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Direct, in my opinion and only my opinion for me.. I don't think anyone can make me happy.. I have to be happy on my own within myself and that special person will enhance that happiness and we'd enjoy our lives together but I feel that if I'm not meant to meet that special person then I will be content and happy with my life and choices as I've made them... Prncs... you nailed it on the head. Anytime I have ever linked my happiness to another person, I've ended up miserable. My happiness is with me. Anyone that can add to that, great. If not... well ok. Either way, I'm still left with me in the end, so I have to be happy with me. I agree with both of you ladies...I don't mean that I want to be with someone so he will make me happy...not that the happiness would be brought about by him...but rather it would make me happy to know that I am with someone special and wonderful...perhaps I didn't clarify correctly.... |
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Someone else can't make you happy,maybe only for a sudden moment.. but sharing a simple moment with someone who you like/love/fun with will be 2 people who are happy, so more hapeniss then being just happy for yourself with yourself and by yourself. :D I can't control the actions of others. I can only control my reaction to others. |
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Direct, in my opinion and only my opinion for me.. I don't think anyone can make me happy.. I have to be happy on my own within myself and that special person will enhance that happiness and we'd enjoy our lives together but I feel that if I'm not meant to meet that special person then I will be content and happy with my life and choices as I've made them... Prncs... you nailed it on the head. Anytime I have ever linked my happiness to another person, I've ended up miserable. My happiness is with me. Anyone that can add to that, great. If not... well ok. Either way, I'm still left with me in the end, so I have to be happy with me. I agree with both of you ladies...I don't mean that I want to be with someone so he will make me happy...not that the happiness would be brought about by him...but rather it would make me happy to know that I am with someone special and wonderful...perhaps I didn't clarify correctly.... |
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Direct, in my opinion and only my opinion for me.. I don't think anyone can make me happy.. I have to be happy on my own within myself and that special person will enhance that happiness and we'd enjoy our lives together but I feel that if I'm not meant to meet that special person then I will be content and happy with my life and choices as I've made them... Prncs... you nailed it on the head. Anytime I have ever linked my happiness to another person, I've ended up miserable. My happiness is with me. Anyone that can add to that, great. If not... well ok. Either way, I'm still left with me in the end, so I have to be happy with me. I agree with both of you ladies...I don't mean that I want to be with someone so he will make me happy...not that the happiness would be brought about by him...but rather it would make me happy to know that I am with someone special and wonderful...perhaps I didn't clarify correctly.... I think we're all saying the same thing.. Yes, it would be wonderful to meet that special one... |
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Direct, in my opinion and only my opinion for me.. I don't think anyone can make me happy.. I have to be happy on my own within myself and that special person will enhance that happiness and we'd enjoy our lives together but I feel that if I'm not meant to meet that special person then I will be content and happy with my life and choices as I've made them... ^^ I agree with her disagreement. If one looks to another to "make them happy"...they will evitably end up eternally miserable. If one is not happy with their aloneness, then they can never appreciate how how another is only there to ENRICH their inner happiness. I'm a tad confused on how to post here...given I do agree with Cosmo's post that "we all need somebody", but I'm not certain to what degree she is speaking - humanistically or romantically? 
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Direct, in my opinion and only my opinion for me.. I don't think anyone can make me happy.. I have to be happy on my own within myself and that special person will enhance that happiness and we'd enjoy our lives together but I feel that if I'm not meant to meet that special person then I will be content and happy with my life and choices as I've made them... Prncs... you nailed it on the head. Anytime I have ever linked my happiness to another person, I've ended up miserable. My happiness is with me. Anyone that can add to that, great. If not... well ok. Either way, I'm still left with me in the end, so I have to be happy with me. I agree with both of you ladies...I don't mean that I want to be with someone so he will make me happy...not that the happiness would be brought about by him...but rather it would make me happy to know that I am with someone special and wonderful...perhaps I didn't clarify correctly.... I think we're all saying the same thing.. Yes, it would be wonderful to meet that special one... 
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Yeah for sure, but I have never seen someone who is happy cuz his lonely for ever. people need to interact and share, buttt that's my opinion. :) Andd someone's action can definitely have an effect on you. Think of spending time with someone who is negative and pessimistic. Or on the other hadn someone who's making you laugh and gives positive energy. |
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Direct, in my opinion and only my opinion for me.. I don't think anyone can make me happy.. I have to be happy on my own within myself and that special person will enhance that happiness and we'd enjoy our lives together but I feel that if I'm not meant to meet that special person then I will be content and happy with my life and choices as I've made them... ^^ I agree with her disagreement. If one looks to another to "make them happy"...they will evitably end up eternally miserable. If one is not happy with their aloneness, then they can never appreciate how how another is only there to ENRICH their inner happiness. I'm a tad confused on how to post here...given I do agree with Cosmo's post that "we all need somebody", but I'm not certain to what degree she is speaking - humanistically or romantically? I think she meant "humanistically" at least that's what I'm going with... 
