So, we've discussed whether or not a person can love or be "in love" with someone they've never met face to face...

So what about "hate"? Can you really hate that person who annoys you on the Forums or in cyber?

Which is stronger...love or hate...& is any of it real when posting with strangers?

Yes , yes you can

what a great topic!

hate's a pretty strong word, but there are certainly people who instantly rub me the wrong way and with whom i am certain i'd never get along and/or have any sort of relationship, romantic or otherwise.

in reverse, there are those to whom i'm immediately attracted and a certain chemistry exists, even if it's platonic. i am seldom wrong about either.

and then there is a huge grey, shaded area within which most people fall and where they forever stay.

Hate is the more defined between the two, can be stronger just depends what someone does with it. I don't hate anyone, and only despise one person...but he has absolutely nothing to do with this site.

I don't think you can be in love with someone you've never met face to face, and the same applies to hate. You can dislike someone, but hate is more personal than a few e-mails or forum correspondence.

ha ha ha, I think this is my favorite quote of yours ever!!

I personally believe that yes, you can dislike someone or even feel strong attraction towards someone on line. But until you meet them face to face, spend time with them, you don't really know them. So love / hate someone online. I don't think so.

i can't say that i hate any one particular individual, but i do collectively hate the scammers that go around trying to manipulate and use people (especially when those people happen to be friends of mine). every so often, the issue of being fake used to arise on a site of which i was a member and there were specific predator-type people who acted in this manner.

i can, however, say - without any doubt at all - that i was completely in love with robin before meeting him. it might not be YOUR version of love, or even anyone else's, but it certainly was what i felt.

(and mr. talldub up there was one of those whom i immediately liked; and, of course, instantly assumed he was fake because of it )

Hi Everyone


yes, i agree with this post totally


you can read a lot between the lines about a person


and the vibes whether positive or negative


just emanate from the post

I do believe there's a fine line between love & hate...whether in cyber or in RL...perhaps it depends on which hurts more...

Ha ha, the good old days! My own personal view of people I don't know here is to try to treat them as "real" people until proven to be who they say they are or otherwise.

Love leading to hate hurts like hell...

Not sure if it's a case of which hurts more, I think it's just a case of the sheer power of the emotions and that they are more or less antagonistic emotions.

but yes, you are also correct Tall Dub


many times we may have misconceptions about people


that completely evaporate when you get to know them


and yet other times that deep inner intuition kicks in


and I see that i was totally right on


regarding my initial impression

definately

I think that in RL or cyber to "hate" takes a lot of emotion... My father always told me "hate takes emotion, so if you hate someone you must have cared about them at some point to draw up that kind of emotion"... That put a different perspective on the word "hate" for me... I may dislike but I don't give someone I don't care for, enough of my emotions to hate them...

Its very sad when love turns to hate

Agreed...however, I do find it interesting that IMO, I see many more professing "love" rather than hate...shouldn't love be given the same careful consideration? (referring to the "love gushers" on the Forums who haven't met yet)

Hate is just a waste of time. you are not hurting the one you hate, your just hurting yourself by living in the misery of anger.

I love papersmile but I'm not very good at gushing

there are a lot of people here that I like. I'm sure I piss some of em off here and there just like I do my friends in real life

there are a couple of people on here that I really don't like and I just dont have the kind of manners that keeps me from telling them

but there isn't anybody anywhere that I hate

If you're talking for more than friends then YES, I abosolutley agree.. I "love/adore" my friends here and our friendship in most cases goes past just chatting here.. But for the partner type love, no I don't think you can really know until you meet and spend time together.. We all know that in the beginning everything is just peaches and cream and then reality sets in... IMO It's better to wait to express any deep feelings like love until you've met and taken time to get to know someone in person..

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I think that in RL or cyber to "hate" takes a lot of emotion... My father always told me "hate takes emotion, so if you hate someone you must have cared about them at some point to draw up that kind of emotion"... That put a different perspective on the word "hate" for me... I may dislike but I don't give someone I don't care for, enough of my emotions to hate them...




Agreed...however, I do find it interesting that IMO, I see many more professing "love" rather than hate...shouldn't love be given the same careful consideration? (referring to the "love gushers" on the Forums who haven't met yet)



If you're talking for more than friends then YES, I abosolutley agree.. I "love/adore" my friends here and our friendship in most cases goes past just chatting here.. But for the partner type love, no I don't think you can really know until you meet and spend time together.. We all know that in the beginning everything is just peaches and cream and then reality sets in... IMO It's better to wait to express any deep feelings like love until you've met and taken time to get to know someone in person..






absolutely


that is the wisest thing to do