It's not about personal preference. OP stated that men are going out of their way to make it known that they won't be with her due to raising her grandchildren. OP stated that she has it on her profile, but these guys are still emailing her. Those are jerks!

Delete, and ignore. You can even block them as a safe measure for the future.

Wow sorry I hit a nerve with you!!!!
I was just wanting to get some feed back

It think if OP wants to vent about it and post a thread, why not! This is her first experience on the forums, obviously this was bugging her and she was looking for some advice or just to vent.

come on....there is nothing wrong with preferences. we are responding to the OP...if someone has a certain preference and the other doesn't fit the preference...move on. no need to email to tell them what they think is wrong with them. yes people do....but this isn't about the preferences....it's about the disrespect shown

Welcome to the forums! Not all of the threads are like this! I would encourage you to explore and post on some other threads, its a good way to meet and get to know people!

you good hon....no worries

I call lashing out directing something at someone personally.

I gave a general opinion. Didnt you? Were you lashing out because you said you exclude human beings from your life? Did I accuse you of that? No.

Exlusionary statements about children imo is the same as saying, yeah, I dont date people with blacks in their family, I dont date people because they have handicapped famly members.

Yeah, I stand by my post.

Its not personal, Ive not encountered it, but I will state my opinion as well.

And yes, for sure, I believe it lacks humanity.

Thanks

Just stating my opinion. Didn't hit a nerve, I just thought it was funny how everyone jumped on the attack bandwagon. If you get e-mails like that, just delete them and ignore the user...if you see fit block them so you don't get future e-mails. There really is no feedback needed there.

Well, maybe she didn't know that she could block 'em... that's feedback!

It's actually nothing like racism. Matter of fact it is nowhere close. And you lot wonder why I exclude humans from my life?

guess i thought this was a place to talk and vent a little.

Good Luck Linda, you are a wonderful, loving Grandmother, and Im sure anyone would be blessed, and LUCKY, to have someone so special, including the kids.

The world needs more like you.

Let's face it...LOTS of people don't read profiles...it's the nature of the beast...

Rudeness is not acceptable for any reason.

But as I said before...I do not want to get involved with a man who has young children. I chose not to have or raise children when I was younger...why would I want to do it now? It is also NOT discriminatory to have this preference...but it does seem to hit a nerve with some Mothers...usually don't see single Fathers getting their panties in a twist about it. Just sayin'... No one owes anyone the consideration of a date based on certain criteria...get over it & move on...geez! Now I'm taking my cold-hearted (& sarcastic ) self out of this thread... Have a good day everyone!

This makes me wonder if people really read profiles or just respond to the person's picture.

You don't have to defend yourself! You were perfectly fine to post your concerns.

Well, if it's on your profile that you are raising your grandson, the men who don't want a child around need to not bother you at all with their snipes and needs. They need to press on and not contact you. It's not like you'd change the situation for THEM, total strangers!!
I'm 48 and still have a child at home. Nobody has ever said anything like that to me. I assume if they had a problem with a woman with kids, they've just been leaving me alone.

T....nothing wrong with that. I won't ever argue with someone's preference. I think the confusion in here is preference vs rudeness. it's not that I am saying they have no right to their preference....I'm saying the rudeness isn't acceptable