Aside from the fact that any blanket statement will be wrong, why do you want to know? and would it do any good?

If I said men want instant chemistry, would that help?

If I said that men want a woman to take care of them or a woman to support them or a woman who is a challenge... would you change yourself to be that?

For what it is worth, I always wanted a woman who could see the best of me. A woman who would remind me of it when I lost sight of it.

You want a mommy?

no. I think the word I would use is inspiration.

A man is at his absolute best when he is "doing" for something of import. We can work for money or respect, but to have your accomplishments reflected in the eyes of the woman you love defines you in a sublime way.

I can't speak for ALL men here, but for me,,,many things..

She needs to show,,a smile, ability to converse, lol,if not lead a conversation..for me,,not very off in the weight section as to her frame,,she need not be thin, but beyund a few pounds over, I would
not really be looking her way very hard,ITS a ME THING..
She does not have to be pretty, but cute, or a cute smile to show, will over ride A LOT of her features SHE may not like,,in my eyes..
Looks really are not my main focus,,,if I were to talk to them out some place, and they shyly,,,turned from conversation, I probably wouldn't persue her, as she might not like to talk,,and that leaves
the two of us,,NOT MUCH to do,lol
BUT then again, I have met SOME ladies,,who in a stranger hello, to conversing,,THEY ,,,talk,and talk,and talk,but say really nothing as for me to join in with her,,,Like she is very relaxed talking with me, but COULD CARE less, what I was thinking,,,not cool..lol

WE all need a LOOK, a WAY, a THEM, that allows us men to see them, and stand out from others who we are looking at,wink,,,lol

A sense of humor, sexy,,,,,eye,or,smile,or,lips,or,legs,oe,asss,
but SOMETHING that makes are eyes STARE at her ,,,,,?

Then we or most, want someone who is real,,,,honesty,,,
Someone we can believe in, and trust...
Compassion for are labor,,,,and care we show them..
Sexy,,but not like a stripper when out,wink,,lol
romantic, caring, and DEVOTED,,,is really nice to feel,wink,,
WELL,,this is a small start,,,anyway,,,lol

I see...

This can be a very complex question....Some are just looking for someone to sleep with while others something more. I just depends how shallow of a person they are. Chemistry is definately a initial point of attraction. But, as we all know that new car smell soon wears out and mens eyes and thoughts begin to wander. For myself, I look for something more....Sometimes its a certain twinkle and spark in her eye. Other times it is a captivately smile that just says, "I have got to find out what her name is and see what she is all about".
Then, from there...sky is the limit..the first kiss, a long warm hug and the aluring smell of a new perfume.

Well...it would help her " practice " stifling her gag reflex...lmao

Honestly, the first thing that I look for and/or notice is a girl, is her personality. If I don't like her personality than it is obviously someone that I can't see myself even trying to be with. And considering that I like intellectual people, if they carry themselves as if they know they are smart but they don't boast about it, I find that quite attractive.

as a man, i look for intellect, charm, pride, (but not ego) and sex appeal. As far as features, most are pleasing. Personally I think anything more than a handful and a half is a waste. (as chest sizes go) Confidence is really, really sexy.

I volunteer to be assigned to you for practice *wink wink*
LOL

well hello there

I can give a truthful and real answer to this question. But, it would only make the women angry and the men would deny that it's true. So, instead I'll give you a book to read. It's called "The Red Queen, Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature" by Matt Ridly. If you really want to know what men or women for that matter, really want in a mate this book will teach you what it is. And it's all hard scientific research.

what if we don't how to read?

Then you are SOL. Or you can look for my answer to this same question in the 30 and 40 forum.

Thats a good question.

I do know that a woman I found quite attractive last year is not so attractive this yr. In the interactions with her I found, she doesn't have a personality that clicks with me.

I like a woman who is free with her affection, where I don't feel that I have to steal every kiss. Or jump through a lot of hoops each time to initiate sex.

A woman who says "I have never tried that before, lets try it, or lets go there. Who says "I want to do X,W,Z,"

A woman who has ideas of her own.

yay for you!



you discovered it.ok so you don't win anything.....

I'm just looking for someone who will go good with the seasonings I have gathered through the years...

you're so picky

Have to be picky, I want this to be the best meal...err..."together"...yea, best meal "together"...