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Topic: your opnions...
mssilverfox Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 10529	Mon 07/06/09 04:08 PM Edited by mssilverfox on Mon 07/06/09 04:08 PM
My children are at least 18 yrs younger than I.. I have always said I wouldn't date anyone younger than my kids out of respect for them. But my ideals are changing because I can't find anyone my age that can keep up with me.. and everyone says I don't look my age.. I can be friends with anyage people and I am.. PS: I just bought a new Harley today

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Wed 07/08/09 11:03 AM
Im 33 and was engaged to a guy who was 21 last year. Was nice til he moved, and distance didnt work. Anyway, legal age shouldnt be a problem, and you dont have to marry everyone potentially.. just have some freakin fun! seems to me...... that someone your own age these days is just for fun too rather you think it or not, rather you have 1 week sinked into it or 6 yrs.... thats what im trying to say... I agree with you completely, I dont go for relationships, and project, its the same with ayone I choose at whatever age they are, I enter for fun, and see where it goes, no expectations beside common decency. but what im saying... so what if it is for a relationship? since that doesnt seen to matter to many anymore? the chance is the same right? does age really make a difference? Yeah, I totally said yes, im all about it, I did it sucessfully til he moved, he was 21.. I was just saying to have fun at least til you can figure out if they can hang with the relationship, or whatever ya wanna do, not entering with any kind of relationship on your mind. That way its safer and there is less hurt, or prob for anyone. nu hurt comes with the same age or 3 yrs older or 8 yrs younger.... so what is the difference with the age? and i said those ages cause i have experienced that... Oh, I hope your still watching this thread hon, cos ill tell ya! Ok, what hurts more is when you set yourself up for disaster with someone that never had what was nessasary in a relationship, cos 1. they are truly a person who turned out to be be too immature, and there was no way to find out this before ou were in love, and having this deep loving relationship you may like me have turned out totally screwed, cos your all into this whole thing, and they just cruise with no consideration whatsoever for your feelings, cos they arent really sure of WHAT they feel yet really, they are too inexperienced to get it, and your stuck out. ORRR 2 in my experience with someone older, they may not take YOU so seriously because they have been around the block, and been screwed, or never took you seriously anyway, cos they think YOUR too young to truly get them. Or.. you could be put by this mate in competition with other women of a certain age they may prefer more than yours in the long run. Ohh yeah, and then you cant forget that you have to take responsibilty for YOUR part in the situation, and admit to yourself that you got yourself into this useless crap mess. i totally agree...... but sometimes too immature is also your own age, not always... all this thread is about is.. i have a friend that is younger a lot younger, guess i was surprised that there were so much in common, now if he were my age lol, i may be jumping in lol.. however hes not, i was shocked though and it did change my mind on having a 5 yrs older or 5 yr younger idea in my head..in the past yes i did allow too much from ones i cared about so it was my fault, my actions were by staying.... not the actions they preformed though.. that was their choice... thanks

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Wed 07/08/09 11:13 AM
My children are at least 18 yrs younger than I.. I have always said I wouldn't date anyone younger than my kids out of respect for them. But my ideals are changing because I can't find anyone my age that can keep up with me.. and everyone says I don't look my age.. I can be friends with anyage people and I am.. PS: I just bought a new Harley today congrats to you!!! on the harley how fun!! again someone can have one child.... and give birth at 14, the next person had their first child at age 40.....now between the age of these two examples are 26 yrs..... now when the 40 yrs old turns 50 her child is only 10 lol so id say its not ok for the 40 yr old to date the 11 yr old however when the 14 yrs old turns 50 her child is 36 yrs old . with that then older than her child is 37 big difference lol!

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Wed 07/08/09 11:14 AM
and ps lol.... i was 21 when i had my first child not 14!

JUSTSAYINGHELLOO Joined Wed 02/27/08 Posts: 500	Wed 07/08/09 11:20 AM
To me age does not matter, it is in the connection the two people have together, the dynamics, the sparks and most of course the attraction. After that you could create a start to a relationship. I am now dating someone 18 years older than me.

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Fri 08/07/09 07:38 AM
well so far, soooo good!! he doesnt seem to be bothered a bit... but does have concern that i am, or was? lol doenst bother me too much anymore... and thank you all for the input.. gave me the courage to try... he said thank you too lol... i told him what i did compatibility is great! never imagined that.. with someone so much younger..havent found one thing about him that i dont care for... thats kinda strange for me too lol.. perfect so far the way he is....