I was just wondering why do men have such a problem dating a women that is raising her grand son? I have had many write saying that having a kid around would not be cool. or call me when you dont have him anymore. I don't understand a lot of men anymore.When did they get so cold hearted?

wow....



As I have been reminded many times ...my kids are a package deal.



Tell them to kiss your a$$.

If they have a problem with it, then it's THEIR problem....avoid at all cost. But there are many men that either thinks it's endearing or have no problem with it

Some people don't want to deal with children, It's just a matter of preference!

A lot of people, not just men but women too, don't like being around children. At least they are being honest with you.

Agreed...don't take it personally. Once you get to a certain age...a lot of us don't want to deal with younger children...I know I don't...at least they are being honest with you...


Dang Tami...quit reading my mind!

It doesn't necessarily have anything to do with being cold-hearted -- in my own case, it's sheer practicality. I've dated women with kids; it doesn't work for me. No sense in pretending otherwise and making everyone miserable.

???? People say that to you????

I don't want to..I am scared to read all that goes on in there.

Men don't have a problem with it, SOME men have a problem with it.

Like others have said THEIR problem, not yours.

Don't sweat it, they were probably jerks anyways!

Not necessarily, it is just a preference thing. Some men alike with some women don't want to get in a relationship with kids already in the picture. Doesn't mean they are jerks or cold, doesn't really mean a lot at the end of it anyway, just a personal preference...no different than not wanting to date a smoker, drinker, or drug user. The only difference is people take it more personal for whatever reason, probably because they see it as an attack...who knows.

PFFT! Ive heard of this before but have never encountered it.

I wont even date someone who doesnt like animals, and i dont even HAVE pets. I think it says alot about a person.


Whats funny is theyre presumptious enough to really assume youd ever ALLOW theyre low selves to be NEAR your children or grands.

It cracks me up when I meet a man, and he has all planned who he would be to my son, and how he would handle things like discipline.

LMAO. seriously, no matter HOW close I get to someone.. I am the parent, and they have no place doing anything but being themselves, and acting like a decent human being. The parent is I, and noone else.

Its good you found out up front, because you didnt have to waste time with the robot.

To me, judging someone ill who has kids is lacking in themselves, and dont BELONG around kids in the first place.

Like your kids have anything to do with who you date.. lol

I agree....

The way I see it is by the time you're the age where you're dating someone with grandchildren, you might not want to take on any small children.
It's their right. Small children are a lot to take on. I have no problem dating someone with small children, however I can't say when I'm "older" I would want to take that role on.

I find it funny that people are lashing out and attacking someone they don't even know based of their personal preference of not wanting to get in a relationship with someone that is taking care of kids. I'm going to start lashing out at people for not wanting to date a drug user, alcoholic, or smoker. Level the playing field a little...

omg...im already disliked for either smoking, drinking, kids, tats...the list goes on.........lolol...

maybe you need to start dating younger men!!!

Thats funny Gypsy, I dated a guy who was 21 at age 32, my son was half his age. lol

I think it's great that you're raising your Grandson. He obviously needs you.