Is it unreasonable if you are in a monogamous relationship and practically living together, to expect your partner to quit using dating sites even if they claim all they are looking for is friendship but you feel otherwise?

No it's not unreasonable, but they are prolly addicted to them, my last relationship I was on here and others, even though I wasn't really looking and would never had cheated, it just keeps the thrill there even if you aren't going to use it, BUT, there are those people who aren't as honest as me, and say one thing but do another, so you will have to go with your gut on this one...but no it's not unreasonable, but are they going to stop, prolly not. Good LucK.

to me dating sites are for finding dates... ,,if there not maybe thats why i'm still single . ...

That is a hard question to answer. I would want them to becoz I prob would. Just seems that you are askin for trouble later on if you don't and if the people are truely your friends they would understand your delimma and respect it. You have to be committed to a certain degree or you shouldn't be in the relationship.

no that is not unreasonable. unless it's me in which case he needs to trust me!

No, it's not unreasonable to feel that s/he should; it's unreasonable to expect him/her to do it by knowing, telepathically, that you feel s/he should.

Okay, enough of the answer that you don't wanna hear... your partner and you should at least DISCUSS this; but, both of youse should be awares that brow-beating the other will only create resentment, that'll fester and brew until it blows up messily... sorta like the corn-mash I forgot about in the garage that one time...

Arlo

I read somewhere that nearly one third of all divorces in the US have the internet as one of the reason

I would stay. I have friends here and wouldn't want to forget about them, and I would never ask them (my SO) to leave. It is all about trusting the one you are with.

If I felt they were looking for more than friends, then there isn't a relationship and there is no trust.

I think I would just have to pull out my "mojo" bag of ideas, and get her into another adDICTion.

Not unreasonable. Would be a requirement with me I think. If we're in a committed relationship, we would have each other and local friends. We really wouldn't need to be browsing dating sites now would we? I would find it offensive to catch him checking out "local matches"--as if he is looking to see if he can get something better. If he still needs the dating sites, he doesn't need me.

It not unreasonable. More imporatant why care? If they don't delete the profile, Did you?

God, I really need to read the destructions to this place so I know how to do that qoute thing . Instead i will stick with the tried and true , cut and paste


would stay. I have friends here and wouldn't want to forget about them, and I would never ask them (my SO) to leave. It is all about trusting the one you are with.

If I felt they were looking for more than friends, then there isn't a relationship and there is no trust



My question is , would you be on here nearly as much though ?

I would hope that we'd keep each other entertained enough that we wouldn't have time to mess around on dating sites.

However, I wouldn't expect or demand that he delete his accounts, but I would anticipate him editing his settings to indicate that he is in a relationship and that he wouldn't be involved in any private chatting with strange women.

I don't think it would be unreasonable. But some clarification would need to be made on whether we were committed or not. Committed means no dating sites, uncommitted means dating sites are allowed still.

not at all... staying on these types of sites only distracts you from getting to know the person you want to be in a relationship with

nope, definitely not unreasonable.
any friends they want to keep in touch w/ they'll prob already have contact info for anyway, so why keep comin back?