And I expressed my opinion on it.

Agreed, but that's not how they see it. In their minds, they are the ultimate arbiters of which standards are acceptable and which are not. If you don't agree with their beliefs (regardless of how it is they came to them in the first place!) then you're just garbage to them.

yep...you are in the same boat as the OP. I can respect preferences whether I agree with them or not...but not going to send nasty mails to point it out....that's childish IMO

This is very true. I don't think the OP's first post made it clear that these people were just emailing her out of the blue and saying these rude things though. At least I didn't interpret it that way until she cleared it up later.

Well the obvious only other choice is acceptance, for which I am pro.

I dont believe as I have said in previous post, that anyones chldren have anything to do with our mates. Yes I am all for being sure one seeks a decent upstanding individual that is healthy for you, the kids, and not scary if the children be introduced, but who knows if thos person first of all is even gonna MEET the kids ya know?

Maybe its just some fun.

Also.. If, and when the kids say come into play (down the road) projecting here.. How hard is this persons job? They may actually smile at the kids, and answer a couple of whats up questions? They may actually be looked up to and be admired?

I just find it wierd that people, be them big or small be so intimidating. The person being brought into the relationship is not the parent.

I mean, yeah also as ive said, some people DONT belong around children, and gladly these people arent interested.

But I just dont see it anyones business weather you have kids or not, or what you do with them.

The OP is a first time poster. She's talking about hateful emails that she's receiving because her profile says that she is raising her young grandson.

And I expressed my opinion on it.

It ISN'T anyone else's business!! But it IS their business to decide whether they want to date or not date someone with children! And as for the other choice of "acceptance"? What do I do if someone with children is interested in me? Not tell them I don't want to date someone with children, not just pass them by, but tell them I "accept?" Hmmm

its kinda like being in your late 40s with a 7yr old. the women my own age avoid me like the plague, the older women are dont want someone with kids and im to old for the younger ones

cher...this is the part that stuck out for me. I looked at her profile before my first post and it said she has her grandchild on the profile. My point was...if kids aren't there things...cool, but no need to email about it

when I was looking to date I had the I'm your girl/I'm not your girl if.... I had someone email telling me I was demanding....which I don't think I was AT ALL. but he felt the need to email that to me. I emailed him back saying "then I'm not your girl....move along"

Yeah, my standpoint is simply accepting the person who has children.

Noones dating the children, theyre dating the person with children.

The parent is the parent.

Im all for people being honest about why they dont want to date someone with children.

I dont know why someone would act that way

Because they don't care? Probably could be it, figure if they care so little...even less concern should be granted to them, meh, just me though.

Yellowrose--please understand: I am not in the least disagreeing with you. I completely agree there is no need for people to be so rude and I have stated as such. I sympathize with the OP and others who have had to deal with folks who take it upon themselves to write such unsolicited and rude emails. I was merely pointing that out because of some of the other posts. My biggest, shall we say, "beef" about this thread is that there are a few who are basically saying we are not entitled to our preferences and that we are "rude" if we either state our preferences or just pass someone by because of them. That's all.

It was not about just a point of prefrence, it was people emailing her going out of their way to be rude.

oh I agree we aren't disagreeing...just clarifying is all lol.

I don't agree with people saying someone doesn't have the rights to their preferences (even though I've seen some say the opposite in other threads) and I don't agree with others feeling the need to point out that someone is wrong for their preferences in their profiles either (talking about people who email)

we are pretty much saying the same things....we are just clarifying and expanding on it

SURE ALL GO OUT WITH YOU..............