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i'm a nice guy
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^ Yeah for sure, but I have never seen someone who is happy cuz his lonely for ever. people need to interact and share, buttt that's my opinion. :) Andd someone's action can definitely have an effect on you. Think of spending time with someone who is negative and pessimistic. Or on the other hadn someone who's making you laugh and gives positive energy. |
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Again, there are two very distinct differences here, IMHO...
Humanistic and romantical. Just in my opinion...most folks don't even "get" the difference between the two, or often confuse one for the other.
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Direct, in my opinion and only my opinion for me.. I don't think anyone can make me happy.. I have to be happy on my own within myself and that special person will enhance that happiness and we'd enjoy our lives together but I feel that if I'm not meant to meet that special person then I will be content and happy with my life and choices as I've made them... ^^ I agree with her disagreement. If one looks to another to "make them happy"...they will evitably end up eternally miserable. If one is not happy with their aloneness, then they can never appreciate how how another is only there to ENRICH their inner happiness. I'm a tad confused on how to post here...given I do agree with Cosmo's post that "we all need somebody", but I'm not certain to what degree she is speaking - humanistically or romantically? I think she meant "humanistically" at least that's what I'm going with... yess meant it humanistically. :))) starting a relationship because you are not happy with yourself and expect the other to make you happy is kind of fooling yourself and the other. |
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went to the "will you shower with the person above you" thread
(it's almost midnight!) |
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^ Yeah for sure, but I have never seen someone who is happy cuz his lonely for ever. people need to interact and share, buttt that's my opinion. :) Andd someone's action can definitely have an effect on you. Think of spending time with someone who is negative and pessimistic. Or on the other hadn someone who's making you laugh and gives positive energy. Good thing I'm cynical...people always laugh at cynicism.  But honestly, I don't care if I'm lonely forever...I'm just fine with myself and can live comfortably alone. On top of that being alone has never left me depressed or questioning what I say to myself, far easier. If I happen to come across someone that compliments that or we mesh really good I suppose it can change...the beauty of life I guess, it is ever-changing. |
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you need to get over to the intimacy and sex forum,
I'm telling ya!
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Edited by
directandwrite
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Mon 07/06/09 11:45 PM
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Direct, in my opinion and only my opinion for me.. I don't think anyone can make me happy.. I have to be happy on my own within myself and that special person will enhance that happiness and we'd enjoy our lives together but I feel that if I'm not meant to meet that special person then I will be content and happy with my life and choices as I've made them... Prncs... you nailed it on the head. Anytime I have ever linked my happiness to another person, I've ended up miserable. My happiness is with me. Anyone that can add to that, great. If not... well ok. Either way, I'm still left with me in the end, so I have to be happy with me. I agree with both of you ladies...I don't mean that I want to be with someone so he will make me happy...not that the happiness would be brought about by him...but rather it would make me happy to know that I am with someone special and wonderful...perhaps I didn't clarify correctly.... I think we're all saying the same thing.. Yes, it would be wonderful to meet that special one... Hey what about this....I totally agree!!!! LMAO!!!!! |
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went to the "will you shower with the person above you" thread (it's almost midnight!) soooooooooo you need a shower or just a showering parnter??
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^ Yeah for sure, but I have never seen someone who is happy cuz his lonely for ever. people need to interact and share, buttt that's my opinion. :) Andd someone's action can definitely have an effect on you. Think of spending time with someone who is negative and pessimistic. Or on the other hadn someone who's making you laugh and gives positive energy. Good thing I'm cynical...people always laugh at cynicism. But honestly, I don't care if I'm lonely forever...I'm just fine with myself and can live comfortably alone. On top of that being alone has never left me depressed or questioning what I say to myself, far easier. If I happen to come across someone that compliments that or we mesh really good I suppose it can change...the beauty of life I guess, it is ever-changing. I respect that about you, Fear, I do, however think that your opinions might not always remain that way, or even that they are hiding below the surface levels and perhaps you don't recognize them yet. That is perfectly fine though. I wish I didn't want to share my life with that special someone as I do. I wish that it didn't matter one way or the other to me. But I do want that.... I think maybe one day you will also... 
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just wanted to see who was in the shower!
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I need a cold shower
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