Topic: Is love a feeling or a choice?
jtip1977's photo
Wed 06/24/09 11:35 AM
It's a feeling. Because I choose not to love you Mirror but it isn't working. I can't fight this feeling anymorelove :heart: smitten

misstina2's photo
Wed 06/24/09 11:37 AM
:tongue: you'll have to mud wrestle me for Mirror:tongue:

jtip1977's photo
Wed 06/24/09 11:41 AM
I love mud wrestlingdrool

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Wed 06/24/09 11:49 AM
Edited by GuyUndisputed on Wed 06/24/09 11:50 AM
Thank you Mirror. I have never really thought about this until now. I am not absolutely sure how I feel about this question, but I believe I am leaning more twards love being a feeling than a choice. I just think that if it were a choice then wouldn't it be so simple to just choose not to love someone that has hurt you or left you?

PATSFAN's photo
Wed 06/24/09 12:24 PM
bigsmile It's a choice feelingbigsmile

MirrorMirror's photo
Thu 06/25/09 11:07 AM

It's a feeling. Because I choose not to love you Mirror but it isn't working. I can't fight this feeling anymorelove :heart: smitten
drool

GummiBear's photo
Fri 06/26/09 11:50 PM
a feeling of choice

MirrorMirror's photo
Sat 06/27/09 04:36 PM

Thank you Mirror. I have never really thought about this until now. I am not absolutely sure how I feel about this question, but I believe I am leaning more twards love being a feeling than a choice. I just think that if it were a choice then wouldn't it be so simple to just choose not to love someone that has hurt you or left you?
:thumbsup:

shoesmonkey's photo
Sat 06/27/09 04:43 PM
I've found that love is something that overcome's me when I'm so not expecting it. So, Love grow's.

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Sat 06/27/09 04:57 PM
"Love is not a feeling. Love is an action, an activity. . .Genuine love implies commitment and the exercise of wisdom. . . . love as the will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth.....true love is an act of will that often transcends ephemeral feelings of love or cathexis, it is correct to say, 'Love is as love does'.”

I agree with that quote 100%. Implied therein is that love is a choice. Attraction or being in love... those are feelings that are beyond a person's control and have to do with biology, pheromones, etc.


cityblues21's photo
Sat 06/27/09 05:04 PM
I believe you allow yourself to open up to the possibilities of feelings, thus making a choice, but love itself is a feeling.

Anonimoose's photo
Sat 06/27/09 11:29 PM

:heart: Is love a feeling or a choice?:heart:


Yes

aztmom's photo
Sat 06/27/09 11:52 PM

bigsmile It's a choice feelingbigsmile


Patsfan I think you've nailed it!! smooched

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Sun 06/28/09 10:28 AM
I feel both things need to be involved. Love should be present beyond the 'honeymoon' or 'lust' phase. Loving someone should go beyond the shallow things ex: He's cute, or she's pretty. It is a process of having similar commonalities, by matching personalities in many ways. Once that has been established, that's when the choice begins. You need to choose to continue to love that person, when they are sick, lost their job, lost a family member and gained 50 pounds. When in this generation, the message is that people are disposable, 'the grass is greener' syndrome. That someone is prettier, more handsome, has more money than the one you've got, then you are missing the boat. Choosing to stay and Loving someone no matter what, are just not valued qualities anymore.

metalwing's photo
Sun 06/28/09 10:34 AM
Can you "feel" Brain Damage?

patsfan64's photo
Sun 06/28/09 10:41 AM
Love is not just a feeling but an ability flowerforyou

PATSFAN's photo
Sun 06/28/09 10:42 AM


bigsmile It's a choice feelingbigsmile


Patsfan I think you've nailed it!! smooched



flowerforyou Thank youflowerforyou

myshell711's photo
Sun 06/28/09 04:35 PM
I would say that love is more of a feeling than a choice...a combination of both however with more feeling!!...drinker

FearandLoathing's photo
Sun 06/28/09 04:37 PM

I quoted earlier studies showing that the brain is stimulated in the addiction centers of the brain in people who are in love, and like most addictions it is ergo a choice. BUT for those who advocate a disease of addiction, then okay it is a disease.


I agree...also, that is hilarious.rofl

joshnet4u's photo
Sun 06/28/09 07:26 PM
love is all about feeling.