Or is that simply a line we feed to ourselves and others to make people feel better, give them false sense of hope?

Is it just as likely some are condemned to live a life alone either by themselves or a higher power as some sort of punishment for past actions?

I am on the fence on this one. I suppose a sense of hope, even a false one, is better than no hope at all.

I think some are meant to be alone simply b/c they make it too difficult to accept someone long term..

some need a sense of hope and there's nothing wrong with that... whatever gets one through the day as long as it's not hurting anyone else...

I am fully aware that there may not be anyone for me and that I am mainly responsible for that... I'm ok with it b/c "if" it's meant to be it will be, I won't settle just to be with someone...

I would like to think,there IS someone out there, for me.

Best wishes

I dunno about you but there someone other there for me

Here's my problem with this idea:

If there really IS someone for everyone, then that requires that there be someone or something in charge of making the determination of who is supposed to be for who.

(Completely apart from the issue of whether or not the people in question ever actually find each other -- that's another matter entirely.)

As I've seen no evidence of there being any sort of supernatural mystical match agency (hey, there's an idea: Mystical Match! Can we do that?), I just don't see any reason to believe in the "someone for everybody" scenario.

I see it more as one of those platitudes that people fall back on for some kind of comfort: "It'll turn up when you're not looking" (demonstrably untrue) or "It'll turn up at the right time" (same problem as above -- who's determining the "right time"? -- and WHY should we trust "them," particularly since the most likely probability is that "they" don't even exist!) --

I would like to think so...........and if its meant to be, it'll happen....and YOU'LL KNOW IT!

there are so many matches for each person...honestly i sometimes
can't fathom why people have difficulty meeting other people!

i think it is really like the movie "yes man" and that more people
merely have to say "yes"

so....say "yes" to someone nice today and watch friendship
and love bloom like a "Willow Shell"

Lex: The problem arises if one believes 'there is a reason for everything'..hence God is in charge of all the little quirks in our lives from birth to death aside from the free will actions we commit on each other for good and bad.

Now I believe God created this world, and occasionally gets involved to prevent us from blowing this world up, but other than that I'm thinking the Sims game. Set it and forget it.

So perhaps the 'there is a reason for everything' line that annoys me. Perhaps its more likely things happen.

2kidsmom: I can't say if there is or isn't, but I think everyone should have someone, provided they treat the other person decently and both are happy.

Indnprncss: You're right we shouldn't just 'settle'. My issue is I'm not even getting the first dates. If its decided on the first date it won't work, thats one thing, and I'm content with that. But it seems like there is something natural or supernatural that says 'don't get to know this person whatsoever, move on to someone else. I know that seems absurd to think, but well..

Now I believe I have something to offer someone. I don't presume I'm Gods greatest gift to women. But I do have some sticking points..IE someone in my generation, takes care of herself, kids are okay.

I think that it would be near impossible to find just one person that was meant to be only for you. People come and go into and out of your life, hopefully enriching it. The relationships I have had in the past have helped me be the man I am today and helped me to have respect for others. Don't put so much pressure on yourself or a potential mate thinking that this may be the one! Just enjoy the ride....ummm, no pun intended.

I think that there is

I found someone when I was trying to prove the point that on-line dating is a joke. If I can find someone, then anyone can. You have to be willing to let someone past your defenses. Lex, CHutch, are you willing to do that?

good point.

I have no idea when I'll be ready to do that.

I would like to believe there are more than just the one out there. I'd like a have a different "one" every weekend if i could for the next 5 years or so at least.

Indnprncss: You're right we shouldn't just 'settle'. My issue is I'm not even getting the first dates. If its decided on the first date it won't work, thats one thing, and I'm content with that. But it seems like there is something natural or supernatural that says 'don't get to know this person whatsoever, move on to someone else. I know that seems absurd to think, but well..





I go with my instincts, I've found when I don't I end up kicking myself b/c I knew better...

Nope

yes, i believe in the 'someone for everyone' mantra. shes just not here.

thats like, a bad joke that should have been told a year ago

oh I believe it...I just think my one is in hiding (in the witness protection program)

either that or Joy is hiding him under her bed...i hear she is that way