First, what makes you so sure your brother isn't lieing?

Second, self pity isn't attractive. With your attitude the only women you will attract will be women just as depressed as yourself. Then the two of you can sit around and talk about how hard life is.

You have to get out of the house, meet people and make some new friends.

I agree :)

I need to get out of the house, too.

I don't see this as a pity party really. I suppose I can see how some might. Tag line says he's asking for advice and is depressed. Might be more going on than answers on a message board can give you but I'm not sure if lose the pity party/you're being so negative makes him feel any better. If you haven't thought about talking with someone professionally, you might consider that. Nothing in the world wrong with needing to do it. I do think, if this is an ongoing problem, that it's going to take more than a resolution to start tomorrow. Good luck to you.

Are you kidding? Maybe this is just one of those man things that women cannot understand. To be a man is to get up and do what needs to be done. He isn't a child that needs to be kept safe from the world (which it seems his brother is doing for him).

Grow a sack and man up!

Ah..compassion. A beautiful thing

I notice that on your profile you say that you drink often. Drinking and depression are a vicious circle. Try to cut the drinking back to no more than socially and replace it with activities that require you to get out of the house. I bet you'll start to have a better outlook before you know it. Won't make everything perfect....but it's a start.

Scotty: hope you feel better. it might be hard to believe, but things will get better. keep yourself busy and what others said about volunteering, etc. would be a really great thing to do if you can.

I agree with Texas on this..."With your attitude the only women you will attract will be women just as depressed as yourself. Then the two of you can sit around and talk about how hard life is."

Speaking from experience, you don't want to attract another depressed person, it is really awful and you dont have the strength to be helpful to each other in getting better. at least in my case, thats how it was...

Sometimes you have to be crule to be kind.

I have conpassion for the people in this world that are starving. I do not have any for some guy begging for attention from strangers on the internet. He's like those homeless people begging for change. He is offering no value.

Like I said, being a woman you may not understand, but this guy needs a father figure to kick his a$$ because he's acting like a little girl.

Things will not get better until YOU get up and MAKE them better.

Don't worry; I think everyone feels the same way about themselves once in awhile. I know I have. But don't change, be yourself and some day someone will love you for who you are.

That reminds me of a sad realization I had about myself long ago. 'Nobody cares what I think or how I feel more than I' Once I came to terms with that, I got on with my life.

Embrace who you are and what you believe in. People will notice

You want some advice? Here it is-

Don't even worry about it.

It's like the old saying goes, "If you go around looking for something, you'll NEVER find it." Just live your life they way YOU see fit and don't even pay attention to what you SHOULD be doing. Either something will fall on your lap or it won't- if something DOES, then fine... if not, oh well... that's fine too.

woof ha! LMFAO! man that is funny.

but for real i can honnestly say that i dont think thers any body out ther that realy loves, cares, lissons, or wants me around. but f them man u r the only thing thats ever goin to make or break ur self. once u get over the fact that poeple suck, including ur self, its all good.

have fun with wat ever u can and try to smile. dude im such a wierd person and i want a even wierder chick that ive came to the conclution that i might b alone for ever. wat ev.

on the barking note, get a dog, chicks love dogs and then it can bark for u. trust me dogs get the girls lookin. besides my mutts mean more to me then anything and i dont know wer i would b with out them. ther awsome. and if u get a dog u gota walk it and exercise alone will make u feel better. plus u get out the house, a very good thing.

no matter wat thers people out ther with phucked up lifes way beond r awsome lifes in the US. so u realy got to think bout that.

do u have a hungry stomach?

do u have a roof over ur head?

and no matter wat u still get to play the game of life till ur dead. pretty cool wen u like about the alternatives.

wen shes ment to come into ur life she will.

and it is perfectly fine to have emotions we r human. things dont magicly get better wen u "MAN UP" most the time that means shuve it to the side and hope it gets better. things dont fix them selfs thers prosseses things naturaly need to do.

Whenever I find myself feeling lonely or lacking focus, I write an email to a friend or family member to catch up with them and pass stories. Then I draw from any ideas they give me and find ways to explore those ideas in ways that are within my means.

Thus, I network with as many people as I can through the use of email... leaving me with fresh material I can use to keep my mind occupied and help me grow as a person at the same time. Besides, if someone you know never responds... that alone can be its own signal. Of course, leaving a message on their phone telling them about any emails, helps too.

I usually do most of my writing before going to bed each night. Doing so helps me maintain a forward thinking mind that dwells less on past or present pain. Like music, life has dissonance and resolution (consonance). Always try to end each day on a resolution of some kind.

Through writing, you might improve your chances of collecting "actionable advice" and will one day exude more esteem and confidence in the process.

I believe the more you write to people you actually know in person... the more stories you will be able to recall when conversing with a woman you find reason to be interested in.

Oh, and keep a copy of each email you send out so you can look back later for your own reasons.

and WAY better lookin'

for the OP -- be thankful you have your brother in your life!... I know it's hard, but just consider this - there are always people in the world that bear a larger burden that you do at this moment...

one foot in front of the other bro, and smile like a fool!!! :D

Try God....they say he loves everyone and will never forsake you....

Yes, I had to get out of the house, meet people, go places....open your curtains and let the sun shine in

That sounds so simple and yet it's such good advice. People who are prone to depression tend to be "solar powered."

right... unless you're not doing the billions of things that make you sinner.

thank you everyone for your thoughtful and useful advise ive took notes on every comment and im gonna start walking around the city. I wish the best of luck to all of you and if any of you have the same problem as me that you can feel safe asking for advise

Many hugs coming your way