You are right onegoofydame...you have to grab life and make something of it yourself. Noone else will live it for you and noone will knock on your door and hand you the keys to happiness. Great you are sober (I have 7.5 years of sobriety) and are going to start a weight loss program (I lost 120 lbs last year). You are also right that being patient is important. Being patient though can have a drawback. You can always say to yourself, "I have time to lose weight, so I will diet tomorrow and eat this bucket of chicken tonight". I have found everyday is a battle of patience and you have to fight hard and not give in. It gets easier as time goes on.

Good luck to you...I am pulling for you and if you need help, there are alot of people here to help, including me!

Ken

Cloudy...same advice (and I am no expert, but I have been there). If you are unhappy, you have to do something about it. Noone came to my house and said poof, you are now 120 lbs lighter. Noone came to me and said, "I want to date you". I had to bust a gut (no pun intended...well maybe...) to lose weight, become sober and manage my bipolar. I also busted a gut and went through so many rejections trying to find someone to love. I send many,many e-mails to women on dating sites. I did manage to date a few and luckily fell in love. It didn't work out, but I am back in the game.

You are only 26...how would you like to be 45 years old, never married, no kids, no job, and live at home with your parents? Well, that is me today. That COULD be you if you keep the negative thoughts going and not do anything to change the way you live. Go on a diet, work out, start jogging, change jobs, move. Do anything it takes to make yourself a happier and more positive person. I have seen you here and other places for over a year now, and you are a very nice guy. There is nothing wrong with you. A woman would be lucky to have a man as sensitive and compassionate as you are. You have alot to offer someone, but a woman doesn't want someone doubting themselves or has no self confidence. Go out and get that confidence!! It takes time and effort, but it is so well worth it!

Good luck to you and I will pray for you!!

Ken


sorry, but I am in a lecturing mood tonight!!

Lots of good advise tonight. I just got home from school. Keeping busy and being around others of like mind has helped me a lot. I was a total hermit b4 I started school again. I was terrified. I even tried to kill myself two weeks b4 school started I was so down. Twice!

I was lucky no one called the 5150 patrol. But I went and now things are better. I still get really down and the thoughts to hurt myself still come and go, but it is true, grab for that brass ring! What the hell do you have to lose? A little sleep here and there?

I have filled my sched to the hilt with things to do for the next week. Makes me feel like I belong. Helping out in the class, lectures, xtra credit classes to work on fiberglass forms, color my daughters hair in between ( she is an actress so I'm forever doing her hair, lol) and more. I know when there are not so many things to do, I get down, but grab for that ring, I do!

I have been so down and no one knows why. Not even me, so I know it has to be chemical. I know I have to swallow my sanity everyday to survive, and even then, it is always an uphill battle. I have lost about 65 lbs this last year and going to school and even know what I want to be when I grow up, hahaha......please, don't hermit up. Hermiting kills your soul. You need people around to interact with.

Sh!t.....look at me talking...All I know is the alot of people have some good advise and it may not be what you want to hear, BUT it just might be what you need to hear.

GRAB for the brass ring!!!!

Karen