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Topic: Is love a feeling or a choice?
galendgirl Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 24728	Sun 06/28/09 07:37 PM
Is love a feeling or a choice? Both! Yep!

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 06/29/09 08:03 PM
Is love a feeling or a choice? Both! Yep!

Poetrywriter Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 22675	Mon 06/29/09 08:06 PM
Definitely both! Love is a feeling that the heart chooses to make!

Anonimoose Joined Sat 11/29/08 Posts: 479	Tue 06/30/09 03:21 AM
Poetrywriter ... that is an awesome avatar!

gayfifer Joined Sat 04/04/09 Posts: 6655	Tue 06/30/09 03:30 AM
a feeling surely?

2bserious Joined Sat 06/20/09 Posts: 1	Tue 06/30/09 03:07 PM
Is love a feeling or a choice? It depends on the person you are asking. There is not right or wrong answer. It truly depends on the eyes of the beholder. For me, I think friendship is the first stage of love and without it, love cant exist. When you enter on these type of sites your interest, your trying to eliminate those who would less likely be a friend. Once this is accomplished, then you will see if there is chemistry. This is when you find true love. It only one mans opinion.

Rockmybobbysocks Joined Thu 10/30/08 Posts: 3961	Tue 06/30/09 03:09 PM
its neither. its a primal addiction.

BL4766 Joined Sun 04/27/08 Posts: 74269	Tue 06/30/09 03:12 PM
Is love a feeling or a choice? its a choice................. and when its THERE..........its a "feeling" like NO OTHER!!!!!!

romee Joined Tue 08/15/06 Posts: 14265	Tue 06/30/09 03:49 PM
Is love a feeling or a choice? its a choice................. and when its THERE..........its a "feeling" like NO OTHER!!!!!! i agree

NiteOwl71 Joined Thu 06/11/09 Posts: 17	Tue 06/30/09 04:34 PM
This question of whether love is a choice or a feeling is waaay to broad, because most people mistake lust for love. Lust is a pure chemical reaction, a feeling of the most basic of human emotions. It is also temporary and ends when the "honeymoon" is over. Love is the choice that is made each and every day to be with and to be there for that person that you love, regardless of how ugly they are that particular day. Sometimes that choice has to be made moment by moment, but it is a choice that, for me at least, becomes a part of who I am, and how I react and respond each and every day. Even when you choose not to do anything (a far harder act than any by the way), it is still a choice.

Poetrywriter Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 22675	Tue 06/30/09 06:05 PM
Poetrywriter ... that is an awesome avatar! thanks bro!

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sun 07/12/09 11:28 PM
This question of whether love is a choice or a feeling is waaay to broad, because most people mistake lust for love. Lust is a pure chemical reaction, a feeling of the most basic of human emotions. It is also temporary and ends when the "honeymoon" is over. Love is the choice that is made each and every day to be with and to be there for that person that you love, regardless of how ugly they are that particular day. Sometimes that choice has to be made moment by moment, but it is a choice that, for me at least, becomes a part of who I am, and how I react and respond each and every day. Even when you choose not to do anything (a far harder act than any by the way), it is still a choice.

spacekase Joined Mon 11/03/08 Posts: 129	Mon 07/13/09 02:12 AM
i realy think its something that is ther naturaly or it isnt, not so much on a feelings level but on a deeper connection that comes from bein conpatible. and not realy a choice, (lust def) love cant be turned on and off, at least for me. i would have to say its an element of life that has always been. no matter how cold the hart, it will always have a love for something wanted or not, no matter the feeling.

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Mon 07/13/09 03:15 AM
Both. The feeling starts and you chose what to do with it

HeyBeautiful88 Joined Wed 06/17/09 Posts: 1056	Mon 07/13/09 03:35 AM
Love is not just a feeling but an ability Well Said Pats... Some people it seems just cannot Love... they lack the ability. For me, it seems that I cannot Control or Choose to Love you, or not Love you. Now I can Choose to act upon it, or not... And if I Love you... well then... Generally, itsa' wrap. I can't Un-Love you. It doesn't work that way. Why has no body asked there's a Difference in "Loving" and "Being in Love"... scratching my chin

Alzeimer Joined Thu 10/23/08 Posts: 2268	Mon 07/13/09 04:25 AM
Is love a feeling or a choice? You feel the love and you choose how to react to it.

Gossipmpm Joined Tue 03/03/09 Posts: 19414	Mon 07/13/09 04:32 AM
It's pure feeling for me I have no choice!!

Slyther83 Joined Sat 04/18/09 Posts: 645	Mon 07/13/09 05:46 AM
its a feeling, most definitely.

rajiv_034 Joined Mon 07/13/09 Posts: 1	Mon 07/13/09 05:58 AM
it is love you cant define it its not afealing and its not achoice too . love is only love.

Sigiere Joined Fri 05/29/09 Posts: 150	Mon 07/13/09 01:02 PM
a bit of both and at the same time, neither I believe. It's an indescribable bond you share with someone that you can choose to not allow yourself to get into or be forced into by your hart.