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bah.......fools are in love with the idea
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works for some
won't work for others depends on the people |
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bah.......fools are in love with the idea Only if in love with one. 
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I have heard that they do and even have known people that have claimed to fall in love without ever meeting. But how does it work? How can you trust and believe what they are saying? I have emailed and talked on the phone with men from different states that are claiming they are willing to relocate but after a phone call or a couple emails it seems to fizzle. I know unless they are friends how do you find the romance and the spark online? Tell me something good or bad about your cyber romance please. 
I don't refer to my relationship as cyber. To me, that implies never actually meeting in real life. But, without any doubt at all, I loved him before I met him. The trusting and believing is no different. You either believe them, and in them, or you don't. The distance you live from each other should have no bearing at all on your level of trust in the relationship, and of each other. |
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Auburngirl and Papersmile both stated it perfectly. You can't argue with that kind of logic.
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Auburngirl and Papersmile both stated it perfectly. You can't argue with that kind of logic. So what about what me and quiet said? What are we, chopped liver? arsekisser! haha |
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Edited by
auburngirl
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Sun 05/31/09 09:39 AM
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double post
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Auburngirl and Papersmile both stated it perfectly. You can't argue with that kind of logic. So what about what me and quiet said? What are we, chopped liver? arsekisser! haha 
That is awesome that it is working and the best of luck. I say cyber it is just my lingo. For me it is very hard to feel the connection online but maybe just haven't found the right fit yet. And what do you guys mean about the leper thread????? |
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I was wondering about the Lepers too
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Long distance romances absolutely can work, but boh of you have to want it to work!
I was involved with a man from New York for almost three years, and Im in Canada. WE go to know each other via the computer, phone, etc actually met after a few mths, and made trips back and forth as often as we could with both our prior responsibilities. I have a daughter which is why I couldnt move to his home immediately and he loved me and understood completely. IT WAS A FANTASTIC TIME FOR US AND EVEN THO IT EVENTUALLY DIDNT WORK (HAD VERY LITTLE TO DO WITH THE DISTANCE THING) i DONT REGRET A SECOND OF IT AND NEITHER DOE HE. hES A FANTASTIC MAN...AND WHAT THEY SAY IS TRUE, IF U LOVE SOMEONE, U WILL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO MAKE IT WORK. jUST MY TWO CENTS WORTH..LOL |
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Long distance romances absolutely can work, but boh of you have to want it to work! I was involved with a man from New York for almost three years, and Im in Canada. WE go to know each other via the computer, phone, etc actually met after a few mths, and made trips back and forth as often as we could with both our prior responsibilities. I have a daughter which is why I couldnt move to his home immediately and he loved me and understood completely. IT WAS A FANTASTIC TIME FOR US AND EVEN THO IT EVENTUALLY DIDNT WORK (HAD VERY LITTLE TO DO WITH THE DISTANCE THING) i DONT REGRET A SECOND OF IT AND NEITHER DOE HE. hES A FANTASTIC MAN...AND WHAT THEY SAY IS TRUE, IF U LOVE SOMEONE, U WILL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO MAKE IT WORK. jUST MY TWO CENTS WORTH..LOL Thanks for sharing that with us
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I have heard that they do and even have known people that have claimed to fall in love without ever meeting. But how does it work? How can you trust and believe what they are saying? I have emailed and talked on the phone with men from different states that are claiming they are willing to relocate but after a phone call or a couple emails it seems to fizzle. I know unless they are friends how do you find the romance and the spark online? Tell me something good or bad about your cyber romance please.
I don't refer to my relationship as cyber. To me, that implies never actually meeting in real life. But, without any doubt at all, I loved him before I met him. The trusting and believing is no different. You either believe them, and in them, or you don't. The distance you live from each other should have no bearing at all on your level of trust in the relationship, and of each other. Thanks for your positive input...it's easy to think you have lost your mind completely when you are attracted to someone you meet in a virtual setting before you meet them in person. The traditional "rules" seem to fly straight out the window. |
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They can only work in the short term, and even then the definition of working varies. I think they only work in the sense that people can remain happy in them for a short period. That's not to say it's a good relationship, in terms of who knows what the other person is doing while you're not there and all of that.
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Love is love...I would definately caution anyone to not jump in too quickly, its very easy for either of the people to just NOT contact you again if they decide to not be wih you any more, Take ur time, get to kno each other, trust me, if its real, if u have a genuine connection with the other person, its sooooooooooooo much better when u can say, I KNOWWW you, I know the kinf of person u r on the inside BEFORE you get to enjoy his physical body. Wayyyyy to many people talk on here and develope a friendship based solely on someones physical appearance,,, thats soooo wrong..beauty fades, beauty is trivial, and beauty does NOT sustain a real relationship. Get to know who he really is...and ur relationship will have a genuine real chance to grow.
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I dunno about only working in the short term. papersmile and I have been together a little over three years
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They can only work in the short term, and even then the definition of working varies. I think they only work in the sense that people can remain happy in them for a short period. That's not to say it's a good relationship, in terms of who knows what the other person is doing while you're not there and all of that. That is why trust is important. |
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As for not knowing what hes doing when u arent there..thats on YOU. You either choose to trust someone (whether they live next door to you or thousands of miles away)or you dont. I;ve found in life its much easier to trust until you have reason not to. Thats what I expect from my relationships certainly.
Mistrust is actually your problem, not his unless or until he does something to warrent ur mistrust, Until then, u have to trust him or u have absolutly no trust. Furthermore, a cheater is a cheater it doesnt matter how much u r able to keep an eye on him, if he wants fresh meat, hes gonna find it, whether u like next to him, with him or thousands of miles away. |
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As for not knowing what hes doing when u arent there..thats on YOU. You either choose to trust someone (whether they live next door to you or thousands of miles away)or you dont. I;ve found in life its much easier to trust until you have reason not to. Thats what I expect from my relationships certainly. Mistrust is actually your problem, not his unless or until he does something to warrent ur mistrust, Until then, u have to trust him or u have absolutly no trust. Furthermore, a cheater is a cheater it doesnt matter how much u r able to keep an eye on him, if he wants fresh meat, hes gonna find it, whether u like next to him, with him or thousands of miles away. Wow that is the truth, it is not only the long distance relationships it's also these dating sites, they are so addictive and in the real world you don't really know what a person is doing but on these sites people can see the last time you were on if you make a new friend etc. So I guess it is just a trust thing. No one has ever answered what the leper thread is..... 
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Love is love...I would definately caution anyone to not jump in too quickly, its very easy for either of the people to just NOT contact you again if they decide to not be wih you any more, Take ur time, get to kno each other, trust me, if its real, if u have a genuine connection with the other person, its sooooooooooooo much better when u can say, I KNOWWW you, I know the kinf of person u r on the inside BEFORE you get to enjoy his physical body. Wayyyyy to many people talk on here and develope a friendship based solely on someones physical appearance,,, thats soooo wrong..beauty fades, beauty is trivial, and beauty does NOT sustain a real relationship. Get to know who he really is...and ur relationship will have a genuine real chance to grow. |
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