Whew, good.

Girl, this is the best advice I can give you.

1. YOU did nothing wrong. It was Gods will, he has to End things so he can have you open 5 more doors.

What most do not understand, even I, is that The person that is guilty gets rewarded, and the person that is not guilty suffers.. The question is why. the person who is guilty will never feel sorry for you even if you want them too.

YOU can not get revenge, you can not hate, you can not wish.

Because in the end it is wasted time of pain an suffering you caused your body to wallow in self pity asking your self Why??? Why??? why??

2. MOURN>>>> YOU must first do this.. It took me 3 yrs to morn because my husband no longer wanted his family. HE had a women on the side for 12yrs all together out of 26yrs. So the Mourning you are going to do is not for HIM>>>>> it is for YOUR Feelings and emotions for your HEART AND SOUL... YOU did everything you could have done... leave it as that.

3. I moved to another state, I left my family, friends, my career. everything... and I regret it every day of my life. I have never fit into this Oklahoma world. it is not me, it is not for me and I am nothing like them. I do not think or act or re act like they think i should... So if you love your home.. DON'T MOVE....... DON'T RUN AWAY LIKE I DID.. IT IS NOT WORTH IT....

4. Now! that you have finished hating, and feeling you could have done something.. NO you could not have.. again IT is Gods will because the other person did not respect you.. SO GOD TOOK THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE, TO SAVE YOU... BECAUSE HE LOVES YOU THAT MUCH. So let him do his job..... bringing you a much better person.

5. The moment we tell are self's... in a relationship. Gee I hate it when (????) dose that it really bugs me... or when they say! That dang women all she dose is clean and clean it drives me nuts, i know it is her job but gee quit cleaning. That is when God comes in and changes that situation.. So be careful what you say and what words you use.. it might change your life. or theirs.

6. Go do all the things you have always wanted to do... Don't be afraid.. and I am the Queen of this one... I love to run, i love to jog. i love to exercise but I punished my self.. .. Even I am still struggling with this.... YOU have the right to Reward your self. YOU have the right to be Happy... something i am only learning at 47yrs old.. I have the right to be first in line, or to want to go to the movies, or dinner.. but if you don't do it .. it will never happen...

Be assertive.. and you will get through all of this..

Please note this is advice i have been going through this year and even now.. so it is not just words, it is actions i have had to take to heal myself.

thankyou such great advice

COMPLETELY agree. My kids are much happier now that Mommy and Daddy are happier. (We're friends again, too.) If my mother had divorced my stepfather sooner, my childhood would have been much happier, too.

To the OP: I've been divorced now for over two years. I married at 18, and am now 32. I had to COMPLETELY start my life over again as if I had just graduated high school, because I had not had a job, paid my own bills, had my own car, etc. Ever. Not ever. AND I have five children to support.

I understand. So much. It's terrifying, jumping off that cliff into... what? But ya know what? It's worth it. SO worth it.

Now, I'm entering grad school to earn my Masters in Education and be a teacher. I have a house, I pay my own bills... I am seriously happier, more confident, and wiser than I have ever been. Hang in there, it will be OK. It will be MORE than OK.

IF you remember to take care of YOURSELF, and not look for another man to be your whole life.

sorry to hear cheeky, take time for you no doubt

take your time and get to know yourself again.....surround yourself with family and friends.....it's okay to let out your emotions (whether sad, mad, hurt, etc.).... and find a way to bring closure to the relationship in your heart

keep your head up and don't let it rule your life....

Ok cheeky.
Throw on a comfortable outfit and I'll be there next weekend to get you. We going shopping.

When my ex-wife and I went to marriage counseling the guy tells us that divorced individuals are no more happier after 5 yrs, than they were when they were married. I found that to be interesting.



I myself immediately hooked up with a rebound, which of course burned quite hot for a few minutes, yet left me in even more pain.
But even pain can be useful, taught me that I was desperate for someone, anyone to want me. Didn't have to love me, just want me.
I needed to wait until that passed before anything good was going to come my way.

Make time, take time to do things that you enjoy, just for you.
Getting involved with some kind of service work will help too.

-hang out with friends

-get a daily routine going

-dont call your ex

outside of that, the only thing that helps is time

I'm sorry to hear that cheeky
Take the time to heal and be with close friends and family.
You will come out of this stronger than ever before.

breath...
Then...
Go skydiving.

and...
and...
and...

life.

Sweetstuff, You know I am here for you, anytime you need me!!!! Just a call away.

Damn Cheeks, I am sorry



Gettin on that school will be awesome, I believe you will be fine in good time. Much love homegirl

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There are a million ways to save your marriage, so please don't give up on yourself or your family.

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