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I don't think its selfish at all. You make your own path, whether you want to include others that you care about solely depends on your own happiness. If family doesn't make you happy, then it's okay. To think, if you were in a life or death situation...are you being selfish if you try to save yourself instead of another? When it comes down to it, it really is every man for himself. No matter what a purported "self-less" person may say.
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Think of the family you created, ultimately, they will be destroyed as will you, what have you gained?
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hey-verve...I truly have a life full of beauty and abundance.I work with children everyday and search for a woman to be committed with.I was taken aback by Beauty's comment about being selfish.I feel i am completly opposite of that.Life is a journey and I find thoes who judge others..are really only judging themselves.I believe we all leave here and go home...but while we are here...seek love..honesty and treat others with compassion!
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Beauty...how can that be selfish.It would be selfish if i had a family and thought what I had just written in this thread.A little late for a man to decide how he feels about kids and marriage..when he gets her pregnant.I am just curious Beauty...what part exactly of what I wrote is selfish...this should be intresting? "Not because I don't like them...but because i understand what a responsibilty they are." Don't you have other responsibilies in life? Just sounds to me like they would tie you down from doing other things that YOU enjoy. I could be wrong...... |
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Beautyfrompain...I am waiting.You were quick to judge me...but not so quick to reply! |
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i liked being married. i like being single. would i marry again???? yes 
in Kansas??? Mornin Beauty 
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Great thread.I have chosen to not have kids in this lifetime.Not because I don't like them...but because i understand what a responsibilty they are..and I'm smart enough to know not to bring yet another unattended child into the world.Or just leave them with the mother to raise all by herself! I also don't know about marriage...everywhere i turn people are getting divorced..or if they're not..they are cheating.I would love to share a committed life with one special woman..without the government getting involved in our union. I respect marriages and families that thrive...I'm just saying...it is ok and normal to not want thoes things as well.It takes a secure and confident person to realize what they truly want for themselves...not what society dictates is the "NORM" & I totally agree Sal, thank you:)How can you jump into a relationship, Beauty... when you haven't discovered yourself? I think that's why people divorce all the time. You always discover things you were once too ignorant to realize, to learn from. When you join someone for life & they've learned from their mistakes & are emotionally & mentally stable, you can not join them when you are not. That connection won't be there. |
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very interesting... this was exactly what i wanted when i posted this thread: different points of view. its very interesting to read what everyone thinks; very enlightening
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i just wanna see yall get in a mud wrestling match
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Think of the family you created, ultimately, they will be destroyed as will you, what have you gained? |
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You are wrong.What's worse..a man who has kids and leaves them because he realizes it's not for him.Or someone like me who is man enough to understand his feelings and dosen't go around with unwanted kids!I work with children in schools everyday...I love them and try my best to mold their young minds.Just because people don't want kids..it does not make them selfish.I am not trying to argue with you..I am saying we are in a diverse world with many different opinions...respect them.Is the father of your child still around..are you married to him?
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hey-verve...I truly have a life full of beauty and abundance.I work with children everyday and search for a woman to be committed with.I was taken aback by Beauty's comment about being selfish.I feel i am completly opposite of that.Life is a journey and I find thoes who judge others..are really only judging themselves.I believe we all leave here and go home...but while we are here...seek love..honesty and treat others with compassion! We all leave here and go home? Exactly where is home? Is it the same for everyone? |
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i just wanna see yall get in a mud wrestling match
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YES..Black White ,right and wrong...we all go home.I see you are a Bible thumper..i understand all this now.Again Beauty..where is the father of your child!
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I tried it (marriage) twice with the wrong 2 guys & once before that with someone that wasn't ready to be a responsible mature adult (engagement only). 3 STRIKES & I'M OUT of the marriage game for good now. It's not something i need to have anymore. I think "marriage" is to build a family unit & i can't have anymore kids (tubes tied) & my sons are grown (19 & 21). I would however like to find a monogamous BF/GF relationship where we can enjoy time together (dating & sex), but yet have our own lives as individuals.
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i just wanna see yall get in a mud wrestling match
you are learning well.... 
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You are wrong.What's worse..a man who has kids and leaves them because he realizes it's not for him.Or someone like me who is man enough to understand his feelings and dosen't go around with unwanted kids!I work with children in schools everyday...I love them and try my best to mold their young minds.Just because people don't want kids..it does not make them selfish.I am not trying to argue with you..I am saying we are in a diverse world with many different opinions...respect them.Is the father of your child still around..are you married to him? |
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Beauty...how can that be selfish.It would be selfish if i had a family and thought what I had just written in this thread.A little late for a man to decide how he feels about kids and marriage..when he gets her pregnant.I am just curious Beauty...what part exactly of what I wrote is selfish...this should be intresting? "Not because I don't like them...but because i understand what a responsibilty they are." Don't you have other responsibilies in life? Just sounds to me like they would tie you down from doing other things that YOU enjoy. I could be wrong...... Love isn't everything. I despise when people believe that it's true. Tell it to the world around us. When you die will you feel? You die alone & with the love of others? Emotion isn't concrete. Some people know that they can not yet succumb to the emotional & financial responsibility of a child, not when one is barely "making it" on their own. Its not being selfish, its being realistic. |
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YES..Black White ,right and wrong...we all go home.I see you are a Bible thumper..i understand all this now.Again Beauty..where is the father of your child! |
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Doesn't the Bible say it is a sin to leave your marriage and family?
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