Well, let's see... I have been talking to this guy, let's call him Bob, and I really feel like this could work. He is a few years older than me and lives on his own. I on the other hand still live with my mom, who by the way still tries to control my life even though I am 22. Ok so here's the problem... My mom hates the way I "met" him (mingle2) and I know she is going to have a fit when I want to actually see him. I told him all this because honesty is key. Now I believe he wants to just forget the whole thing. What should I do? Please give what advice you can I would appreciate it. I really like this guy so far. :(

Try not to stress on it. Go out a few times with him, if he's a decent guy, Mom won't care where you met him.

Have a talk with him & I think honesty is the best policy...kudos to you! Don't worry i'm almost 40 & my mother still tries to control my life

Honesty is the most important thing, but umm, don't think you should have told him that. Your mom has a right to her opinion, she wants to protect you, but it's your life...if you can you should try to move out on your own. As for your guy, what he's seeing is drama, and possibly a controlling family...and he's going to want to run. JMO.

If you really like each other though, let it pass and see what happens.

when i met a ex on here. he met me at my moms for she wanted to get his license plate number.

my mom wasent trilled either that i met a guy on a dating site. as she does try still to control my life.(thats why i dont live with her)

Well, tell your mom there is no other way to meet people these days. Meeting people here is bad or wrong...It is a site to actually meet people...Tell her to get a grip.

And the guy, if he likes you then he will still want to meet you, no matter what your mom says.

ay caramba. i agree with indigo.

but if you tell him you got it under control then go out
for a while and see where it leads then it should work out...
of course it still might not be a match, but you never
know until you try.

sometimes there is such a thing as too much honesty like the dude didn't need to know that your mom already has it in for him because he's the EVIL INTERNET GUY!

so you goofed.

he's probably going to be too uncomfortable now because you kinda presented drama to his plate.

learn the lesson and next time don't tell the dude how your mom feels about this stuff.

Just explain why you live with mom and leave it like that.

the less drama the better.

good luck.

Thank you!

I have tried to move out but a bad 3 years (too personal to post) has set me back horribly! But I am still working towards moving out :)

We all have areas to work on or work out, that's why if all else fails...


come to Mingleland, you'll get help and advice whether ya need it or not. Seriously though, you'll be fine, just do what's right for you,and be happy.

Are you sure that he wants to forget the whole thing?

If he does, that's not very mature to me.

Yea, I'm almost positive. Seeing as he isn't answering my messages anymore. :(

here's my 2 cents...as long as you live with your mom...she will be in your business. when you are on your own, then you can tell her to mind her own business. My ex lived with his parents and they tried to control everything and I'm sorry...but if he can't stand on his own feet and make his own decisions...that isn't what I need in my life right now. Maybe the guy feels this way too. It's his right to his feelings...just as you have your right to your beliefs

Dont let your mom be a factor of what you want to do with yourself, your life and anybody in it. Sure, its always nice to know parents care... but times are different. If you cant make your own decisions, and if your mom cant accept you as a grown up... something needs changing.

Let your heart guide you.

I live with my father. He helped me move away from a dangerous lifestyle and gave me a job working from home. When I lived with my mom, she did the same, my father doesnt, but it still is a concept of image some people just dont like... Somebody told me to not tell people about my kids because it scares people away, but I dont want anybody who is going to assume, judge, and close their mind... think about if that kind of person is worth pursuing.

Hope its not too tough, I truly wish the best for you! Peace n Love

If he don't have concern and understanding now...what makes you think he will at anytime down the road...I think not! He sounds like a looser to me.

hanging by a moment....lifehouse

shock...fear factory

Its not her biz, so just do what u want, and stop explaing to her your private life.

so how is this guy a jerk?? it could be just that he doesn't want any potential drama from the mom or to be the reason for conflict between the OP and her mom

honestly....iheartyew...try to be understanding of his point of view and talk to him...maybe he has a suggestion or something

simple once you become an adult and know everything you must treat the parents as yeah i didn't ask to be brought into this world....then after you tell them that then you must go on and find the love of your life cause when your an adult and realize all the responsibility you need the one you call your prince in shining armor,then you realize he's a loser so you continue to find the one that you call your knight in shining armor....oooops wrong man but right armor...then after the divorce when your 40 years old ..you start looking for younger guys and just do them cause you can...after that your old and really don't care what type of man you have,just as long as you don't die alone