Something thats based on false hopes.Something that needs further clarification ?

Creating the illusion and anticipating the results without any real basis for it.

When it comes to dating might this be the single greatest flaw in the road map.

Instead if it is what it is might this be better to know ahead of time so the road map is very clear right from the beginning.

Sorry, you cannot "map" or plan love. It's not a road from point a to point b, it's more like white water rafting a meandering river in the dark, with plenty of obstacles. You hope, you pray, you do what you can, but in the end, you really don't know what you're gonna get. Only the adventurous need apply

Love is like rapids along a river you have to be willing to take all the ups and downs along with the twist and turns. There is no map for at times it makes it's own path along the way.

If love could be mapped out then you would always know what was going to happen before it happened and every turn you were going to make.

Reality is you jump in and hope like hell you stay afloat.......

So I'd like to know where, you got the notion
said I'd like to know where, you got the notion

to rock the boat, don't rock the boat baby
rock the boat, don't tip the boat over
rock the boat, don't rock the boat baby
rock the boat-t-t-t-t

Ever since our voyage of love began
your touch has thrilled me like the rush of the wind
and your arms have held me safe from a rolling sea
there's always been a quiet place to harbor you and me

Our love is like a ship on the ocean
we've been sailing with a cargo full of, love and devotion

So I'd like to know where, you got the notion
said I'd like to know where, you got the notion

To rock the boat, don't rock the boat baby
rock the boat, don't tip the boat over
rock the boat, don't rock the boat baby
rock the boat-t-t-t-t

Up to now we sailed through every storm
and I've always had your tender lips to keep me warm
oh I need to have the strength that flows from you
don't let me drift away my dear, when love can see me through

Our love is like a ship ...

Isn't that called Arranged Marraige?

It is that precise thinking that leads parties astray after just a short encounter.The things we say the ways we act are not misleading they are fact. It is the the speculation or the hope for change that is misleading.

People can change to small degrees but who you meet who you see is what youll get. You can make that projection that things will be different but probably alone when you finally realize it never should have started.

It is why we make wrong choices out of expectations that were never based on reality.

Ah, but you don't know the reality until you jump in. That's what you're not getting. It's not like every person you meet you know intimately before even going out for a cup of coffee.

Love is not for the weak of stomach or faint of heart. It's for those who are willing to take a chance knowing they may get their heartbroken, yet again. It's for those who are willing to ride out the rough spots, drift through the dead water and know when to jump out of a sinking raft.

Awww you complicate love with these paradyms. Its so simple! Love is like a morning constitutional. Sometimes it just feels good. Sometimes it really stinks. Sometimes its complicated and takes lots of extra effort to wipe. Sometimes its fun and sometimes its quick. And sometimes its hard and difficult. Just turn on a fan and light a candle. Don't complicate it.

Such negative vibes.

Speculation a preconceived notion of a subject/matter/person.

It is in no way, shape or form - the right/correct notion but a notion nonetheless.

The map is not the territory.

Love and crap!

I thought it was love.....but it was just a fart.

Spread the love.....pull my finger. Ppppppfffftttt!!!

Speculate love with a negative attitude and sarcasm and you will never find it.

OP - nor realize love was there all along

uhmmm, love is not a brain thing, it's a heart thing...