I have never been in love. Ever. No, not even with my ex-husband. I have come to the conclusion that this sucks, and I WANT to know what that feels like. So I have chosen not to settle anymore. Problem is, what I want in a man may be too much.

I want a man who's looks make me forget who I am. Not physicality, but actual looks... like when he looks at me, when he smiles a certain way, the way his face moves when he's being silly or happy... or horny.

I want a man who holds me in a way that makes me feel entirely comfortable and content.

I want a man who, from the first that I meet him, I can't forget about him.

I want a man who has the capacity to truly love my kids, and who wants a family... truly. Who will get to know my kids as individuals, not because he feels he has to, but because he LIKES them as PEOPLE.

I want a man who will actually take me on a DATE sometimes.

I want a man who can make me laugh. Who's not afraid of being goofy.

I want a man who will be spontaneous on the weekends but has a job and keeps it.

I want a man with ambition. Not to make the most money, but to be the best he can be... to LIVE his life, and not simply exist.

I just want... HIM. Is that too much to ask? Should I just give up and never really be in love?

Lower your expectations, and youll be happy. Expect nothing and you wont be disapointed.

I've done that all my life. Which is why I have never been in love.

*shruggs* your list says otherwise.

I mean theres normal boundries, and limitations for health like sanity, and cleanliness,and drug free, but dont count on it. lol

That's my list now. I didn't expect that before. I just took what I thought I deserved.

Sanity and drug free are GIVENS, because of my kids (and my own happiness), and cleanliness? Yeah... I can't be with someone who makes me gag.

Girl keep on looking, that special man is out there. i dont see why you should lower your standards.

I dunno, I have found working on myself first on things like self esteem, and achieving fullfilling all of my needs like happiness on my own, and taking care of my issues is instrumental.

THEN I put it out there im available.

I obviously cant judge you, dont wanna, just know what works for me, and keeps me happy when I am apart from a man.

I havent read it yet - fyi - but hey snarky - you're "typing" like me now....

touche...



okay lemme go read it and see what I can do to pis^*&^s some people off tonight

theres a difference between standards and expectations. Its selfish to have a bunch of expectations.

Those two things seem like an oxi-moron to me. If one works hard on oneself and gains self-esteem, then one should have the right to expect the same from one's mate, right?

And Billy... I'll just wait to see what you actually have to say.

No, not really, noones perfect, and you have to either accept it, or move on. You cant control people.

Yes, you can look for, or choose someone who has these same qualities, but dont expect it. Not gonna happen often anyway.

That's kinda sad. I did that from the moment I began dating. Never been happy. I want to be happy. Maybe that means I'll always be alone, but at least I'll never hurt another man by pretending to be happy with him. I've done that way too many times.

All I can say is I don't feel that your "wish list" is unreasonable. But, just keep an open heart, the man can and will love you like that may just be the one you never thought it would happen with. That's the way it happened with me

blah blah...blah blah...blah blah blah blah blah


thats what I have to say to that part



Then stop dating ashas78917oles and give guys like me - evans - that guy in the yellow vest - mirror mirror and billy (the guy who is a cynic) a chance



Blah blah blah blah blah...........blah

Thats what I am saying to that one



Now that is just a bad thing to say...because I see it two ways, "Of course you will NEVER forget him" or..."Oh my gosh she wants to be up his A!^*&ss 24/7"

Which one is it? Shoulda went with more blah blah's huh?



We can do tricks too...watch...I can dance like this banana Why would NOT want that from a man is the better question!?!



Then stop dating ashas78917oles and give guys like me - evans - that guy in the yellow vest - mirror mirror and billy (the guy who is a cynic) a chance



Uh......look at the heart. It is pretty isnt it?



Better be sure about that one before you say that to somebody else



Not at all.



Go ahead...you'll still find love again. Just will make it easier on yourself if you do



So, like I said initially....

Well, good for you. I believe some people are here for a season, and some for a reason.

I never get lonely, or bothered I dont have a mate, because I do what makes me happy in life, and participate in things that make me whole other than men. I hope you can achieve the same result.

Your pretty, and your some kind of english major, or lit or something right? Well your smart, youll meet someone nice just like that other lady said, it just take time.

Know what I do in the meantime? Make friends, and just have fun, date whoever, no strings, no relationship fears, or concerns, just have a good time with someone. You know thats achieveable.

amen

i'm tryin to be single

found that is harder than bein in a relationship











edited for arrogance**

guess i am just sexy, tho

I have a buddy who is the same way but after 29 years he thinks he found what he was looking for I don't see why you can't good things come to those who ? Don't take this wrong but why come on here and ask other people if your wrong in what you want mybe your not sure what you realy want ?

aim for the moon but expect the dirt, if not a hole.

always stick to ur guns.

iv came to the conclution that i have a very slim chance of findin my true love, at least a love i want to be with.

but thats not goin to stop me.

u want wat u want becouse u think thats goin to make u happy, and with ur list, and with all do respect ur looks should happin. but ull never know till u have it. so untill that day be glad u have kids, they might not always like u but they will always love u. and that my freind will b the periest love ever.

and no matter wat ur still livin. thats pretty cool if u ask me.

thats it im done for the night. peace