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Edited by
earthytaurus76
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Fri 07/17/09 03:01 AM
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I dont fashion myself as an expert, I just know I have some wisdom to offr from my experiences. I have suffered through the worst longing bs ever.
I had a man I married when I was 20, and he was the best, We eloped. He dropped me off at my dads for me to tell him, and When he came back to pick me up, he was killed in his vette in a horrible crash, in front of my Dads house. I dated, and was with many others over the years, but not until 2 and a half years ago did I let him go, and stop longing for true love, and expectation, and something I either had before, or just wanted then. I talked to the air hoping he could hear me, and fantasized about him to no end. This can be survival at times to just put yourself out there, and fish, and chill in the meantime. Longing is misery, on any level. The buddhists believe wanting brings suffering, so they do not. Its a journey for sure. |
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Edited by
snarkytwain
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Fri 07/17/09 03:08 AM
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OK... Billy...
I want a man who's looks make me forget who I am. Not physicality, but actual looks... like when he looks at me, when he smiles a certain way, the way his face moves when he's being silly or happy... or horny. Then stop dating ashas78917oles  and give guys like me - evans - that guy in the yellow vest - mirror mirror and billy (the guy who is a cynic) a chance
Touche!  See, the thing is, I have dated a few men who didn't fit my "MO". My favorite was Shawn because, though he was the football-player type, he DID have that "look" in his eyes which I loved. Problem was, he was WAY too needy. Especially when this was RIGHT after my ex-husband and I split. And he was a friend of my ex's.
So... remember what you said about stereotypes?
I want a man who holds me in a way that makes me feel entirely comfortable and content.
Blah blah blah blah blah...........blah Thats what I am saying to that one
Well, it's important to me.(I wish there was a razzberry smiley!) I want a man who, from the first that I meet him, I can't forget about him.
Now that is just a bad thing to say...because I see it two ways, "Of course you will NEVER forget him" or..."Oh my gosh she wants to be up his A!^*&ss 24/7" Which one is it? Shoulda went with more blah blah's huh?
Oh GOD no!  I hate being smothered, and never smother. I mean that, the day/night I meet him, when I go home I can't stop grinning like a loon about him.
I know, I know... but that's how it is. I want a man who has the capacity to truly love my kids, and who wants a family... truly. Who will get to know my kids as individuals, not because he feels he has to, but because he LIKES them as PEOPLE. We can do tricks too...watch...I can dance like this banana  Why would NOT want that from a man is the better question!?!
Yeah, well. I used to think that was a given, too. Apparently not. 
I want a man who will be spontaneous on the weekends but has a job and keeps it. Uh......look at the heart. It is pretty isnt it? 
 Hey, I DID ask if it was too much to ask!
I dunno. I'm 32. I kinda want a grown up now. What can I say? I want a man with ambition. Not to make the most money, but to be the best he can be... to LIVE his life, and not simply exist. Better be sure about that one before you say that to somebody else
Why is that? What's wrong with wanting someone who wants to enjoy life like I do? I just want... HIM. Is that too much to ask? Not at all. Thank you. Should I just give up and never really be in love? Go ahead...you'll still find love again. Just will make it easier on yourself if you do I haven't been in love YET, so "again" would be kinda hard.
And earthytaurus76? Yeah, that's what I'm doing. I'm OK most the time, and I know that if I rush anything I may screw it up in the future when I DO meet HIM, but I am an impatient child sometimes. Aren't we all? |
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No, I dont give anyone the satisfaction.
Men are too easy anyway.. seriously. |
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Edited by
snarkytwain
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Fri 07/17/09 03:18 AM
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My eleven year old is a tarus.
She would have said the same thing to me.
ETA: Wow, lots of replies. Lemme answer: amen
i'm tryin to be single found that is harder than bein in a relationship. Ya know Billy... I don't know if I have ever read anything so profound... I have a buddy who is the same way but after 29 years he thinks he found what he was looking for I don't see why you can't good things come to those who ? Don't take this wrong but why come on here and ask other people if your wrong in what you want mybe your not sure what you realy want ?
Well, from reading these forums, I have see that many here HAVE been in love before. And even those who have not have some advice to give. What good is it to listen to others if we can't learn from it? u want wat u want becouse u think thats goin to make u happy, and with ur list, and with all do respect ur looks should happin. but ull never know till u have it. so untill that day be glad u have kids, they might not always like u but they will always love u. and that my freind will b the periest love ever.
Not exactly. What will make me happy will be getting my teaching certification and teaching Literature to high schoolers.  I simply want Him... which is kinda like a kid wanting candy, I guess. At least, while he's still and idea and not a person (as a person is much more important than candy, of course.)
My kids WON'T always love me if I'm not a good mother. If I take them for granted. I know. And I don't intend on letting that happen.
earthytaurus76, I am sorry for your loss. Truly. I guess we all have our own separate experiences which make us who we are, huh? MAJOR props for being able to move on. 
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Edited by
earthytaurus76
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Fri 07/17/09 03:12 AM
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My 10 year old is a virgo, hes just so perfectly correct.
Strong willed. |
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what the.............
you mean to tell me I answered her question and she changed the subject? |
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what the............. you mean to tell me I answered her question and she changed the subject? It was the healing power of the JESTER!!! |
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I'm a Gemini. Perfect one, at that.
And Billy, no. I edited. Look up.
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I'll look up after I say this
ETA = Estimated time of arrival |
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hey jessi, im callin u jessi now...okay?
okay cuz my name is billy... anyways ya this is my response to yours |
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I know, but your sn is Billy too, so it helps.
I'll assume that's a good reply and move on.
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gotcha
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Edited by
BillySuvol
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Fri 07/17/09 03:43 AM
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you keep assuming things you'll end up dating a7897ssh!*&oles and posting more threads
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you keep assuming things you'll end up dating a7897ssh!*&oles and posting more threads
Ya know, specially for you I FOUND this emoticon! 
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hey snarky
i drew something to show you how i feel about you, your situation and your posts.......... if i show you you gotta do me a couple things |
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I don't know if I even wanna see it... Do I?
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well ya know that girl, the ex?
who i am staying with until i get outa knox she just saw it and she goes.... "aww look, its washington girl" and slammed the door |
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OK... what do you want me to do?
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#1 notice what LOOKS like you and what DOES not...
#2 realize there are answers to questions in pictures #3 dont laugh like someone else did #4 tell me why in the hell i majored in english and not art in college #5 realize you are beautiful....and you will find someone...because I was just drawing what I was seein......no eraser....no classroom....just my eyes and mind telling me what I saw and how to recreate it |
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OK, though the whole English, art thing may be difficult for me.
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