Topic: Is It Unreasonable?
metalwing's photo
Fri 05/01/09 03:44 PM

I would hope that we'd keep each other entertained enough that we wouldn't have time to mess around on dating sites.

However, I wouldn't expect or demand that he delete his accounts, but I would anticipate him editing his settings to indicate that he is in a relationship and that he wouldn't be involved in any private chatting with strange women.


I think this makes the most sense.

misstina2's photo
Fri 05/01/09 03:53 PM
flowerforyou your partners feeling should be taken into considerationflowerforyou perhaps putting pics up of the both people on profile would make the other person feel betterflowerforyou I feel like someone who is in a relationship should be spending more time with their partner than on a dating siteflowerforyou

dawnyhi's photo
Sun 05/03/09 09:07 AM
it is reasonable to expect a man to stay off these sites because some girls will show them their breasts although they know they are in a relationship...it is hard to trust a man that will still alow that

auburngirl's photo
Sun 05/03/09 10:32 AM
Nope. I don't think that is unreasonable at all. If it's a problem for one of you/them, then it's a problem for both.

PATSFAN's photo
Sun 05/03/09 10:49 AM

I read somewhere that nearly one third of all divorces in the US have the internet as one of the reason



I've seen that too

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 05/04/09 08:10 PM


I would hope that we'd keep each other entertained enough that we wouldn't have time to mess around on dating sites.

However, I wouldn't expect or demand that he delete his accounts, but I would anticipate him editing his settings to indicate that he is in a relationship and that he wouldn't be involved in any private chatting with strange women.


I think this makes the most sense.
:thumbsup:

no photo
Mon 05/04/09 11:00 PM
yes it is, it's not cheating until he cheats.

Jtevans's photo
Mon 05/04/09 11:06 PM
i'd just lock her in the basement smokin

no photo
Mon 05/04/09 11:24 PM

nope, definitely not unreasonable.
any friends they want to keep in touch w/ they'll prob already have contact info for anyway, so why keep comin back?


My sentiments exactly! This site was established for dating i.e. getting dates, and meeting people to date. Like metalhead said if you want to stay in contact get their private email address...

Puffins1958's photo
Mon 05/04/09 11:32 PM
It all depends...
My friend Slow...is married and I am sure his wife knows he's on this site. He states it right on his profile that he is married.

She obviously trusts him, otherwise I don't think he would want to still be here.


JMO

no photo
Tue 05/05/09 11:00 AM
Edited by KayaksJuliet on Tue 05/05/09 11:00 AM

I would stay. I have friends here and wouldn't want to forget about them, and I would never ask them (my SO) to leave. It is all about trusting the one you are with.

If I felt they were looking for more than friends, then there isn't a relationship and there is no trust.


I agree.flowers And of course making it clear on your home page that you are taken. Also if any of my friends on your list cannot respect your decision slaphead (old flames that are friends)then "poof" they are gone.noway It is about trust and luckily my sweetie and I have it.:thumbsup:

MirrorMirror's photo
Wed 05/06/09 05:56 PM

yes it is, it's not cheating until he cheats.
:thumbsup:

no photo
Wed 05/06/09 06:34 PM
its not unreasonable. Build trust. edit profile. post a couples pic. no private chats or e-mails.Partner must have access to account. have fun in the community.

ron62449's photo
Wed 05/06/09 07:02 PM
Why would I want to look at a picture, when I can have the real thing in my arms? One is all I want!

Ronflowerforyou

GG2's photo
Wed 05/06/09 07:06 PM

:heart: Is it unreasonable if you are in a monogamous relationship and practically living together, to expect your partner to quit using dating sites even if they claim all they are looking for is friendship but you feel otherwise?:heart:


If you're in a "monogamous" relationship yet your partner is surfing date sites then it prolly isn't "monogamous" is it? That's tacky and disrespectful.

Dro_In_Indio's photo
Wed 05/06/09 07:10 PM


:heart: Is it unreasonable if you are in a monogamous relationship and practically living together, to expect your partner to quit using dating sites even if they claim all they are looking for is friendship but you feel otherwise?:heart:


If you're in a "monogamous" relationship yet your partner is surfing date sites then it prolly isn't "monogamous" is it? That's tacky and disrespectful.


I have to agree... NOW... if you MET on that dating site and went back there from time to time TOGETHER to see what the old gang is doing (using Mingle as the example) that is ok... If ONE of them is doing it... no... not ok.

DrBogenbroom's photo
Wed 05/06/09 07:39 PM

:heart: Is it unreasonable if you are in a monogamous relationship and practically living together, to expect your partner to quit using dating sites even if they claim all they are looking for is friendship but you feel otherwise?:heart:


To me the issue isn't the dating site at all.

"...they claim all they are looking for is friendship but you feel otherwise?"

This sounds like a trust issue to me. Address the trust issue first. The dating site thing will resolve itself.

trymee's photo
Wed 05/06/09 08:07 PM


:heart: Is it unreasonable if you are in a monogamous relationship and practically living together, to expect your partner to quit using dating sites even if they claim all they are looking for is friendship but you feel otherwise?:heart:


If you're in a "monogamous" relationship yet your partner is surfing date sites then it prolly isn't "monogamous" is it? That's tacky and disrespectful.


True dat!!!

no photo
Wed 05/06/09 08:11 PM
That depends on the couple, individual...circumstances.

gigi_lea's photo
Wed 05/06/09 08:13 PM



:heart: Is it unreasonable if you are in a monogamous relationship and practically living together, to expect your partner to quit using dating sites even if they claim all they are looking for is friendship but you feel otherwise?:heart:


If you're in a "monogamous" relationship yet your partner is surfing date sites then it prolly isn't "monogamous" is it? That's tacky and disrespectful.


True dat!!!


agreed 150%