...but i have a question:

when you love a person... and that person says he/she needs time from the relationship because they are going through some things they want to sort out alone...

do you get offended by that?

do you cease to call or care about them during the time that they are not your bf/gf?

what do you do?

(i'd especially like to hear it from a male point of view but anyone is welcome to offer input here)

The end is near.....opinion only.What i do is hope.

THIS HAS HAPPENED TO ME BEFORE AND IT IS ALWAYS THE BEGINNING OF THE END OF THE RELATIONSHIP....SO EMOTIONAL....

I asked for two week break once and it went downhill after that. It hurt his feelings.

I would probably assume its almost over

so you guys, while thinking the end is near, would do what exactly...?

Cut it off at the pass.

Jas?? Why on Earth would you think you were " bothering " us with a question you need an answer to???

k

thanks guys.

I'm sure he thinks you want to break up with him.

how old is this guy?

because i've seen posts where people complain about people posting their personal issues for attention... i've been wary of doing that ever since

If a guy tried to float that balogne with me I would say "Sure Darlin you can have your break" and that would be the end of him.

I can see someone being in pain or overworked and saying "Honey I am having a tough time keeping up but if I am the lowest priority in his life for long I would be gone then too.

You live your life waiting for your "turn" I can pretty much tell you it never comes.

the guy who was asked for the break is 22

give him some latitude, but if you don't feel loved then you know what to do I hope. I once asked for a break when I was young cause I didn't want her to get sick of me - twisted thinking, but I was young...

My son's dad went berserk when I wanted some time away. If he had let me have the time off......maybe we would be still together????

Probably not...but he should have respected me enough to give me some space.

I know you might not want my advice. Ok I KNOW you dont.

Beyond the "hes gonna leave you" warning signs another question is:

Why doesnt he want to share his problems with you?


For me.. The only reason I would say that is if I didnt think I could sustain the relationship. Like if I was worried about money or if I didnt think I could get along with your family. Im the worrying type. I think like that, maybe your SO doesnt.


Botton line; ask him! press him for a least a hint or something.


I can understand a person getting mad or upset and not wanting to talk about something at that moment. But if he cant open up, then well... not good.

hon... let him know whats up. make that contact. make that effort to let him know its not something that can be helped and if he could just let you go through this alone.. then next time maybe you'll trust him enough to be there for you.

thats all there is to it.

its in his hands now darlin.

I'd prefer a thread like this over a nice guys finish last one.