paul, how do we dig it out of your?
perhaps you might like to start a 'paul's dalliances' thread?

Ruewen,
when i saw yr post "at least i
would know the guy liked me for who i am and not because im pretty!"

i was like....
speechless.

well, the death touch for me is when a lady tells me, how she really
appreciates our friendship. that i'm a good and reliable friend. and
it's hard to find friends like you.

Death Touch: Dim Mak!

If you want him to stop, just tell him/her. You have to be direct and
honest or they will never get the point. I had a guy at work who would
come up and put his arm around me. It irritated me because I didn't like
him at all. I told him "get your hands off me". It was direct and a
little rude, but he has never touched me again.

tell him straight out! that or tell him your gay! lol!

to ruewen,
I checked with an attorney who is a partner of mine in a Laundromat. I
am an attorney myself, but my license expired in California a few years
ago.
The way to end it is this. Take it off your hands. Go buy a mini tape
recorder that fits in a breast pocket of a tee shirt. That is the size
you want. You can put it anywhere on your person. Make sure it is the
type that is voice activated, only about $10 more. Keep it on your
person and wait until he advances on you again. You will get the whole
conversation. Tell him everything negative. Try to get him doing it
twice and then go to a camera shop and ask them to make a copy of the
little tiny cassette that you recorded. Keep the copy safe. Make an
appointment with Human Resources management. When you get there, play
the tape for them or who ever is in charge. Ask them politely to please
take care of the problem expeditiously.
Then it becomes their problem and bet they will move swiftly to avoid
your lawsuit because you have cause for action once they are advised.
Case closed. (If they make the mistake of firing you, the suit you can
bring against them for wrongful termination will be so sweet that you
will never need to work again.

But something tells you are just looking for attention of which you have
gotten plenty and no doubt will get a lot more when my answer hit the
presses. Sure it is hard to get people to talk here, but you just did
it, Congratulations.

THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO IS 'BEAT AROUND THE BUSH' BE UPFRONT STAND
TALL AND TELL HIM YOU DONT WANT ANYTHING WITH HIM,AND THAT FRIENDS ARE
FINE,I DONT WORRY ABOUT HURTING ANY FEELINGS IF I FEEL THE SITUATION
ISNT RIGHT FOR ME,ILL BE BLUNT ABOUT IT AND IF HE STILL DOESNT BACK OFF
DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!

I have had a rule of no dating co-workers since ai had a bad experience
once and had to look at the jerk everyday after that.
I made that rule and it really comes in handy. Has saved e alot of heart
ache.
If I really like the guy then one of us has to find another job.Then you
really find out how serious they are! LOL

andrew those are halarious! ruewen honey you just gotta be straight out
blunt and honest with guys like that!

i agree, i think the only way is to be direct and tell him that you are
not interested and that it should be kept strictly professional.

LMAO don't tell him your gay it will only get worse! Just say something
like Jim, you're a nice guy and a good friend and I'd never want to muck
it up with a relationship. Then give him an award winning smile and
leave.

well for one if that is your real pic you are prity and being prity and
trying to give hints that you are not interestid dont work im shur you
dont whanna but you need to be blunt and tell him that the flirting is
to much and you are not interested in him yes its hard but if you dont
it will get really bad

Hey Ruewen,
If you were looking for attention you got it, I do not believe a word of
the story though most decent looking women get hit on even in church.
Anyway, I already answered in the foregoing and come back to find you
are still milking this. I believe you are just lonely, the prettiest
women are, they intimidate the greater part of the "guy pool." How many
Saturday nights have you spent alone?
Anyway, I just received a professional journal with an article on
harassment in the workplace and a New York City Superior Court Judge
awarded a very lovely lady $million due to repeated harassment by her
employers, the partners in a law firm where she is up for partnership.
She stuck a mini-recorder in her brassiere, voice activated and caught
the offenders who acknowledged their names as she spoke them and then
madee disparaging remarks to her.

I still think this is a figment of your imagination to get the
attention you got and I suppose you have every right to it.
Good Luck, stop by and Just say Hi sometime.

just come out and tell them your not into it.

be honest,and if he doesnt listen, be harsh... tell him to go away you
dont want anything to do with him... it works for me...lol...{:)

If he aint gettin that ur not interested just tell him to f*** off. you
might feel bad but he will finally back off

well, I'd be blatantly honest with him and say that I wasn't interested
in him and that I didn't appreciate his behavior. Of course, knowing
myself the way I do, it probably wouldn't be worded that way.

Or you could damage his ego...tell him something along the lines of,
"You're just like one of the girls."

Or scare him off with some offhand comment like, "So the Doctor's office
just called and I only have to take the antibiotics for a week before
the dripping stops."

or casually mention how paranoid schizophrenia runs in your family but
the doctor thinks the medication should stop your homicidal tendencies.

just a few ideas...

Just be honest, honesty is the best way , just if the flirting becomes
to much just tell him you need to have 5 kids all in a row and a goth
wedding haha freak him out but if he asks you out just tell this person
your not interested in them that way and want to just be friends. I mean
if you dont be honest and beat around the bush you'll probably just make
it worse or the person will end up hurt.

Tell them you have a very jealous boyfriend or an over protect brother
who'll kill them if they breathe my way; this usually work for me:)

tell him you're a dyke.


Sorry, I had to find one of the oldest questions on here and bring it back, it's over a year old...hahaha

just for ****s and giggles