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Topic: whats up with babies daddys nowadays?
Phuque2 Joined Thu 11/20/08 Posts: 4927	Fri 05/15/09 05:03 PM
Has this guy ever heard of birth control? you cant just put responsibility of birth control on the guy. like it was stated earlier it takes two to tango. I can when he's gotten TWO women pregnant neither of which he appeared to be very serious with until they GOT pregnant! Of course it is both the man and the woman's responsibility. I think we are talking about once there IS a pregnancy and a baby, that both step up to the plate. With that line of thinking, then he was an idiot two times and two condoms broke. yea, right

Mayhem_J Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 14265	Fri 05/15/09 05:03 PM
Im no baby daddy Thats not what i heard.

Lfer Joined Wed 12/17/08 Posts: 467	Fri 05/15/09 05:03 PM
Okay, WELL we already had a paternity test done at the hospital, but I was the one along with my mom who paid for it, even after that, he still refused to pay child support, the test came back positive for him.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Fri 05/15/09 05:05 PM
Has this guy ever heard of birth control? you cant just put responsibility of birth control on the guy. like it was stated earlier it takes two to tango. I can when he's gotten TWO women pregnant neither of which he appeared to be very serious with until they GOT pregnant! Of course it is both the man and the woman's responsibility. I think we are talking about once there IS a pregnancy and a baby, that both step up to the plate. With that line of thinking, then he was an idiot two times and two condoms broke. yea, right Well, she said he's gotten three girls pregnant. Either nobody in this town knows about birth control, OR, he ain't using it right!

Mayhem_J Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 14265	Fri 05/15/09 05:05 PM
Okay, WELL we already had a paternity test done at the hospital, but I was the one along with my mom who paid for it, even after that, he still refused to pay child support, the test came back positive for him. Court system...its there for a reason.

tomohawk Joined Thu 11/15/07 Posts: 359	Fri 05/15/09 05:05 PM
You had doubts about him but had sex with him,the condom broke but still you took no action to prevent a pregnancy.Sounds like your both irresponsible to me

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Fri 05/15/09 05:05 PM
I'm not banging on ya Lfer. I agree- we are responsible for our own actions. And the good lord knows I've been responsible for my own actions. But two wrongs and a whole bunch of more wrongs and two people continueing to do wrongs over bitterness, revenge, and silly pride does not make a "Right".

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Fri 05/15/09 05:06 PM
Okay, WELL we already had a paternity test done at the hospital, but I was the one along with my mom who paid for it, even after that, he still refused to pay child support, the test came back positive for him. All you have to do is file for child support and the will take it from his pay at work. You don't have to do nothing, but do whats right for your child and take care of her.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Fri 05/15/09 05:06 PM
For example, the father of my daughter left as soon as we both found out I was actually pregnant, because before hand I had my doubts, nonetheless. Now, hes back with his girlfriend that he got with immediately after breaking up with me and let me tell you all she is THE definition of white trash, well like my said, "trash deserves trash." but thats not the point. Now, there getting MARRIED in September, they have four months to plan a wedding, as he once even called? or even had the courtesy to even ASK how both "his" daughter and I were doing? I'm glad I was the only adult in that whole relationship. Because I love her more then my own life. And the kicker, I'm glad his name isn't on the birth certificate. But, fellas, if your going to get a girl pregnant, MAN UP and take the responsibility to help raise the child or the other alternative, adoption, but I don't have the courage to do so with my little girl, I'm way too attached now. Well... it could be worse, trust me. I've seen much worse. As long as she has your love, she'll be alright.

Lfer Joined Wed 12/17/08 Posts: 467	Fri 05/15/09 05:07 PM
You had doubts about him but had sex with him,the condom broke but still you took no action to prevent a pregnancy.Sounds like your both irresponsible to me Well if you knew how was back then. I was very care-less and irresponsible in every aspect in my life, especially with men. But birth control has become my best friend now. So I'm covered.

