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When I was 21, I dated a lady with a young child. I was really into her and even thought of stepping up until the 'Baby's Daddy' came back into the picture. He need a place to stay and moved in with her. Basically, I was fine with it when she called it off. I left with a smile on my face thinking that a family was getting back together.
I saw her again 2 years ago at the grocery store and said hi. Now at six kids, assorted varieties. Yeah. I think Baby's Daddy is code for Loser. Additionally, when I was 23 I dated another single mother who had a 2 year old little girl who didnt see her dad because of his violence towards her mother. Our relationship really did'nt pan out but the kid and I had grown attached. I decided being a man meant stepping up and being a father for a deserving little girl even though she was'nt my own and I was'nt 'Doing' her mom. She's now 14 and I'm going to her Viola concert on Sunday  Moral of the story: Worth as a man is measured in raising kids, not how many babys he can make. If we leave we don't deserve the title of Father |
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When I was 21, I dated a lady with a young child. I was really into her and even thought of stepping up until the 'Baby's Daddy' came back into the picture. He need a place to stay and moved in with her. Basically, I was fine with it when she called it off. I left with a smile on my face thinking that a family was getting back together. I saw her again 2 years ago at the grocery store and said hi. Now at six kids, assorted varieties. Yeah. I think Baby's Daddy is code for Loser. Additionally, when I was 23 I dated another single mother who had a 2 year old little girl who didnt see her dad because of his violence towards her mother. Our relationship really did'nt pan out but the kid and I had grown attached. I decided being a man meant stepping up and being a father for a deserving little girl even though she was'nt my own and I was'nt 'Doing' her mom. She's now 14 and I'm going to her Viola concert on Sunday Moral of the story: Worth as a man is measured in raising kids, not how many babys he can make. If we leave we don't deserve the title of Father |
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Wow that is amazing... Like I stated... Any boy can be a father but it takes someone special to be a daddy... I honestly admire your wisdom, and good fortune... You and your 14-yr old daughters are the lucky ones, to be in each others lives. But mostly you, she must be an amazing young woman... My daughter is in the orchestra and she plays the viola as well I hope she keeps at it. Mine wanted to start playing at 7 and she's been encouraged to follow up on her interests the whole time. Good viola players are very rare since alot of the kids want to play the violin. Keep encouraging her  
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Wow that is amazing... Like I stated... Any boy can be a father but it takes someone special to be a daddy... I honestly admire your wisdom, and good fortune... You and your 14-yr old daughters are the lucky ones, to be in each others lives. But mostly you, she must be an amazing young woman... My daughter is in the orchestra and she plays the viola as well I hope she keeps at it. Mine wanted to start playing at 7 and she's been encouraged to follow up on her interests the whole time. Good viola players are very rare since alot of the kids want to play the violin. Keep encouraging her
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Wow reading through this thread people were very harsh. I am sure she understands and admits to her negligence.. but at the same time she is looking for support and understanding ... , But to sit here and point the finger at her, like she was to blame in all this, or had a shared responsibility is nothing but pure BS . . . Who is supporting her child, nourishing her, tucking her in at night, Who is emotionally and physically involved in babies life . . . Her mother (lfer) . . . She is doing what she has to for her daughter and I am quite sure she will travel around the world and back again . . . until you have walked a day in someone else’s shoes you should not judge nor cast the first stone... She was just probably venting out her frustration and I can agree 100% I was in the same situation.. I agree all men are not that way, but a handful is, so maybe that should have been rephrased... The best thing I can say is, you have two option’s either file with your local child support enforcement agency, or cut all ties, But I believe every child deserves a father in their life... But also remember any boy can be a father but it takes a special person to be a daddy.... I understand right now you are angry with him, but you just have to let all the hostility go for the sake of your daughter, if you chose to have him in her life or he chooses so, find a common ground, and call it a day..... |
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I have no intentions what so ever on getting back with him, EVER. I have dicussed filing for child support with a lot of people, and A LOT of people are telling me too, people in my family especially. I'm just really lost at what to do at this point to be honest. I don't think any of you realize I cry myself to sleep from thinking way to much. Its really all in my hands now, so, I'll let you know what I do, or I might not. Either you want financial help from him or not. You don't have to file unless you want to. Many single parents raise their children with out child support. It is your choice. If you decide to file though do it as soon as possible though. Not talking about tomorrow or anything but soon. Also I wouldn't be bashing him much at all. At one point you were thinking so highly of him to lay yourself out for his taking. He took what he wanted and you got pregnant. Even though upset with him now you need to respect him and his wants and wishes. So what he is getting married and have children with others. That is him and you have a child with him and your child has hald sisters/brothers roaming about too. Be humble and be kind. You two don't have to be best friends or anything but do respect each other for your own sakes and the children. |
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 maybe you should call 93.7 why are you so mad hot line
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I raised my ex's kids for 8 years, the little one tried to kill himself when she kicked me out and now she won't let me see them, so the door swings both ways, but the real question is do you swing both ways?
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