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It shouldn't matter what size they are on the outside, what matters is what is in the heart, and how they make you feel when you two are together. That should be the only thing that matters. what was the very first thing you noticed about your partner??? betcha it wasn't his/her heart  That is a bet you will lose. We got to know each other before we EVER saw pics of each other. again when you first laid eyes on him for the very first time - what did you see first? did you see his eyes (glowing from his love for you)? did you notice the smile (he has when he thinks of you)? did you notice his hands (outstretched to hug you)? you may have gotten to know his heart, but what is the first thing you noticed visually? I'm glad you found someone  I agree. It's wonderful that you fell in love with his personality first, but what would have happened if, when you first met, you were repulsed by his appearance? Do you think it would have still worked out so well? |
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glad i didn't say it. fake pics annoy me more than no pics. . . .  not my intent to annoy i just like being mysterious if i wanted mystery i'd read a book. j/k do what you wish. i'm not here to try to change anybody. i know that without a pic people only reach a certain level with me. but they probably get the most honest version of me there is because i don't feel the need to try to impress. . . . |
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Attraction does matter for a lot of people, physical, mental and emotion is my criteria... I don't want to bagem to do them so yes, it may be shallow but I have to have something to go on in the first place... A great personality isn't going to make a difference if I have absolutely NO physical attraction to them..
If someone can be with someone based on never seeing them well Bless them... Every time I hear "I don't have a pic right now but don't worry you won't be disappointed." You can bet your sweet patooty, I was VERY disappointed... And believe me I'm not attracted to just pretty boys so it had nothing to do with them not looking like Hugh Jackman, Bradd Pitt, etc... |
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For the most part it is our taught prejudices that make us repulsed by others anyway. If we can realize this and put what we have been taught aside we can experience greater loves than if we hold to those shallow teachings and try to please others by our choices.
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glad i didn't say it. fake pics annoy me more than no pics. . . . not my intent to annoy i just like being mysterious if i wanted mystery i'd read a book. j/k do what you wish. i'm not here to try to change anybody. i know that without a pic people only reach a certain level with me. but they probably get the most honest version of me there is because i don't feel the need to try to impress. . . . reading is fundamental  Which level can I reach having no pic up??? |
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i need to put up more photos of me now that i'm single again...and get my groove back, maybe some hot tight body babes will just go for my awesomeness instead of my fine looking looks i was born with...yeah
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My two cents: We're screwed either way.
 "Babes/Hunks" think: I want someone to like me for who I am on the INSIDE, not how I look. "Non-Babes/Hunks" think: Nobody will give me the chance, get to know what a great person on I am on the inside, because of how I look. Both boil down to insecurity. If you like what you see when YOU look in the mirror, you are a beautiful person. Do we judge people by their looks? Abso-friggen-lutely! It's instinct, natural, we are animals after all. We need to determine if what we see is threatening so we can decide on which response to activate, fight or flight. If you saw a scary dude holding an axe with blood drippin' off it, you'd run in the other direction. While that's the extreme example, we do use vision as a primary cue on which to make judgements. So to say looks don't matter is IMHO naive. Should we judge a book by it's cover. Abso-friggen-lutely NOT! Some of the best books I've read were old beat up copies. I completely agree that it's how you feel when you're with someone that matters. Everybody has different preferences, I don't happen to be physically attracted to heavier men. I've been both stick thin and heavy and that hasn't changed. And since physical attraction is part of any good relationship, IMHO again, I guess I'm shallow. Bowing out. Don't shoot the messenger please.
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My two cents: We're screwed either way. "Babes/Hunks" think: I want someone to like me for who I am on the INSIDE, not how I look. "Non-Babes/Hunks" think: Nobody will give me the chance, get to know what a great person on I am on the inside, because of how I look. Both boil down to insecurity. If you like what you see when YOU look in the mirror, you are a beautiful person. Do we judge people by their looks? Abso-friggen-lutely! It's instinct, natural, we are animals after all. We need to determine if what we see is threatening so we can decide on which response to activate, fight or flight. If you saw a scary dude holding an axe with blood drippin' off it, you'd run in the other direction. While that's the extreme example, we do use vision as a primary cue on which to make judgements. So to say looks don't matter is IMHO naive. Should we judge a book by it's cover. Abso-friggen-lutely NOT! Some of the best books I've read were old beat up copies. I completely agree that it's how you feel when you're with someone that matters. Everybody has different preferences, I don't happen to be physically attracted to heavier men. I've been both stick thin and heavy and that hasn't changed. And since physical attraction is part of any good relationship, IMHO again, I guess I'm shallow. Bowing out. Don't shoot the messenger please.  Very, very well put! 
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i define shallow as not communicating with someone because of what they look like. not wanting to be physical with someone because of how they look is just preference.
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glad i didn't say it. fake pics annoy me more than no pics. . . . then you should love my profile, i took all my real pics down, mwuhwhahahahaha 
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I like 'em tall
I like 'em short I like 'em all! 
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glad i didn't say it. fake pics annoy me more than no pics. . . . not my intent to annoy i just like being mysterious i love to annoy
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Thanks IndnPrncs
"i define shallow as not communicating with someone because of what they look like. not wanting to be physical with someone because of how they look is just preference." Does this mean I'm not shallow gal? I talk to everyone! I'd probably try to talk to the axe dude I mentioned instead of running.  |
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I know what I like and a guy who does not fall into that area is going to have to make a much bigger effort to connect.
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Thanks IndnPrncs "i define shallow as not communicating with someone because of what they look like. not wanting to be physical with someone because of how they look is just preference." Does this mean I'm not shallow gal? I talk to everyone! I'd probably try to talk to the axe dude I mentioned instead of running. the majority of the women i talk to are ones i'm not physically attracted to. i've even had overweight lesbians tell me i'm not shallow when i explained it to them. (seemed quite an accomplishment at the time anyway) my best friend is a female that i'm not physically attracted to. just because i wouldn't sleep with her doesn't mean that i won't converse or hang out with her. . . . |
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i define shallow as not communicating with someone because of what they look like. not wanting to be physical with someone because of how they look is just preference. . . . very well said. being shallow means someone can't look beyond the appearance (whether it's in friendship or relationship) but people have preferences in attraction and there is nothing wrong with that and doesn't make someone shallow. people can have preference in size, hair, eyes, smile, etc. but I would question people that only go by physical appearance and doesn't loo further....as far as just talking to them, friendship, dating |
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You should definitely date someone for who they are. Beauty is vain and fleeting. Boobs will sag, yes, even the store bought ones. Tanning will turn skin to leather in a few years, people add a few pounds from time to time, get wrinkles. But there is no price you can place on that of a good man or a good woman. That being said, one HOPES that someone can look at substance, and not just a person who exudes stunning sexuality from every pore of their body. |
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i'm shallow, i'm shallow
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There was a study done not too long ago that found Ladies were actually more moved by the smell of the man than the looks alone. I think it was done in England, but not positive on that.
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if size made no difference then some ants would be larger than elephants and cherries might be bigger than trees, you could fix Caterpiller earthmoving equipment with a bobby pins, and my cat would eat great danes and saint bernards.
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