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even if what she has to think about has nothing to do with you? If it causes you to take time out from the relationship...it certainly does have something to do with him, even though the topic you are pondering doesn't. |
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i'm going to bed. thanks again. night OK, you keep changing on me, first you changed shirts, now you took off your pants..  Can't blame a girl for changing her mind; keeps things interesting, LOL  Nope, I wouldnt blame you for nothing, lol 
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i'm going to bed. thanks again. night OK, you keep changing on me, first you changed shirts, now you took off your pants.. Can't blame a girl for changing her mind; keeps things interesting, LOL Nope, I wouldnt blame you for nothing, lol give it time, you will...everyone else does. 
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Men generally view this as a "heads up" or "Two week notice"
in that a break up is coming. If real insecure, they may panic. If more mature, they may call after the two weeks. Or wait to hear from you. They may just go away..... |
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get rid ASAP!
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Edited by
John1932
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Wed 07/29/09 03:46 PM
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i'm going to bed. thanks again. night OK, you keep changing on me, first you changed shirts, now you took off your pants.. Can't blame a girl for changing her mind; keeps things interesting, LOL Nope, I wouldnt blame you for nothing, lol give it time, you will...everyone else does. Yep your right....
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...but i have a question: when you love a person... and that person says he/she needs time from the relationship because they are going through some things they want to sort out alone... do you get offended by that? do you cease to call or care about them during the time that they are not your bf/gf? what do you do? (i'd especially like to hear it from a male point of view but anyone is welcome to offer input here) My question is how long have you been together? Aside from that, what else can you do? You can't force a relationship so give some space. If you feel the need to let that person know that you will wait while they sort through their issues, I would find out if the "wait time" involves dating others. Guage how you feel about that. If you're ok with that then date..if not of course it is up to you. It is what it is. I would suggest giving that person space because the phrase "you never know what you have til it's gone" comes to mind. Good luck and remember everything happens for a reason. |
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My question is how long have you been together? Aside from that, what else can you do? You can't force a relationship so give some space. If you feel the need to let that person know that you will wait while they sort through their issues, I would find out if the "wait time" involves dating others. Guage how you feel about that. If you're ok with that then date..if not of course it is up to you. It is what it is. I would suggest giving that person space because the phrase "you never know what you have til it's gone" comes to mind. Good luck and remember everything happens for a reason. Solid advice. I think I may take this as well. |
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i'm kinda going through that right now....of-course it hard, but anything great is worth waiting for, and we have to learn to understand within reason what they may be going through. you can't force it anyway, and if you do, you'll lose them and more. it's hard with feelings entertwined, and the smother issue you have to watch also. feel it out, and be supportive if you think it'll go somewhere....good luck!
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Hi, my name is Darrell, If I truely loved her. I think I would give her some space, and call her once a week to make sure she is ok. I would call more only if she requested it, and needed my shoulder to cry on. But I would never be to clingly in the first place, and being a childrens book author, I need my own space, ahahahaha, wonder if she would give me mine?
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I'd be offended I would probaly tell the person good luck and good bye
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Hi, my name is Darrell, If I truely loved her. I think I would give her some space, and call her once a week to make sure she is ok. I would call more only if she requested it, and needed my shoulder to cry on. But I would never be to clingly in the first place, and being a childrens book author, I need my own space, ahahahaha, wonder if she would give me mine? Wow. You've been on mingle2 for over a year and your first post was to this thread... and it was very helpful too. Thanks. 
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I'd be offended I would probaly tell the person good luck and good bye  |
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i'm going to bed. thanks again. night OK, you keep changing on me, first you changed shirts, now you took off your pants.. Can't blame a girl for changing her mind; keeps things interesting, LOL Nope, I wouldnt blame you for nothing, lol give it time, you will...everyone else does. Yep your right.... 
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I'd be offended I would probaly tell the person good luck and good bye I have major rejection issues, I'd probably do the same thing. |
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People have different personalities; some regroup themselves and regain perspective and energy by taking time alone, while other people regroup their thoughts/feelings by open discussions with other people. Some people need to be alone sometimes, whereas others cannot stand to be alone at all. Everyone is different; there is no right or wrong. What is needed here, in my opinion, is good communication on what each person needs/wants from the relationship. And, when time alone is needed, there is an agreement that this is ok with each person.
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Jasmine,
I can hear the confusion... All I can do is share my story...7 years ago, I met a guy...and yes it was instant...for both of us. We spent almost 4 years together, we fought, we loved, we challenged each other on EVERYTHING. He moved away, I chose to stay... Did I love him? yes. Did he love me? yes. For almost 3 years we were apart...the one thing I had said prior to his leaving was..."When you are ready, come Home." About 5 months ago...he rang me, yes, we were still the best of mates....that's what love is.... anyways, he rang...and said..." I'm coming Home." We take time out within our relationship... I require some space from the dynamics of 'us'... so does he. Is a death knoll for the relationship? No, it's the opposite. Love doesn't have a limitation, love is the accepting of the individual needs of each person. Hope this helps a little... |
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Jasmine, I can hear the confusion... All I can do is share my story...7 years ago, I met a guy...and yes it was instant...for both of us. We spent almost 4 years together, we fought, we loved, we challenged each other on EVERYTHING. He moved away, I chose to stay... Did I love him? yes. Did he love me? yes. For almost 3 years we were apart...the one thing I had said prior to his leaving was..."When you are ready, come Home." About 5 months ago...he rang me, yes, we were still the best of mates....that's what love is.... anyways, he rang...and said..." I'm coming Home." We take time out within our relationship... I require some space from the dynamics of 'us'... so does he. Is a death knoll for the relationship? No, it's the opposite. Love doesn't have a limitation, love is the accepting of the individual needs of each person. Hope this helps a little... wow, that was beautifully said. and yes, it does help. alot. |
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...but i have a question: when you love a person... and that person says he/she needs time from the relationship because they are going through some things they want to sort out alone... do you get offended by that? Offended, no. But the only times anyone has ever said that to me were after they fully realized I was not going to be domesticatable. It's always a prelude to "He won't change for me, maybe it's time to end this." |
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