omg... ok people say play hard to get, give the guy a challenge. ok so i play the hard to get with one guy and he gets pissed and says leave him alone. i dont ignore i just play hard to get. then with another i guy i wont and then he acts like he has nothing to worry about that he has me and thats that like the first week of dating so he starts acting like we've been together for four years, so i break it off because he finds it unnecessary to talk to me.. ive been outta of the dating scene too long. i dont know what to do. i want to find something real. i just dont know how. its so confusing

i'd say don't "play" anything. games suck.

just ask him if he likes "fight the good fight" by triumph or "shake hands with beef" by primus better. he'll say, "what a weird question but both songs are great," and then you know you have a keeper....or something. ok it might not be a perfect tactic but it won't work any worse than what you've tried right?

yeah i could try that i guess

I agree...just be yourself and honest.

ok

thank you both very much for your opinions they are appreciated.

a good rule of thumb is...put yourself in their place. If you wouldn't like it....then don't do it

I agree with others,be you,be real. Say what you feel and don't say what you don't mean. It is too much like game playing, figuring the right strategy. Communication from the start is key. Best to you.

Don't play...just be yourself.

I think what you are really asking about is flirting. It's about giving mixed singles. This will drive them crazy. It works both ways too. I do it with women all the time.

This is not IMHO a head game, but it is a game in that both people involved are having fun playing it. Playful is really the best word to discribe it. You are having fun, you are laughing and so is the other person. You are both teasing each other.

thank you

that's a tricky one. every woman who has ever tried to think like me has failed miserably. i'm not surprised considering i wouldn't be able to think like a woman either.

I was just looking back through the other posts and I have to say that "just be yourself" is bad advice more often than not. What if you are a nervous, stuttering, too shy to talk to people person? Should you still "just be yourself?"

Wouldn't it be better to learn and grow into a more interesting, confident and attractive person? Don't just be yourself, be your BEST self.

Be yourself, does wonders.

see thats true to because... when a woman thinks something it can mean something totally different to a guy. like a friend of mine didnt get a text from a guy and she started flipping saying omg he doesnt want me any more. now sometimes not all the time with a guy, they are like well she must be busy shell text me in a little while when she isnt busy, he wont go crazy

see thats true to because... when a woman thinks something it can mean something totally different to a guy. like a friend of mine didnt get a text from a guy and she started flipping saying omg he doesnt want me any more. now sometimes not all the time with a guy, they are like well she must be busy shell text me in a little while when she isnt busy, he wont go crazy

i love you fear

what?

ive got a mancrush on fearandloathing

oh ok