Second thought I have found if you ask sometimes they will tell you, other times it is trial and error and you learn to fiqure out wha they like....the question is when are you in over our head???
And you do not have what they want (some things you can fake...some you can not....and sometime if you fake it, it will catch up with you)

ummm, i don't know about other women, but i admit to not knowing what i want in a man (besides the obvious specifics we all desire - honesty, integrity, a sense of humour, etc.)

i rely on chemistry and rapport and know if the guy is well suited for me based on the connection that exists between us.

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above all else, don't categorize us all into one lump and assume we all think alike, talk alike, feel alike. we are individuals, not just a group.

I totally agree!!!

we might change our minds about things but not what we want in a man.

I second that. My last relationship was started on a basis of lust, but as soon as we got to know each other it became more and more apparent that we were incompatible. The majority of our relationship seemed to be" Damn she's sexy, how am I going to extract myself from this situation. Damn she's sexy.

O.K. The chemical attraction may not have fizzled out, but it was a very sinister situation.

I guess what I'm saying is that yes, the bad does eventually outweigh the sex. I really should think before I type.

So, so true. I know what I dont want, I kinda know what I do want. And it does depend on the man. its not about being the nice guy, its not about looks, its not about toys and money. Its that interaction that clicks.

bingo!

because he could be the most amazing man on earth but if i don't feel it in my gut... then i'm done with him.

Its called dateing, dont jump into a relationship.

In a heart beat, cuz my happiness is what matters and I can feel it, like a electrical zap. And If i try to fake it we are both unhappy

I missed the thread.

I can tell you blanket statements about men or women are poison! Avoid using always, everyone, all the time, and never.

I agree that SOME women AND men are unsure of what they want -- but not all -- including me! I know exactly what I want in a relationship.

I love people that try to debate my choices ... like I'm a virginial 20 year old that doesn't have life and love experiences.

I have knowledge which is why I KNOW WHAT I WANT and what I don’t want; however, that confidence can be disconcerting to those who are still trying to find themselves -- and my approach is dismissed as too picky or snobby.

I'll wait for the functional relationship and let the other people jump into bad situations and keep repeating their mistakes (and yet want to criticize me).

The reality of your post is this .You ask women what they want and they tell you .So then youi try to conform to what they or even a particur woman wants .Thats B.S. .You are who you are when you find a compatible person you and she will know it .Grow up be yourself and quit being impatient .Nothing happens over night and conforming to someone elses wishes does'nt work.Quit pushing and and settle in for the long haul .A rushed relationship is nothing but trouble .

So very true I don't have a criteria or list one must pass for me to like them first and foremost there has to be a connection there. They must be able to get my attention then be able to carry a conversation and hold my attention as well. Without that attraction nothing will happen with it only time will tell.

But one thing they must have is a sense of humor personality will take one a long way. Rudeness will only get them to the door faster....

Well said Bob

You poor poor soul, I thought by now you would know that there are no pat answers about "women" at there are no pat answers about "men".

When I started this gambit of on line dating I had no clue to what I didn't want I sure knew what I didn't want. I think there is a process we all go through at some time. I think it clarifies things for us also the ripe old age of 49 helps alot.

I will never fit into a box, I refuse the time I feel the sides coming up is the time I jump out and redirect my life...

Good luck lumping us all together, I missed the thread also

I was just wanting a little feedback as to what a man should never say to a woman.

Each woman is unique in her own way. Take the time to get know a woman as an individual instead of lumpin us all together.

As far as the lumping goes, The question WAS what is the essence of a woman. How can you not generalize.

Not a good question .If you ask something stupid you'll know it cuz any one will let you know .Like I said be yourself thats all you can do.Most people can spot a phony a mile away .