Topic: picky?
Moondark's photo
Sun 07/19/09 08:28 PM
Nope. I'm just more picky in general. The older I get, the more picky I am. I would rather be alone than settle for someone I don't really want just to be with anyone at all.

JustAGuy2112's photo
Sun 07/19/09 10:01 PM
I'm still not all that picky about how a woman looks. My taste varies.

But what I AM far more picky about is what she has going on mentally.

There is no way I would ever date anyone who isn't able to keep up with the way I think....or who can't hold up her end of a conversation.

Even if she's just asking questions about the subject at hand.

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Mon 07/20/09 10:11 AM
Edited by middlewoman on Mon 07/20/09 10:12 AM

Nope. I'm just more picky in general. The older I get, the more picky I am. I would rather be alone than settle for someone I don't really want just to be with anyone at all.


Some of my standards have changed over time. But that doesn't mean that I'm more or less picky overall. I think there is a difference between having reasonable standards and being overly picky. Going out with someone who is somewhat different than your usual isn't settling. If there isn't mutual interest after a few dates, then both people can move on.

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Mon 07/20/09 10:14 AM
I think I can be picky online or offline.

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Mon 07/20/09 10:14 AM

Do you think you are more picky at picking and talking to people online for dating as opposed to in person?


I'm more skeptical of people on line, but my selectivity works the same across the board.


chevylover1965's photo
Mon 07/20/09 10:14 AM
hey little girl.....i have candy !pitchfork

Gossipmpm's photo
Mon 07/20/09 10:14 AM
I am not picky at all

I except a man with all his flaws

Hey it dropped in my lap. I'm keepin it!

bry11calcool's photo
Mon 07/20/09 10:30 AM
I have learned not to be judgemental.

So many people are inexperienced at internet dating that they do not know what to put in a profile or what to expect when e-mailing (or winking - noway ). Many do not learn to reveal themselves in threads.

So, until I have had a chance to e-mail a few times and hear them speak on the phone, I really don't have a basis for understanding who they are. I have had much success in finding commonality and friends and I would have missed that (and the opportunity to grow and understand different view-points) if I had been working from a checklist looking to eliminate people as Soul Mates.

In business, I preach tolerance to my employees and work-mates. In private, I try to acknowledge all people (afterall, I don't think God scales Her loves for us unequally).

I am not on a mission to find a perfect life partner . . . but I am open to it and will embrace the potential opportunity when it comes.

I would say, NO, I am not more picky than in person, but I will say that:

People on the internet tend to feel more embolden to express their negativity, probably because they feel buffered from any repurcussion. So, people definitely show their judgementalism (as I saw just yesterday) and biases more freely. So maybe there is a built-in efficiency here?

Tolerance and being slow to judge works for me right now, so that is what I am going with.

But what the heck do I know? ohwell

Happy Monday Lunch everybody . . . back to work.

Bry glasses



PATSFAN's photo
Mon 07/20/09 11:26 AM
It's the same on or off line for me

sweetcountrygirl's photo
Mon 07/20/09 01:27 PM
Same for me on or offline

But I have to say, in some instances, age does matter. I mean, it would be very difficult to try and have a relationship with a much younger man. I would talk to him, and befriend him perhaps. But, not romance him.
:heart:

lovespassion's photo
Tue 07/21/09 07:02 AM
yes because have a great love for women with long hair:heart: flowerforyou

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Tue 07/21/09 07:13 AM


Do you think you are more picky at picking and talking to people online for dating as opposed to in person?


I'm more skeptical of people on line, but my selectivity works the same across the board.




I am the same. I'm pretty much skeptical of ALL people I meet online anymore....laugh

hereformore's photo
Tue 07/21/09 04:09 PM

hey little girl.....i have candy !pitchfork

Chocolate?

beachbum069's photo
Tue 07/21/09 04:13 PM


Nope. I'm just more picky in general. The older I get, the more picky I am. I would rather be alone than settle for someone I don't really want just to be with anyone at all.


Some of my standards have changed over time. But that doesn't mean that I'm more or less picky overall. I think there is a difference between having reasonable standards and being overly picky. Going out with someone who is somewhat different than your usual isn't settling. If there isn't mutual interest after a few dates, then both people can move on.

Pick me, pick meflowerforyou

luckyguy2008's photo
Tue 07/21/09 04:14 PM

Do you think you are more picky at picking and talking to people online for dating as opposed to in person?


I think I am more picky in person, just because if the other person was having a bad day I can see that and might write them off because of it.

motowndowntown's photo
Tue 07/21/09 04:15 PM
I've given up on being picky. I have no standards. I'm so low I'd go out with a snake. I'd go out with a pile of rocks if someone told me there was a snake under it.

luckyguy2008's photo
Tue 07/21/09 04:17 PM

I am not picky at all

I except a man with all his flaws

Hey it dropped in my lap. I'm keepin it!


Oops sorry I dropped in your lap.:banana: I hope I didn't hurt you!:banana: Are you still keeping me!winking

cherie091279's photo
Tue 07/21/09 04:21 PM
I absolutely agree with you...if you know what you want why settle just to be with someone????

chuck366's photo
Tue 07/21/09 04:22 PM
nope

IntelligentDesigner's photo
Tue 07/21/09 06:07 PM
I think so and think not in a way. In person, we don't come with profile tags around our necks. You can't spot a good person from a bad one from across the room (or across the country in the case of online dating). Of course people can be pretty deceptive anywhere, but picking and choosing online is somewhat easier when you can sort through people based on pictures and what they have to say about themselves. In public, all you really have are looks and the way a person is interacting with their current setting. But online, you're looking through people and getting a better view of who they might be and getting to choose whether or not to skip them on by. In real life, we're typically more careful who we approach because changing our minds isn't quite so easy. I hope this makes some sense. I am kinda rambling at random. Just that real life has no "yes" "no" or "maybe" button, and it doesn't have a "block" button. So it's really kinda hard to say we're more picky online or in real life, but I believe more careful in it.