I didn't answer ruewens original question, but what I learned from my ex
was to be really, really sad. I learned that because you love and trust
someone doesn't mean they won't lie to you. And you can't change how
someone else feels. If they decide after years of marriage they don't
love you any more, then you can't make them remember and feel that love
again. It just doesn't work. Okay, now I will dry my tears and go for a
bike ride.

Who pay? I pay if I invite the guy out. But he pays if he invites me
out. If we are meeting somewhere, I pay for my stuff. If he wants to pay
and insists, I am good with that too. This whole question about who pays
is kind of silly. Why not tell the person up front if you are worried
about it. Start out clear with them.

Andrew, you need some original lines. How about, "If you tell me you
love me and then change your mind, you will really piss me off"? Or,
"Lying and loving don't mix". You seem like a really clever guy, come up
with something original!

How long ago did this happen? You need to give it time, I'd say a few
months at least to feel better. Try some new things.

Danny, sounds like you've been really hurt. I think you need to take it
easy and not try to get back into a dating relationship right away. You
seem really angry and resentful of what happened to you and that is a
normal, human feeling. If you try to keep busy, do some fun things,
things that you like to do and that don't remind you of the person that
hurt you, you will get over the pain. It takes time, though. Being along
is hard, but it's not the end of the world and it will help you get some
perspective on the situation.

If you want him to stop, just tell him/her. You have to be direct and
honest or they will never get the point. I had a guy at work who would
come up and put his arm around me. It irritated me because I didn't like
him at all. I told him "get your hands off me". It was direct and a
little rude, but he has never touched me again.