Mayhem_J Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 14265	Fri 05/15/09 05:08 PM
You had doubts about him but had sex with him,the condom broke but still you took no action to prevent a pregnancy.Sounds like your both irresponsible to me Well if you knew how was back then. I was very care-less and irresponsible in every aspect in my life, especially with men. But birth control has become my best friend now. So I'm covered. You speak like that was so long ago.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Fri 05/15/09 05:08 PM
Okay, WELL we already had a paternity test done at the hospital, but I was the one along with my mom who paid for it, even after that, he still refused to pay child support, the test came back positive for him. All you have to do is file for child support and the will take it from his pay at work. You don't have to do nothing, but do whats right for your child and take care of her. Yes, if paternity has been established they will garnish his wages. He will have no say about it. He can't refuse, or he'll go to jail. Won't be havin to worry about birth control THERE!

TJN Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 6745	Fri 05/15/09 05:08 PM
Okay, WELL we already had a paternity test done at the hospital, but I was the one along with my mom who paid for it, even after that, he still refused to pay child support, the test came back positive for him. All you have to do is go to court with the results of the test and they will order him to pay child support.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76433	Fri 05/15/09 05:08 PM
Okay, WELL we already had a paternity test done at the hospital, but I was the one along with my mom who paid for it, even after that, he still refused to pay child support, the test came back positive for him. Well if he refuses then you let the courts handle it they will get it one way or the other by tax returns ect the child support comes out of their checks they have no say so as long as they work they will pay. Get that done and move on without him in yours and the baby's life if he chooses to not be in the baby's life that will be his loss then. But worrying about what he is doing or how many kids he has or who he is going to marry will do no good. File for child support it is not up to him if he pays or not......

MAKE_ME_GIGGLE Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5376	Fri 05/15/09 05:09 PM
No, because he told me he wasn't going too pay child support. if he was on the birth certificate... he wouldnt have a choice

Lfer Joined Wed 12/17/08 Posts: 467	Fri 05/15/09 05:10 PM
You had doubts about him but had sex with him,the condom broke but still you took no action to prevent a pregnancy.Sounds like your both irresponsible to me Well if you knew how was back then. I was very care-less and irresponsible in every aspect in my life, especially with men. But birth control has become my best friend now. So I'm covered. You speak like that was so long ago. Too me it seems like it. Nonetheless I'm going to shut up and live my life with my daughter because I'm doing such a wonderful job. But all your opinions are more then welcome.

Phuque Joined Mon 11/17/08 Posts: 14151	Fri 05/15/09 05:10 PM
Condoms aren't the only form of birth control that those...now how many...THREE women...could have relied on... Sure there are a lot of dead beat Dads out there...but there's also a lot of women who don't take responsibilty for their actions & bodies... It's a two-way street people...so let's tell the whole story instead of pointing fingers at the one who's not here...BOTH were irresponsible.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Fri 05/15/09 05:11 PM
Condoms aren't the only form of birth control that those...now how many...THREE women...could have relied on... Sure there are a lot of dead beat Dads out there...but there's also a lot of women who don't take responsibilty for their actions & bodies... It's a two-way street people...so let's tell the whole story instead of pointing fingers at the one who's not here...BOTH were irresponsible. Exactly what we've tried to say

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Fri 05/15/09 05:12 PM
Oh, now joint responsibility is admitted. I give up. I don't trust a thing you say. Bye. Good luck. You will need it.

Mayhem_J Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 14265	Fri 05/15/09 05:12 PM
You had doubts about him but had sex with him,the condom broke but still you took no action to prevent a pregnancy.Sounds like your both irresponsible to me Well if you knew how was back then. I was very care-less and irresponsible in every aspect in my life, especially with men. But birth control has become my best friend now. So I'm covered. You speak like that was so long ago. Too me it seems like it. Nonetheless I'm going to shut up and live my life with my daughter because I'm doing such a wonderful job. But all your opinions are more then welcome. You still havent addressed the child support issue other than saying that he wont pay. Are you not going to file for child support? Do you still have hopes that if you dont he will come back? Whats up?