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SO, I was reading a thread about a girl who gets judged on her size. I personally am happy with who I am and have never had a problem with it preventing me from dating or finding men attracted to me. But it did raise some questions, is size really an issue? What body type do you prefer? rubenesque  
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the issue is 90% self image and 10% public opinion in this area imo if you do not like yourself how can anyone else like you and when you are big and grow up that way your self image taes a constant beating as others have to have some one to degrade as to make themselves feel better than another the overweight fit this role very well but if you give off a positive ora then chances are you will recieve positive feedback sure you will still have the jerks but it is how you let the jerk control you that is really key letting another raise you to anger or lower you to feeling shame is giving them control of a piece of your very inner being it is hard to do sometimes but it helps when you figure it out  
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i was wanting to know the same thing some days im ok with me weight some days im not either way im trying to loose weight i thought if i loose say like 50 pds will i get asked out more often or still be outlasted as the big girl? actually its all in how your carry yourself. You could weigh 400lbs and if you walked around like you were hot as Angelina Jole..and honestly believed it. Men would notice. They looove confidence. what we like is when chicks lay the mackdown. its a nice change of pace to be pursued by a woman. |
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I want somebody to inspire me, and having a long athletic history, I want someone who can challenge me and inspire me to making myself better and better in everyway. I dont get that from big women among other things...
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I can not begin to tell you how surprised I was when men started telling me that I am to thin! Really truly shocked in fact. After a life time of indoctrination by magazines, the media etc AND a mom who very often said she thought I could loose a few...not to mention that same life time of being anywhere from 10 - 30 pounds over weight (by my own comfort level) I lost a lot of weight while caring for my dying husband. Not healthy wight lose, paid a big price for it with my own health - was a very few pounds away from being hospitalized by my family DR.
When I finally started to go out at all, I started being told I was to thin. By every day, average, middle class guys who had come to liked me. So, I guess my point is, like who you are and how you look. Be comfortable in your own skin and body. "You can't please everyone so you may as well please yourself". From to fat to - to thin....if I live long enough maybe I'll get it just perfect! LOLOLOLOL |
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Edited by
Onamission
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Sat 07/18/09 05:37 PM
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Its all about you, if a woman is confident, content and happy it shows.
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Its all about you, if a woman confident, content and happy it shows. Well hello there handsome...
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Its all about you, if a woman confident, content and happy it shows. Well hello there handsome...
Hello there back at cha Kitten. |
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i was wanting to know the same thing some days im ok with me weight some days im not either way im trying to loose weight i thought if i loose say like 50 pds will i get asked out more often or still be outlasted as the big girl? actually its all in how your carry yourself. You could weigh 400lbs and if you walked around like you were hot as Angelina Jole..and honestly believed it. Men would notice. They looove confidence. what we like is when chicks lay the mackdown. its a nice change of pace to be pursued by a woman. tru dat |
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Its all about you, if a woman is confident, content and happy it shows. mmmm wow!!!  I want one of you in my area...
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Edited by
middlewoman
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Mon 07/20/09 10:51 AM
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Most people are attracted to ( or not attracted to ) certain physical attributes. Whether it's body type, height, race, hairstyle etc. There is a clear difference between not being attracted to a fat person and judging / being disrespectful to a fat person because of their weight.
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not close to but exact but
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SO, I was reading a thread about a girl who gets judged on her size. I personally am happy with who I am and have never had a problem with it preventing me from dating or finding men attracted to me. But it did raise some questions, is size really an issue? What body type do you prefer? There are some for who it will always be an issue. Then there are some who can look past size. Just depends on the person. |
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everyone has their preferences....the only problem that i would have with size is that i want a woman that is not lazy and really physically active....i am attracted to who i am attracted to, and it depends on the situation
i DEFINITELY do not like women that look like bean-poles...but i also do not like women that have let themselves go to unhealthy levels JMO |
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I would like to date a morphing female so that I can request and ever-changing selection of bodies . . .
oh, and I like what the guy on page 1 said about "mute" . . . but then my expectation are moot, aren't they? Bry 
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size is always an issue. there is always a limit in both directions.
and people have a right to their preferences. ya know? i personally don't find myself attracted to extremely skinny guys. i used to be.. but i don't know. that just completely changed. i think i judge my potential matches on their mentality more than their bodies. |
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Im not a small girl, i love myself and i love my body and i think the more you belive it, the more everyone else will... its good to be healthy and stuff but if you love yourself and you have people who love who you are then why change for some person you dont know, its like this is me take it or leave it. or at least thats the way i see it.
And granted,i know that everyone has diffrent type that they like and you cant have a realationship if your not attracted to someone. Its life, if your judged on your size then the other person is not worth your time. Girl or Guy. =] thats my thoughts |
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