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If that's just the way you are, no one is going to be able to change you. You do sound down on yourself and bitter quite often, but if you say you're fine,then ok. Just realize that it comes off as you being very down on yourself quite a bit. I can only go by how you are in the forums, though.
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If that's just the way you are, no one is going to be able to change you. You do sound down on yourself and bitter quite often, but if you say you're fine,then ok. Just realize that it comes off as you being very down on yourself quite a bit. I can only go by how you are in the forums, though. I can understand how it might look that way. Mainly because it's pretty rare for me to actually say that I do like being me. But...I have over 10,000 posts here. It's a pretty small percentage of them where I actually say much bad about me. Bitter?? Yep. I admit to having times when I do feel like that. Just about everyone who has been in a few bad relationships does occasionally. But...I'm not so much bitter as I am cynical. That, also, is a part of my sense of humor and my personality. Take the time to talk to me. Interested in a relationship or not. You'll find out that I am actually pretty smart, pretty damn funny, and that I am a very good listener when ya need someone to talk to. And Singme...will you actually realize, now, that ( other than this thread ) very few questions I post are actually personal??? 
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singmesweet
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Fri 07/24/09 10:03 AM
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If that's just the way you are, no one is going to be able to change you. You do sound down on yourself and bitter quite often, but if you say you're fine,then ok. Just realize that it comes off as you being very down on yourself quite a bit. I can only go by how you are in the forums, though. I can understand how it might look that way. Mainly because it's pretty rare for me to actually say that I do like being me. But...I have over 10,000 posts here. It's a pretty small percentage of them where I actually say much bad about me. Bitter?? Yep. I admit to having times when I do feel like that. Just about everyone who has been in a few bad relationships does occasionally. But...I'm not so much bitter as I am cynical. That, also, is a part of my sense of humor and my personality. Take the time to talk to me. Interested in a relationship or not. You'll find out that I am actually pretty smart, pretty damn funny, and that I am a very good listener when ya need someone to talk to. And Singme...will you actually realize, now, that ( other than this thread ) very few questions I post are actually personal??? Getting to know people is a two way thing.  If you say most are not personal, then most are not personal. |
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The profiles i have read, men and woman's are to learn about myself. Maybe you might want to also try Reading them... And then take time to think about them..
I in my life am a very positive person.. But the words I write on paper are not, People see them much different then I ever read them. How are fingers and mind think, how are mouth speak are not even close. and how you act in real life with others is now a huge differences. With every new person, I am a new person, I act different, i accept different ways. Some people are the same all the time, there hair, clothing's, the way the do everything, it is a given. a Routine every single day and has been for years on years. Some only were jeans and a t-shirt, others were dresses... But for you and I, we are different.. for a mass of people on this site. are words.. speak louder then we can even yell.... from are hearts.. We both are crying out to others.. HEAR ME.. TALK TO ME... GET TO KNOW ME... READ WHAT I HAVE TO SAY.... I HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY... But most... do not care, or understand.... It is not that we are depressed, or crazy, or lonely.. (well i am)..Lonely..... it is that we just want a VOICE.... someone to hear us from are hearts....... if you have posted or are on 10,000 sites or forms, then that tells me and everyone.... YOU want someone to just be your friend.... and stay your friend for a while.. most of these dating sites.. are come and go... once someone finds someone we are gone.. until it ends and we return... but leaving you, the friend they have made.. we do not think about others any longer only are self.... and what we have in are life to do...... |
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I want to make this perfectly clear right from the get go... THIS THREAD IS NOT ABOUT ANYONE IN PARTICULAR. IT DOES NOT HAVE ANY PERSONAL CONNOTATIONS, NOR DOES IT REFER TO ANY PARTICULAR PERSON!!! Read the above again just so there is NO MISUNDERSTANDING!!!! _________________________________________________________________ Ok. Now that THAT is out of the way... In the process of a discussion with a friend earlier tonight, I had a thought strike me ( AGAIN...THIS IS NOT ANYTHING PERSONAL, IT'S NOT ANYTHING THAT " BOTHERS " ME OR ANYTHING TO THAT EFFECT ) and I kinda wondered what other folks' ideas on it would be. Let's say that there is a guy or girl, man or woman, whichever you prefer, that you know who has been through some very rough things. They have had to deal with several forms of abuse and you know they have a few issues because of it. One thing that you have noticed is that this person consistently talks down about him/her self. But you also know that this person is relatively comfortable with who they are. You wish they would stop doing what they are doing, but they don't really see anything wrong with it. What do you try to do for this person? If anything??? I would let that person go on about. I myself do the same thing. Most of a time its a reminder of the past and a little quirk to keep the ego in check. Well for me anyways. It does kinda suck when you see a really cool person down on about themselves but at the same time being one who consciously does this. I know its a reminder to what I want out of myself. |
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I want to make this perfectly clear right from the get go... THIS THREAD IS NOT ABOUT ANYONE IN PARTICULAR. IT DOES NOT HAVE ANY PERSONAL CONNOTATIONS, NOR DOES IT REFER TO ANY PARTICULAR PERSON!!! Read the above again just so there is NO MISUNDERSTANDING!!!! _________________________________________________________________ Ok. Now that THAT is out of the way... In the process of a discussion with a friend earlier tonight, I had a thought strike me ( AGAIN...THIS IS NOT ANYTHING PERSONAL, IT'S NOT ANYTHING THAT " BOTHERS " ME OR ANYTHING TO THAT EFFECT ) and I kinda wondered what other folks' ideas on it would be. Let's say that there is a guy or girl, man or woman, whichever you prefer, that you know who has been through some very rough things. They have had to deal with several forms of abuse and you know they have a few issues because of it. One thing that you have noticed is that this person consistently talks down about him/her self. But you also know that this person is relatively comfortable with who they are. You wish they would stop doing what they are doing, but they don't really see anything wrong with it. What do you try to do for this person? If anything??? Im not sure there is anything I could do except get used to it
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This friend is not comfortable with themselves. Problems for women = social status. A woman walks into a room filled with 100 other women and says, "My life is wonderful, I love my job, my man is the greatest." Those women will smile, nod, and return to their conversations. Another woman walks into that same room and says, "I hate my life, I'm gonna lose my job, and my man is an a**hole" and she is suddenly surrounded by 100 new friends there to comfort and relate to her. So, this fiend is looking for attention, acceptance, and social status which means she's not ok with just BEING. My take on things is a little more blunt so I'm not selling her out. Not exactly "get over it," but more along the lines of "How is the behavior serving you?" and encouraging them to look at what they are getting out of living in low self-exceptance.
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